samsungxoxo Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I told my boyfriend that I'm ready to get more serious with him in terms of marriage and he told me "Honestly, I cannot see myself with you when we're 80..."And why are you still with him after he said that. I would walk out very quickly if a man told me that (even on a short date). I can't imagine how you must be feeling now. I would feel like garbage too, as if I'm not good enough. That is what he was telling you. TLDR: I'm 25. I want commitment. boyfriend and I have been together almost 7 years, says he can't see himself with me when he's older, doesn't want to get married anytime soon..what do?Dump that loser. It's not going anyway. You won't obtain anything other than worthless years invested on feelings but no real value whatsoever.
ditzchic Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Sorry but I think you're right in assessing that he just isn't that into you. From your story he's never said he NEVER wanted marriage. He said he didn't want it with you. He even so much as said he can't see himself with you when you're old. If he were just afraid of marriage he could see himself growing old with you, just not with rings on the fingers. He can't see it going any further than what it is and as long as your wiling to accept that for now it seems like he is too. For now. Are you really willing to accept that?
FitChick Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 OP flaked us. She is realizing that her intuition was right but hoping against hope that she was wrong. Heartbroken, I imagine.
Professor X Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 She is realizing that her intuition was right but hoping against hope that she was wrong. Heartbroken, I imagine. No, we got flaked
samsungxoxo Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 (edited) Sorry but I think you're right in assessing that he just isn't that into you. From your story he's never said he NEVER wanted marriage. He said he didn't want it with you.That alone would tell me how a man is not into me. It would be more offending to me if he never wants to marry me but would find another woman to propose in the future than if he just never wanted to get married at all to no women. The OP is brave because I would probably never speak to him again if he told me that he doesn't see himself spending his life with me. That's something I wouldn't get over with nor proceed with the relationship as if nothing happened. IMO 6 years is a long time already. If by then he doesn't see a future with the OP then he's just going to string her along for 6 more years or eventually break up. Edited March 15, 2012 by samsungxoxo
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