georgiacarter Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I have never wrote on any site like this before but i personally feel I need a fresh mind to help me feel slightly normal.......So i have been with someone for a couple months now and its going awesome however i stupidly went on the internet history on his phone and found alot of porn sites...... I dont really mind porn and its never been something ive thought about but it made me feel really bad about myself. I didnt say anything to him because i know its my own fault i feel this way (its hardly a crime) however i just wanted some tips how to make myself feel better and not become an insane jealous ****head like i have been in past relationships. Not to blow my own trumpet but i have a bangin' body so why does he feel the need to go on the sites??
Author georgiacarter Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 Guess your right about that, maybe i should just shut up and join in the porn hype!
Feelin Frisky Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Hi georgia, I'm coming up on membership here for two years. Yours has been a frequent topic here on LS as women have been discovering an audit trail of their partner's porn and taking it personally as an indication of inadequacy. The issue as I see it is that the instant availability through porn has created a real need for some kind of new sensitivity and sensibility to this. Years ago most guys would not want to be "one of those" sad jerks seen at the porn shop. Now now one has to be seen and the weirdo is just about anyone. What it comes down to is that everyone has a fantasy world and they are entitled to it. It is just very disturbing to tell your spouse your fantasies that don't center on her. Men should view leaving evidence of porn use as inconsiderate to their partner because it is taken as an insult and a personal affront. But men and women do have fantasies and they are a healthy thing and I don't think we should expect our fantasies to have a muzzle on where they go--they should just remain 100% personal and inside the mind so that real actions toward each other are the only thing that establishes our perceptions of loyalty and value. This is truly a "don't ask, don't tell" thing and a guy should not be callous about evidence while his wife or girl should not be snoopy. You can't undo the feeling you have so it's up to you to either confront him about being sloppy in leaving stuff around or stop prying. It's no automatic implication that you're not adequate. It's just that he is very sexually alive at least in his mind.
somedude81 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I'm amazed that women just don't know and accept that 95% of men will and do look at porn.
Author georgiacarter Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 I'm amazed that women just don't know and accept that 95% of men will and do look at porn. Im all for it dude dont even know why it affected me......
somedude81 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Im all for it dude dont even know why it affected me...... For some reason, I think porn activates an irrational jealousy section in their mind. It may also activate feelings of being cheated on as well. It's obviously not logical to be threatened by women on a screen, but it still happens. 1
Professor X Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I have never wrote on any site like this before but i personally feel I need a fresh mind to help me feel slightly normal.......So i have been with someone for a couple months now and its going awesome however i stupidly went on the internet history on his phone and found alot of porn sites...... I dont really mind porn and its never been something ive thought about but it made me feel really bad about myself. I didnt say anything to him because i know its my own fault i feel this way (its hardly a crime) however i just wanted some tips how to make myself feel better and not become an insane jealous ****head like i have been in past relationships. Not to blow my own trumpet but i have a bangin' body so why does he feel the need to go on the sites?? Are you having sex now? How often? If you are and you feel you are having enough, you can always ask him to watching together.
Motor35 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 (random hijacking) i am a woman and i LOVE watching porn with my man! i love watching it alone and give my guy videos regularly....
Miko Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Honest answer, it's a lot less work than having sex with you. Not that you're not worth it but sometimes we just want to skip all the hard work and get to the finish line. 2
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Guess your right about that, maybe i should just shut up and join in the porn hype! Welcome to the porn craze !!! PS - somebody on another thread pointed out that "Facebook doesn't 'do'... anything". I observed that internet porn doesn't do anything either. (now if they're spending twelve bucks on Hustler these days, and $6 of it is yours, well then, hey, I draw the line at that) Although, admittedly, "Hustler"... doesn't do... anything.
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