oldguy Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Yikes. In my case, my brain will probably finish developing just in time for me to start showing signs of dementia. In that case no one will know the dif :laugh:
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Quote: Originally Posted by Mme. Chaucer Yikes. In my case, my brain will probably finish developing just in time for me to start showing signs of dementia. In that case no one will know the dif :laugh: I'm comforted!
RedRobin Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 They also have magic underwear, like Mitt Romney. I didn't know that Mitt wore Jesus Jammies... Does he?
veggirl Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I had my fun in my early 20s and now I'm ready to settle down! Guess what, my BF did the same. Ugh we are nasty whores 1
kaylan Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 (edited) I meet a lot of women nearing 30 who say this. I translate it as, they’re nearing 30, the new breed of sexy new college grads have forced them out of the attention-whoring game. Dudes aren’t checking for you and offering to pay for thing like they use and feeling your value dropping you’re now ready to settle? Lol bitter much. Actually both men and women near 30 do this because they want to start a family. It has nothing to do with college kids. Women in their 30s could easily get sex and party if they want to. Their priorities just change. Bitter guys like you just make assumptions about their reasoning and dont apply it to men as well due to bias. it means that they age like snit Men and women can both age like crap or age well. Depends on how a person takes care of themselves.Except the difference is that in general a man settles down with a woman whom he plans to treasure, take care of, protect, and provide for, things that he did not do to the women he only had 'fun' with. In other words, a man gives more to the woman he settles down with than the women before her. On the other hand, its the opposite with women. Women give more to the men she only had fun with while they demand more from the man they settle down with. When it comes to marriage for example, women are a lot more calculating than men. In a way they 'punish' men who genuinely want to share the rest of their lives with them while they 'reward' men who just want to have short term fun with them. Such bull...Ive seen plenty of women give their soul for their husbands...dedicate all of their lives...and then have that dude bail on them or treat them poorly. So men and women can both behave either way. Some of you bitter bros need to take notice to the NUMEROUS threads and real life situations around you. Your bias allows you to only zone in on female bad behavior when plenty of men are doing the same thing. I get sick of the male or female bashing threads on this site. Edited March 15, 2012 by kaylan
oldguy Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Lol bitter much. Men and women can both age like crap or age well. Depends on how a person takes care of themselves. Ah yes, you either age like fine wine or milk. Such bull...Ive seen plenty of women give their soul for their husbands...dedicate all of their lives...and then have that dude bail on them or treat them poorly. Oh hell ya. I've seen far more men leave their wives for younger women than the other way around... the scum suckers they are. I get sick of the male or female bashing threads on this site. We need to come together & start ignoring the sexist & the racist hate mongers instead of feeding the trolls. 1
verhrzn Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I would take the cynical approach and believe the negative views on this. This translates to me as she's banged every douchebag she's encountered, is hopefully childless, and now wants to change gears to find a marrying man. Too many though hope the "marrying man" will be one of those douchebags. They hope he'll "grow up" and want to settle down. In my opinion, good women are seeking out the long term thing from the get-go. They don't desire the "be young and live it up" ethos too many live by that. That or they choose to just date, work on school/career, and if they happen to meet a good man they'll take it all the way til marriage. Any woman who more or less pushes to stay single in her 20s so she can "live it up" on the hopes some perfect man marrying her in her late 20s isn't a good woman in my book...and I'm sure she's been "passed around" many times. And I'll be fair...I think a guy who also decides to "stay single and bangin" in his 20s isn't a good man for a woman looking to marry. Too many of them claim they're ready to settle down, but never really do. The reality of one woman, one sexual partner for life, ends up scaring them into making excuses so he can stay single and live it up. Call me old fashioned or judgmental, but experience has shown me the "live it up while you're young" folk are the ones many later complain about being "damaged goods", "man-children", or they are the ones complaining how they can't find anyone "decent". But aren't women also told that they should embrace being single, live it up? Don't scare men away with wanting to settle down so quickly? It kind of seems like a double-edged sword.
MrNate 2.0 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 And here we go again! *getting the popcorn ready* 2
fishtaco Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I meet a lot of women nearing 30 who say this. I translate it as, they’re nearing 30, the new breed of sexy new college grads have forced them out of the attention-whoring game. Dudes aren’t checking for you and offering to pay for thing like they use and feeling your value dropping you’re now ready to settle? That's true for some women. There's also a mad rush to get married because their best friends just got married. I understand why some LS women would get offended, but I have to point this out again, the average women do NOT think or behave like LS women. In my dating past, I have encountered so many bad behaviors from women, that the women of LS will condemn. But guess what? They happened to me before, they will happen to me again should I become single, they happened to many other men, and in fact, they are happening right now as we speak. The world is a big place, and most people are crappy.
