HollyBolly Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Wondering if it's okay to break NC if they owe you money. My ex still owes me about $1,900. Is it all right to email her asking for it? We broke up a little over a month ago and I broke NC twice. The last time was 10 days ago. She never responded. Neither times did I mention the money owed. I know for a fact that she's either angry or she hates me. I really don't care how she feels. Just want my money back. Also, I don't want her to think that I am using this as a way of getting back into contact with her. I don't feel it's fair to ask friends to ask her as it involves money. Should I just forget about the money? Write it off as a loss? Thanks.
Laveli Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I think there is nothing wrong asking for your money back.
Thatguyintx Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 If she's angry right now, I suspect asking for your money won't go over well. That's a pretty good amount to be owed. If it were less, I would write it off. Do you think she will pay it back? Or argue?
Author HollyBolly Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 I think there is nothing wrong asking for your money back. Thank you, but should I wait until the tension has died down? I'm just afraid she may think of it as a ploy to contact her, and she'll just ignore it.
Author HollyBolly Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 If she's angry right now, I suspect asking for your money won't go over well. That's a pretty good amount to be owed. If it were less, I would write it off. Do you think she will pay it back? Or argue? I have NO idea whether she'll pay it back. What I Do know is that she will ignore me right now. Like I said, I am just afraid she'll think it's a ploy.
Laveli Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Yeah the only problem i see is if she has not been responding to you, she just may continue to ignore you. Try waiting a little more, but this time try calling. 1
Author HollyBolly Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 Yeah the only problem i see is if she has not been responding to you, she just may continue to ignore you. Try waiting a little more, but this time try calling. I did call once and she didn't pick up, so... Guess I'll wait a month or 2. Thank you.
Author HollyBolly Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 depends on why you broke up. In a nutshell I broke up with her because she showed absolutely no emotion or support when my dog was hit and killed by a car on Christmas. Then she tried to make it about herself. Then she begged me for one last chance. When I gave it to her, she cheated on me. That's the gist of it.
CarrieT Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Simple: Send a business-like, very professionally-written certified letter demanding the money and giving her a time frame in which to make the repayment. Do not get into emotions or the breakup. It is a demand for repayment only. In the letter, make it clear that you will take her to small claims court if she does not repay the funds within a certain amount of time. Follow through with small claims court if she does not pay back the money. You can check in the library for Nolo (a publisher) books on this. Very, very helpful...
Author HollyBolly Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 Simple: Send a business-like, very professionally-written certified letter demanding the money and giving her a time frame in which to make the repayment. Do not get into emotions or the breakup. It is a demand for repayment only. In the letter, make it clear that you will take her to small claims court if she does not repay the funds within a certain amount of time. Follow through with small claims court if she does not pay back the money. You can check in the library for Nolo (a publisher) books on this. Very, very helpful... Thank you for the advice but how can I file a claim when there was no promissory note signed?
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