kiki_7654 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I am SO confused and it's awful. My ex and i have been broken up for 6 months. We were great in the beginning of our relationship, but once i went away for school and we were long distance, so many issues came up and it just tore us apart and we'd fight over everything. By the time the summer came and i was back home, things were so messy and they just got progressively worse until he walked away. Plus he deals with severe anxiety and depression and can't cope with things well, so the relationship would make him really overwhelmed. Over the six months, i fought so hard for him and we'd still be in LC. I'd try NC, but i wasn't strong enough. Finally i made it a decent amount of time NC- but the thing is, every time i stop talking to him eventually he comes back telling me how much he misses me and how he still loves me and wants me in his life. I'll give in and be around him but nothing ever progresses. I'm so confused because currently, when we're around eachother, everything is so nice. We get along so well, we have so much fun, and we just click but i can tell he holds back a lot at the same time. When i bring up our future and what is going to happen, he starts panicking and becomes overwhelmed again. He tells me he's not ready for anything serious right now, that he just wants to keep things simple, he wants us to relax and just enjoy being around eachother and that he doesn't know what will happen for the future. He says he still loves me but he can't be in love right now, he's not ready for those feelings. I don't know what to do. I know that i want to be with him and work on things but he doesn't want to committ to me or agree to even work on things and as soon as i bring it up, he starts freaking out. It's a constant battle between wondering if i should walk away or if i should stick around and keep things simple and see if it leads to something more again. He always says he's afraid but he doesn't know of what. I know he's probably afraid that it will go back to the old relationship. But i just don't know what to do...i'm so lost and it hurts because i really want us back.
cookiecrumbles Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 As bad as it might sound, it sounds like his heart isnt really in it at the moment. Personally, I couldnt hang around and just wait like that. I would leave them and give them space, if its meant to be he will come back. I wouldnt fall for the miss you stuff, they need to show you not tell you.
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