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Why Expectations About Love Ruin Relationships


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Does anyone else wonder if we merely perceive love differently nowadays and thus have changed its definition based on our expectations?

 

Let me give an example:

 

Whether or not you believe in "the one" affects your relationships big time.

 

If you believe someone is the one you'll do whatever it takes to make it work because they are "the one and only"

 

But if you don't believe in the one, if you just believe that love is making something work over time, then individual people aren't really that special. Sure you can feel something for some and nothing for others, but that ultimately won't majorly affect your decisions

 

Do you believe in love as in an "all or nothing" "the one" kind of deal?

 

Or do you just compare your relationships to how the previous ones went.

 

I'm very wary of ever mentioning love or being in love -- I feel like hollywood and love poems have really screwed up reality for us, including our relationships.

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