Author PhillyDude Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 Ya - they do! She's rude and inconsiderate - any way you look at it - IF you keep letting her adjust your timeframe - she's getting a clear message that you're desperate enough to keep bowing down to her changes. He's training you to be a doormat... I'd cancel and tell her it's rude behavior. You aren't HER priority when she acts this way... Just being honest. Well i'm not going for anymore push backs. If i get a text saying can we make it 9pm I will just say "sure but u will have to come to my apt"
Author PhillyDude Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 If you don't enjoy socializing, don't set up/go on dates. This stinkin' thinkin' will get you a guaranteed viewing of the Chinese take away menu. She's running late. No reason needed. If she's on another date, she is. It's not your concern. Philly on a Friday 8:30 is early. Things are just getting going. Get going and see how it goes. If it goes well, it does. If it blows up, it does. Who knows, you might meet your future wife on the way. Just let go and enjoy yourself. Over and out. Well I will be leaving in 20 minutes so we will see. She is coming from the suburbs to downtown philly so maybe she is in traffic.
2sunny Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 She could have said what the delay was - but she didn't! A strong - self assured man simple says " maybe another time"
Author PhillyDude Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 Gonna get some popcorn and watch your show... But what would I have lost if I don't see her? I never left the house and no money was spent.
sid3 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Gonna get some popcorn and watch your show... I was saving mine for the post date show, might have to get some more.
Jane2011 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Two time shifts would be my limit (and even then, only if it were increments of 30 minutes, tops). If she pushes til 9, I wouldn't blame you for just ignoring her or saying "another time." It's not that I think she's doing anything wrong, and she may really mean well about meeting you and she may not be on another date at all (perhaps she's just one of those scattered, always-running-late people). But I get annoyed by people who are always running late and scattered. If my interest in a guy who did this was only average, I'd probably say "maybe another time," and then only go out with him again if he really kisses up and tries to make a next date more organized. But otherwise I'd just ignore him. If I had strong interest in some guy (which doesn't happen that often when it's OLD and it's pre-meeting), I might let him do a time shift up to three times and then say "what was the goddamn problem?" (lol) when we meet up. p.s. time shifts over the course of the week, when one is getting his/her schedule squared away...is understandable. But time shifts in the hours right up until the date, I'd find annoying.
carhill Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 You're meeting downtown and opportunities abound there. If she blows it up, gift
Author PhillyDude Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 ok I'm headed out the door If I get stood up then I will just buy a powerful dinner and come back and watch the game I scheduled the date at one of my favorite places:)
Author PhillyDude Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 Well I'm in route and she just called to tell me she is there So looks like I would be stood up.
carhill Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Hard to figure the last part except perhaps a typo. If she's there and called you, the only stand-up is if there's a comedian on stage. Enjoy your dinner
Author PhillyDude Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 just arrived home and she look just as GOOD as she did in her pictures. damm she is hot. We talked for two hours and rode the bus together. Before I got off the bus I hug her and gave her a kiss. Then has I'm putting the key in my door the bus was still there because of the red light and when I turned around she was still looking at me and we waved bye Then I sent her a text saying i enjoyed myself a minute later and she responded BTW: She was going to actually pay for my food and I was like.........NOQQQQQQQQQQQQQQQQQQQQQQ-LOL i can buy my own food. Will defintely try to see her again soon.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 Hard to figure the last part except perhaps a typo. If she's there and called you, the only stand-up is if there's a comedian on stage. Enjoy your dinner I meant to say I won't be stood up, it was a typo-lol
Author PhillyDude Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 See how it works I can't believe she was going to catch the subway home by herself at night. I was like......."Oh no I have another way for you to get home with is a lot SAFER and takes you to the same place" I thought she drove and was prepared to walk her to her car-lol
oaks Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 just arrived home and she look just as GOOD as she did in her pictures. damm she is hot. We talked for two hours and rode the bus together. Before I got off the bus I hug her and gave her a kiss. I'm glad it worked out and that she wasn't a man.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 I'm glad it worked out and that she wasn't a man. I forgot she wore glasses and was sitting looking like a HOT school teacher when i walked in:)
Author PhillyDude Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 So have you called to set up another date yet? No probably Monday have another date tonight and tomorrow
oaks Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 No probably Monday have another date tonight and tomorrow Well, don't leave it too long or she'll think you're not interested! Good luck with your other dates.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 Well, don't leave it too long or she'll think you're not interested! Good luck with your other dates. Well she can't think I'm not interested if i kissed her before I got off the bus and text her 2 mins later saying I enjoyed myself. She is similar to someone i went out with last summer..."attractive and shy" which means it will be up to me to set up the dates make the first move invite her to my place ask to come to her place give suggestions on dinner ideas Last summer I was too shy to do any of that which is why it didn't lead to a relationship
oaks Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Well she can't think I'm not interested if i kissed her before I got off the bus and text her 2 mins later saying I enjoyed myself. You'd be surprised. Surely you've been on this site long enough to have seen posts along the lines of "I went on a date with him 2 days ago and apart from the kiss at the end of the date and a text straight afterwards I haven't had any sign of his interest. Should I move on already?"
dispatch3d Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 My point is, you seem to believe that the women here are treating him unfairly, but would you go out with a woman who had his attitude? If you wouldn't, then why tell him to continue with what he's doing? You're not exactly doing him a service this way, right? The women have no idea he's this much of a douche this early on. And honestly their behaviour isn't far outside women behaviour for 99% of guys. I don't think I really told him anything, besides the girls being standoffish is his own fault.
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