How to not let people mistaken confidence as arrogance?

[exoduse22]

I believe I have low self-esteem because of this thought...

[denise_xo]

Can you expand a bit?

[oldguy]

Well the canned answer is you back it up or you just do it without talking about it but I have a feeling that's not what your talking about exactly. Your afraid to excel because you believe people will perceive you as arrogant? Or am I off the mark there too?

http://www.theladders.com/career-advice/10-ways-tell-confident-arrogant

Edited March 15, 2012 by oldguy

[exoduse22]

An example is when a person walks with confidence. Some people may find that person arrogant for doing so.

When someone talks with confidence some people finds that person arrogant even though he is just trying to be friendly.

[exoduse22]

Well the canned answer is you back it up or you just do it without talking about it but I have a feeling that's not what your talking about exactly. Your afraid to excel because you believe people will perceive you as arrogant? Or am I off the mark there too?

10 Ways to Tell if You're Confident – or Arrogant

Yeah. Exactly how I am feeling right now.. I fear excelling because of how people can perceive me as arrogant.. been years now and I really feel this is affecting my life.

[oldguy]

If you where truly arrogant you wouldn't care so the problem comes down to your perception of others rather than their perception of you.

So fear is what is holding you back, but fear of what people think of you, not so much the arrogance. Why?

 

"Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate but that we are powerful beyond measure, it's not our darkness but our light that frightens us" - Mary Ann Williamson

 

This tread discusses body language that may help negate or soften your perception of appearing arrogant to others; http://www.crackingconfidence.co.uk/10-top-tips-for-becoming-super-confident-without-becoming-arrogant.html

Edited March 15, 2012 by oldguy

[exoduse22]

If you where truly arrogant you wouldn't care so the problem comes down to your perception of others rather than their perception of you.

So fear is what is holding you back, but fear of what people think of you, not so much the arrogance. Why?

 

"Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate but that we are powerful beyond measure, it's not our darkness but our light that frightens us" - Mary Ann Williamson

 

This tread discusses body language that may help negate or soften your perception of appearing arrogant to others; 10 Top Tips for Being Super-Confident - Confidence Without Arrogance

 

Thank you! The site was very helpful.