I know is over, and we are not getting back together, but I can't forget about her!

[don'tknowanymore]

I don't know what to do anymore. It has been approximately 7 months since I been with her and four months since I have spoken to her. I don't know anything about her. For example, does she have a b.f ?, is she engaged

' etc. I know I could find out if I want it to, but to scare to know the truth.

I was with her for 5 yrs of my life, but I think she has completely forgotten about me. I tried being with other ppl, but I am always thinking about her.

I haven't tried to contact to her, and avoided every place I might run into her.

 

I have gotten through my head that it is completley over. I just don't know what do from here. What direction should I go. I tried dating, but haven't had much luck. I can't forget about her!

 

well any advice will be appreciated.

[sportsloving]

Take your time and date again when you feel you are ready. In the meantime, do things that you like to do, meet new friends, take up new hobbies, take a class ... do anything that you want.

 

It has been approximately 7 months since I been with her and four months since I have spoken to her. I don't know anything about her. For example, does she have a b.f ?, is she engaged

' etc. I know I could find out if I want it to, but to scare to know the truth.

 

Quit asking yourself these questions. This only makes it harder on yourself, and ties you up in knots wondering.

 

I was with her for 5 yrs of my life, but I think she has completely forgotten about me

 

No one can spend five years with another and then just forget them. I know it hurts, but it sounds as if she has moved on from your relationship and you still care a great deal for her.

 

Spend time doing what you like, quit thinking about what is she doing ... who is she with, keep with the no contact, and soon you will find that the thoughts of her are getting less painful and less commanding of your time.

 

I do wish you the best wishes ~

[paranoia]

I do feel for you, for we somewhat share a similar experience. Instead of making assumptions, why don't you tell her how you feel? Are there things on your mind which you wanna tell her? Irregardless of the outcome (which you have claimed is totally impossible), perhaps you should pour out all your thoughts & feelings to her? It sounds like unfinished business to me, on your side which is.

 

You seem to be forcing yourself to get over it but do you really want to? Emotions normally overrule the mind. That's why it's so difficult to go against your heart. It will never be over for you if there are still unsolved questions running through your mind. Just let out your all, and hear from her as well. Even if it's another slap of reality, i guess it's necessary, so that you can really move on.

 

I plan to do that, so, wish us both luck....