JRock8732 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I have a hard time making friends, I feel like I hate people. When I try to approach people for friendship I always come off as weird and unwanted...I'm always the weird guy. I turn 20 in a few days and I should be happy but I'm not. I try to appear happy at school and work but when I'm home I'm depressed, I cry alot for a guy. I had depression 2 years ago because my ex dumped me. I get these feelings of wanting to kill myself, I want to do it with a gun or get into a really bad accident on the highway...I need help...I don't have anyone to talk to...my mom she always tells me that I'm an adult and i need to deal with my problems but its not that simple. My dad is almost never home so I don't talk to him much....I almost ran away from home last month...I have a car and I'm fortunate that i have a job but i just want someone to hang out with or even a girlfriend, i just want companionship...is that too much to ask for
oldguy Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 When it gets to the point where you even think ending your life is a reasonable option you really should seek counselling. If you live in the U.S. Please write this number down; 1-800-273-8255 it's the National Suicide Hot Line & there are people who you will need to talk to. Some suggestion are to get involved with groups or join organisations where there are people who share your interests, hobbies & passions. This is a great way to meet people you share common interests with. Volunteering can also help. Joining a gym or Dojo is great as physical activity will help thwart depression.It is important however that these are real world organizations, not on line. It's important to get face to face time outside of your home. Depression make motivating difficult so it is helpful if someone in the group of your choosing to hold you accountable or depend on you. Car pooling to & from the meetings or events can work well for this. Do it today
Philosoraptor Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Have you considered therapy? A good therapist can help with many of these issues. If you want to make friends then you need to do so. I'd suggest finding groups or clubs in your area that revolve around something you are interested in. That way you know you will have something in common with the other people there.
oldguy Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Have you considered therapy? A good therapist can help with many of these issues. If you want to make friends then you need to do so. I'd suggest finding groups or clubs in your area that revolve around something you are interested in. That way you know you will have something in common with the other people there. Are you stalking me? :laugh:
Author JRock8732 Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 When it gets to the point where you even think ending your life is a reasonable option you really should seek counselling. If you live in the U.S. Please write this number down; 1-800-273-8255 it's the National Suicide Hot Line & there are people who you will need to talk to. Some suggestion are to get involved with groups or join organisations where there are people who share your interests, hobbies & passions. This is a great way to meet people you share common interests with. Volunteering can also help. Joining a gym or Dojo is great as physical activity will help thwart depression.It is important however that these are real world organizations, not on line. It's important to get face to face time outside of your home. Depression make motivating difficult so it is helpful if someone in the group of your choosing to hold you accountable or depend on you. Car pooling to & from the meetings or events can work well for this. Do it today I had therapy once, and apparently the guy was gay, I didn't know until after the therapy was done. Therapy wasn't that great, it was only to listen to my problems...he didn't really help me out much. I don't know where to volunteer, I roller skate as a hobby and like cars, I'm beginning to collect toy models of them. I used to volunteer at an animal shelter and it was great, until I started college. I recently went back and it isn't as great as it used to be. I used to go to this church that was fun, I'm trying to find a proper time to go to a certain event, it's only on tuesdays. But Church is filled with fake people everywhere you turn, so I'm just going to have fun and possibly make a friend... I actually have a few friends but I rarely if ever get invited out..
Author JRock8732 Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 Have you considered therapy? A good therapist can help with many of these issues. If you want to make friends then you need to do so. I'd suggest finding groups or clubs in your area that revolve around something you are interested in. That way you know you will have something in common with the other people there. I try to make friends, but its like everyone is busy or they don't fit around my schedule...I don't wanna be a annoying so I'm kind of afraid of asking the same classroom friends to hang out. I can talk comfortably at school/work, but every now and then i have trouble finding what to say. I wanted to approach this girl in my class to hang out after class but I was kinda shy about it and I wasn't in that great of a mood. The last girl i approached told me she had a bf within seconds of the conversation...
Philosoraptor Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Are you stalking me? :laugh: Yes, but I'm apparantly not very good at it if I got caught. I try to make friends, but its like everyone is busy or they don't fit around my schedule...I don't wanna be a annoying so I'm kind of afraid of asking the same classroom friends to hang out. I can talk comfortably at school/work, but every now and then i have trouble finding what to say. I wanted to approach this girl in my class to hang out after class but I was kinda shy about it and I wasn't in that great of a mood. The last girl i approached told me she had a bf within seconds of the conversation... Well most gals will assume you are asking for a date. Sometimes it is hard to schedule things, but walking back from class is an easy time just to hop into conversation.
Author JRock8732 Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 Yes, but I'm apparantly not very good at it if I got caught. Well most gals will assume you are asking for a date. Sometimes it is hard to schedule things, but walking back from class is an easy time just to hop into conversation. True. I asked this one girl at work to hang out at lunch one on one and she seemed happy about it, cause she kept coming to me to ask to hang out at lunch, it felt weird lol. But I'm trying to make guy friends too so i ask them to hang out (no homo etc.) I guess I have to keep at it until I hit gold
Philosoraptor Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 True. I asked this one girl at work to hang out at lunch one on one and she seemed happy about it, cause she kept coming to me to ask to hang out at lunch, it felt weird lol. But I'm trying to make guy friends too so i ask them to hang out (no homo etc.) I guess I have to keep at it until I hit gold It takes time. I was much more shy in my youth but you just need to push yourself a bit knowing that if you don't make a friendship, it truly doesn't matter. The worst you can do is look like an idiot, and you can laugh that off. I try to embarass myself in public at least once a day. It gives everyone a laugh an it doesn't bother me because in the long run it just doesn't matter.
RobotNano Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Your not alone, myself when I was your age, I was feeling the same. The older you get, you will accept being alone, or find something more sociable, like hobbies (RC planes, helis), clubs, sports or what ever find a buddy and you will never know what you will come across for a mate. Myself as a man, I find more men alone, and more woman being friends together like crazy. You will never see two guys hug each other..."OMG Joe!..how you doing!?" after they haven't seen each other for a month. But woman you will see it.
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