Alessandro Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Quick intro: I'm 25 and have dated a lot of girls but never really been knocked on my ass by one. I just moved back into this country but I was originally planning on staying for a year-- and then moving back out of the country for several years. It's for my own personal development, psychologically, spiritually, and even financially (to get my business going). I'm one of those guys that you never see in a bad mood, I just don't have them. But when I moved back into this country I had almost no friends, was unemployed, etc. and really having a horrible time. I told myself I was definitely moving back out. And now it's about 4 months before I go back, and I met a girl I've been dating for 3 months who really knocked me off my ass. It scared me how quickly it has progressed and developed.. it feels perfect for both of us and i'm crazy affectionate all of the sudden. Here's the issue: she knows I'm leaving and she prepared herself emotionally for months... literally she was crazy about me at the start, and in the middle she got cold out of fear and would just lie on my chest and cry about me leaving. And now she promised she's going to do whatever it takes to enjoy our time. So here's my question: Is staying even an option anymore? I mean I already broke her heart by leaving (even though I haven't left). Staying would totally mess her up and I feel like it would ruin us. And for you: Would you move/stay somewhere because of a person? I'm at the age where if I date her we're either going to get married or have one of those horrible breakups. What would you choose?
veggirl Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 That's a toughie. At 3 mos, I think the emotional breakdowns and stuff over you leaving are a bit over the top and I wonder if this is one of those burns hot and heavy real fast and then fizzles out as quickly? You're 25, prime of your life...I think you should still go. If you were older, I'd say maybe stay but right now, I'd go.
LifesBeachy Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Personally, I would definitely move to be with someone. Life's to short to pass up love. If you can afford, take her with you? If not and she really truly wants it to work, she can move and find a career there.
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