nick d Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Day 9 of NC. I was somewhat starting to do better then some at work had to knock me back down. Telling me my ex is already dating someone new and that they have already had sex.. She was my best friend, my everything for so very long. And trust me when I say I will NEVER do better than her. She is seriously amazingly gorgeous and can have any guy she wants. Just feel so low and sick right now. Nothing seems to even matter to me now. I really am trying so hard to be positive. I just can't stop thinking of the amazing girl I have lost.
minee Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 she's not that amazing if she hurt you. Sometimes, when we break up with our bf/f we tend to put them on a pedastal and glamorize the life we had with them. But if it were actually all that great, there wouldn't have been a break to begin with. Hang in there, you deserve better. 4
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 If she was amazing, she would be with you right now. Trust me, it will get better; it is still very fresh and the wound hasn't had time to heal. Don't worry about what others are saying; maybe it's just assumptions, but these well meaning people do us no service by saying things like that. You will heal and you will find better. 1
budley12 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Day 9 of NC. I was somewhat starting to do better then some at work had to knock me back down. Telling me my ex is already dating someone new and that they have already had sex.. She was my best friend, my everything for so very long. And trust me when I say I will NEVER do better than her. She is seriously amazingly gorgeous and can have any guy she wants. Just feel so low and sick right now. Nothing seems to even matter to me now. I really am trying so hard to be positive. I just can't stop thinking of the amazing girl I have lost. I hear you when you say we will never find better. I feel the same way. Then again if most of us feel that way about our ex's maybe there truly is someone else out there? When I found out my ex was seeing someone new I saw him walking back from another dorm room in the morning wearing sweat pants when I went to class. I pretended not to see him and I was crying hysterically. Sometimes its better just not knowing even when we want to know as much as we can. I went through the phase of asking all of our mutual friends "what is going on with my ex and ____". I was obssessed with finding out info and whether I still had a chance. This actually hurt me and pushed him away further because i got too many people involved
Chi townD Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 She was my best friend, my everything for so very long. And trust me when I say I will NEVER do better than her. I said the VERY SAME THING....then I met my wife. I'm so glad I was wrong. Hang in there! Trust me. There's someone out there for you. You just haven't met her yet.
rootless Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 There's only one of her. That's true, and unalterable. She'll always hold a special place in your heart. But there's six billion people on the planet. Six BILLION. With a "b". So even if we remove all the attributes that make you an amazing guy, and just leave fate to cold, impersonal math, the chances of you NOT finding anyone else are incredibly, incredibly bad. Sorry dude, but you can't fight the law of large numbers. There's literally *thousands* of women who want to love you. Deal with it. And they're not reluctant. They're not unsure. They're not uncertain how they feel about you. They WANT you. They just don't know it yet, because you took a little detour with this other girl and they haven't had an opportunity to meet you. It's cliche, but it's the truth. Once you get back on your feet, you'll find the right one. The odds are overwhelmingly stacked in your favor. 1
rootless Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Oh yeah-- out of those thousands, hundreds are going to be HOT. Hot women are into you, buddy. It's your cross to bear. Just accept it. 1
CaliBabe Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 This tells me you have low self esteem which you should try to work on. My ex was also AMAZING. BUT. I am too! And with that being said, I know I will find happiness again. You just have to continue to work on yourself and make sure you are putting yourself on that pedestal. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 This tells me you have low self esteem which you should try to work on. My ex was also AMAZING. BUT. I am too! And with that being said, I know I will find happiness again. You just have to continue to work on yourself and make sure you are putting yourself on that pedestal. Calibabe has the right attitude. You may think of your ex as wonderful, but SO ARE YOU==now go with that:)
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