EXTREME sexual tension with my manager!! !

[Nightsky]

honestly working in a restaurant is like being part of a legal mafia.. things are always happening behind closed doors and if you pay close enough attn you might be able to catch a part of the action.

 

if he proposed sex to me i would not be able to turn it down, but ill be damned if i make the first move. we shall see.. I work with him tonight!

 

No being in law enforcement is like being in the legal mafia. Working in a restaurant is something else... although a restaurant is a good front for money laundering.

 

Just say that comment about not being able to turn him down for what ever he wanted from you and you'll put much fuel on his fire. Good luck Fing your life tonight.

[pteromom]

If you REALLY just wanted sex with him, I'd say go ahead and have sex with him. Who cares - his girlfriend is the one that has to deal with him.

 

But you keep saying things like "where would we go" and "room for growth" and "would he leave his girlfriend". So it is obvious you want more than sex.

 

This guy is a cheater. A very hot, steamy, intoxicating cheater, sure, but still a cheater. You do NOT want to get into a relationship with him. You'll be the crazy girl trying to get his attention, and he'll be in the back making out with the next employee. TRUST ME on that!

 

So no... I would not sleep with him. Because if it is good, that's gonna draw you in closer to him, and next thing you know, you are looking at his phone trying to figure out which girl's number is which.

 

I would take it a step further and look for another job. You don't need to subject yourself to this...

[stillafool]

No, i have no kids and am single. im 24 and hes 31.

 

I just want to know if this seems like a normal situation, or if there is any possibility for growth with the 2 of us seen how he interacts with his gf and how he interacts with me. I cant tell if he actually likes me or just wants sex. I dont know how to tell the difference.

 

 

See what I'm talking about? At first you didn't want anything but sex from this guy. Now a few posts later you are wondering if he "actually likes me or just wants sex." See how fast it progresses? After you have sex with him you will be a mess and NO, this isn't a normal situation you're in.

[kaylan]

Wow...hes your boss and he has a girlfriend.

 

You want to be a home wrecker and possibly screw up your work situation.

 

Be smart woman.

[Professor X]

You people actually pushing her to do it? She's obviously retarded, wanting a guy who has no problem whatsoever cheating on his GF of 7 years (?!?!!?).

 

-1 for LS for helping her hurt some poor girl.

 

Also, I bet this is a troll poster. FML...

[kaylan]

^Agree.

 

And personally Id never date a woman whos engaged in an affair. Doesnt matter if shes the single one or not. It shows a lack of respect and character. So be forewarned OP...many guys will look at you as a skank if they ever find out about this...and they wont want you as a girlfriend.

[Almond_Joy]

FML, I'm sure there are plenty of hot guys who are SINGLE and will be happy to help you with your sexual frustration.

 

The condition of his relationship with his current gf is not your business....meaning just because he's unhappy or they seem incompatible doesn't justify him cheating.

 

Also, you'll be burning any professional bridge or experience this job has to offer you if you go through with this and it gets out of control/turns sour.

 

Good luck.

[Raya1234]

I know his type. To a T. Stay the **** away from him, trust me.

Here are the facts:

 

1. He is Italian. Latin. Cheating is so much more acceptable and expected in his culture.

 

2. His gf seems unfriendly because she puts up with reason 1.

 

3. You are being selfish.

 

What could would possibly come of this, but your own sexual satisfaction at the expense of someone else?

[Febreze]

Ok, so I have been needing some advice on this issue and obviously can't talk to anyone about it at work.

 

I should preface this with the fact that I lived in Italy for 3 years and speak fluent italian with my italian co-workers and managers. I work in an Italian restaurant and since the first day I began working there my manager (who is Italian, from Italy) has been giving me compliments and telling me how attractive he thinks I am.

 

For the first couple of weeks it was just kind of a flirtatious joke and I didn't really pay much attention to it, but as he continued to compliment me (our conversations are all in Italian) I kind of began to think he was actually interested in me.

 

One night after work all of the managers stayed after to eat dinner and drink a couple of bottles of wine. We ended up staying in the restaurant until about 130am. As I was getting ready to leave, my manager told me he'd walk me out the service exit. As soon as we walked out the door into the service exit hall, he pushed me up against the wall and passionately made out with me.

 

Since that night, there has been extreme sexual tension between both of us. I must mention that he has a girlfriend who he has been with for the past 7 years and lives with. the KICKER however is that the other night this girlfriend showed up in the restaurant unexpected after work, and my manager was NOT happy. She was drunk and celebrating her birthday and he just kind of didn't really interact with her at all. SHe came in during another one of these post-closing dinners and we had all been drinking a fair amount. So instead of him completely ignoring me and going for his girlfriend, he did the exact OPPOSITE! He asked me to come into the back office with him while he did his closing procedures, and he was super touchy feely.

 

Now I have a little crush on him and I want nothing more than to just have amazing sex.. But I wonder how seriously should I take his relationship with his girlfriend? It's obvious that he's into me every time i am in the restaurant he gives me a lot of attention and is very suggestive with me. and I met his girlfriend who is really not very friendly, kind of stupid, and unimpressive. and does NOT speak italian at all.

 

Any advice? Should I continue dreaming about this man or do I have to let it go? he is NOT married and they do NOT have children together.

 

PLEASE HELP! thanks!!

 

OMG I know about that sexual tension stuff, mm-mm LOL. Just the other day at work I got to hugging with this cute young resident in the hallway on my break. He rubbed my back and sniffed around my neck area. I was so excited! but he's a flirt in general so I'm on the fence about him.