ThaWholigan Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I remember a conversation I was having with a girl I was friends with (but wanted to date secretly ). We were talking about guys being put into groups of 5: 1 = Husband material, 2 = Boo (hot boyfriend), 3 = Provider, 4 = Booty Call Bro 5 = Mr Bugaboo (wasteman) There was a facebook group dedicated to it set up by girls, and I posted my picture up along with other dudes to get a rating. I didn't take it too seriously at first, and I got a couple 5s which drew some laughs. But I got lot's of 2 and 4 mostly (pic in my avatar was the one I posted). I was like "Hah, that's what I'm talking about". I was mad pleased with myself, talking to everyone I knew about it, including her. But she busted my bubble almost immediately. Her: "Errmm, I think you're more of a 1 or a 3" Me: "Lol seen, interesting.....what makes you say that?" Her: "If I wanted my back blown out I wouldn't call you, I'd be your first, I wouldn't be good for it.....I'd call a 4" Me: "Loool seen" That hurt my pride a little. I didn't know if she was complimenting me or insulting me. Bare in mind this was like 4 years ago or something..... Someone brought up the topic of Boyfriend material and it just brought back that conversation. Now I was thinking: Is this really a compliment or a thinly-veiled insult at ones ability to be a man who women think is sexy?
Author ThaWholigan Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 There are two types of women that see you as boyfriend/husband material. The bad type is the type that delays sex for you and ultimately discourages your advances. The good type are the ones who dig you, but are also confident enough to have fun with you. These are the ones you need to look for. This is my understanding of it also, that there is obviously a massive grey area in this regard. It's probably a compatibility thing, or.......a "chemistry" issue ..... Anyway, I'm not that fussed about the delaying, I've come this far.......
JesseJames Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I think in that instance she was saying that you are the whole package. Where's the whole package category?
Nightsky Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 When did this all happen... why not openly want to date her instead of secretly? Don't take this stuff to seriously. Avoid posting your picture up and asking for opinions.
Star Gazer Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 How can someone determine that you're husband material from a photograph? 1
kaylan Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Theres no reason a guy cant exist in more than one of those categories. Guys put girls into categories too. What we all need to realize is people are complex. 2
Author ThaWholigan Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 When did this all happen... why not openly want to date her instead of secretly? Don't take this stuff to seriously. Avoid posting your picture up and asking for opinions. I was afraid, I was a fragile 20 year old , I honestly didn't know what would happen if I made a move and I was almost deathly afraid of her at this point. This was in 2008, about 7 months before 2nd autism diagnosis. I still do post my pic up every now and then, but it could perhaps be because I have fluctuating feelings about my appearance and honestly have no gauge on my attractiveness at times. I think in that instance she was saying that you are the whole package. Where's the whole package category? There is no whole package category.......and trust me, she was not implying that at the time .
joystickd Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 You forgot one. Side piece you know the person you have sex with while you are with someone else
Author ThaWholigan Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 How can someone determine that you're husband material from a photograph? It was a silly facebook group, it didn't make a great deal of sense other than girls rating guys pics and guys wanting to feel validated as to how they looked Theres no reason a guy cant exist in more than one of those categories. Guys put girls into categories too. What we all need to realize is people are complex. I tend to agree completely. I thought more along the lines of whether that category was actually a good thing or not, and in this instance I don't think it was.
grkBoy Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Is this really a compliment or a thinly-veiled insult at ones ability to be a man who women think is sexy? It's both. It's a compliment in that when she's "ready to settle down" she hopes you or someone like you will be waiting. However, it's an insult in that she doesn't see you as ideal right now. Perhaps she wants some jerk or challenge to play with.
zengirl Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 If I thought some was BF material or H-material when dating, it was always a good thing. Granted, I don't know the gal in question. What is the distinction between H-material and provider on that list?
Author ThaWholigan Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 It's both. It's a compliment in that when she's "ready to settle down" she hopes you or someone like you will be waiting. However, it's an insult in that she doesn't see you as ideal right now. Perhaps she wants some jerk or challenge to play with. That's how I took it. I sabotaged myself though by acting like a drip at times. I wanted to be the challenge, but I was afraid . What's a wasteman? Wasteman = a lame guy on all counts. It really means a guy who does nothing with his life and is an ass, but it's used extensively as an insult. If I thought some was BF material or H-material when dating, it was always a good thing. Granted, I don't know the gal in question. What is the distinction between H-material and provider on that list? I'm guessing provider is the guy who takes them out and spends money on them, but there isn't the same attraction as there is to the others. Girl in question is a complex character
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