xxoo Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Do women actually say this, as phrased in the title? I'd wonder why "settle down" is the opposite of "fun". Doesn't sound optimistic to me! I think it is usually more a matter of, "I know myself, what I want, and how to identify and be a good partner now, so I am ready to settle down." The men on this board hold it against women when it takes them a while to figure out how-to-do relationships. But the men haven't yet figured out how-to-do relationships, themselves. Weird. 2
carhill Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I'd accept her words and inquire about her relationship and family history, both important aspects of the style of 'settling down' she's embarking upon. It's not the 'what' so much as the 'how' which is the canary to watch as a sign of compatibility.
boaaaar Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 (edited) If you marry the wrong person, you have only yourself to blame.Yeah indeed. I'd even blame myself for taking uneducated gambles in the first place, regardless of the outcome. Edited March 15, 2012 by boaaaar
Anela Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 And here we go again! *getting the popcorn ready* Green smoothie here... 1
grkBoy Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 But aren't women also told that they should embrace being single, live it up? Don't scare men away with wanting to settle down so quickly? It kind of seems like a double-edged sword. Men want women who will get into loyal relationships. Boys want loose girls who just bang...and then like immature boys they'll later condemn those women for giving them what they wanted in the first place. 1
MrNate 2.0 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Why all the angst towards those women? Believe it or not, some women (like many men) like to have fun and tap that ass from time to time without having to call the guy the next day. It happens, and yes, I know you've been there as well, so jump off that pedestal. Just go to another profile that suits you man.
zengirl Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Do women actually say this, as phrased in the title? I'd wonder why "settle down" is the opposite of "fun". Doesn't sound optimistic to me! I think it is usually more a matter of, "I know myself, what I want, and how to identify and be a good partner now, so I am ready to settle down." THIS. I can see where someone might find that phrase a red flag (from a man or a woman) or find it odd that someone had some set, say, number of people they needed to date or sleep with before embarking on monogamy (whether they are male or female, again). However, most people date around or don't settle down when young (those who do later) because they're either working through some stuff that hinders them OR just learning about themselves and what they want from a relationship. I never could've gotten married without having my years of traveling (unless I met someone who wanted to/could travel and teach with me -- that would've been awesome!) and I'm sure hubby felt the need to establish himself and learn some lessons before marriage too. Doesn't mean this isn't the fun part!
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I'm ok with dating a woman who reached 30 or so and has decided that she wants less fun and more stability. I figure by that age women will want a nice passive guy who's not interested in sex or anything like that. Nice, calm, normal life. All I have to do is bide my time...
oldguy Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I'm ok with dating a woman who reached 30 or so and has decided that she wants less fun and more stability. I figure by that age women will want a nice passive guy who's not interested in sex or anything like that. Nice, calm, normal life. All I have to do is bide my time... Your being sarcastic right? Please tell me that was pure sarcasm. Of coarse you where
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Your being sarcastic right? Please tell me that was pure sarcasm. Of coarse you where I wish I was... Should I reevaluate my perspective?
oldguy Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I think that is always prudent. I'm a little curious now. I'm guessing you have not reached 30 yo yet & I wonder way you have this view of woman over 30?
GoodOnPaper Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Do women actually say this, as phrased in the title? I'd wonder why "settle down" is the opposite of "fun". Doesn't sound optimistic to me! I agree but the reality is that nothing is worse for a guy's dating life in his teens and 20s than being pegged as a "settle down" type of guy. The men on this board hold it against women when it takes them a while to figure out how-to-do relationships. But the men haven't yet figured out how-to-do relationships, themselves. Weird. The real issue is that we don't trust that women will feel the same or more raw attraction to the guys they "settle down" with than they did to the guys they had "fun" with.
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I think that is always prudent. I'm a little curious now. I'm guessing you have not reached 30 yo yet & I wonder way you have this view of woman over 30? I'm 24 (well a week away from 24). All I see now is women who want confident, sexy men who have crazy adventures (rather than quirky adventures). So, I figure I wait, those confident sexy men will fall away and my competition will be nonexistent. I suppose it's possible that I'll be waiting until 40 rather than 30, but who knows.
veggirl Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 The real issue is that we don't trust that women will feel the same or more raw attraction to the guys they "settle down" with than they did to the guys they had "fun" with. But what you are clearly missing is that plenty of women do have fun with the guy they "settle down" with. The 2 aren't mutually exclusive.
udolipixie Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I'm 24 (well a week away from 24). All I see now is women who want confident, sexy men who have crazy adventures (rather than quirky adventures). So, I figure I wait, those confident sexy men will fall away and my competition will be nonexistent. I suppose it's possible that I'll be waiting until 40 rather than 30, but who knows. Why not just mail order bride rather than waiting it out until the competition is less?
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