SteveC80 Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 I meet a lot of women nearing 30 who say this. I translate it as, they’re nearing 30, the new breed of sexy new college grads have forced them out of the attention-whoring game. Dudes aren’t checking for you and offering to pay for thing like they use and feeling your value dropping you’re now ready to settle? Link to post Share on other sites
irin Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 or is just mean their biological clock is ticking. besides men around that age get tired of playing in the field too. its maturity! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 We all have to grow up sometime. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
udolipixie Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 I meet a lot of women nearing 30 who say this. I translate it as, they’re nearing 30, the new breed of sexy new college grads have forced them out of the attention-whoring game. Dudes aren’t checking for you and offering to pay for thing like they use and feeling your value dropping you’re now ready to settle? I hear some men nearing 30 say that as well. In fact it seems to be most guys mindset to have fun then settle down. Not sure what's the issue with having fun when young and settling down when older. Unless you're a woman as it seems most men value women for their youth/looks and that's more highly place than other qualities. As well as even older men are often not ready to settle down until pushing mid 40s hence why I hear some men nearing 30 say that. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
JesseJames Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 it means that they age like snit Link to post Share on other sites
udolipixie Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 I translate it as, they’re nearing 30, the new breed of sexy new college grads have forced them out of the attention-whoring game. Dudes aren’t checking for you and offering to pay for thing like they use and feeling your value dropping you’re now ready to settle? I think your translation stems from your own bias. How do you know that they weren't settled down when nearing 30 because they haven't met someone they would want to settle down with or because they want to settle down when older rather than because they were playing some attention whoring game? If women's value drop when older than what would be the point of settling down with a man unless he's 10-20 years older as he'd most likely see your aging as a value deduction? Unless men aging also decreases their value though highly unlikely as most guys don't tend to think anything decreases a man's value unless he's a horrible human being aka rapist/murderer/child molester/abuser. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 Never date a woman who has her clock ticking. Most of the time they don't want you out of genuine love and you will never hold the place in her heart that all those bad boys did. This is not to say that older women should be avoided but a woman who has a history of chasing after bad boys and then all of a sudden does a 180 and wants a nice guy to settle down with are a huge red flag. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 I wouldn't settle down with someone who says that. I'd be open to other things though 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 Maybe they mean that they have had plenty of single fun and are now ready to settle down to family life. Where does "attention whoring," "new breed of sexy new college grads" and guys paying for things come into this? Obviously whatever women said this to you weren't aware that you have problems understanding a simple statement in the English language. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatDudeXO Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 This is ignorant but I must admit it is somewhat accurate. Funny. Link to post Share on other sites
boaaaar Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 ... = Sexless marriage + lots of bills and heavy obligations incoming. Run for your lives 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 It may be as simple as it all being in our heads. It was thought for years that the brain wasn't completely developed until age 25, now it's thought that may be as old as 28 for many & the point to this is. the area that developes last is the responsible for; organizing responses to complex problems, plans steps to an objective, searches memory for relevant experience, adapts strategies to accommodate new data, guides behavior with verbal skills and houses working memory. Its orbitofrontal circuit manages emotional impulses in socially appropriate ways for productive behaviors including empathy, altruism. Simple. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 I hear some men nearing 30 say that as well. In fact it seems to be most guys mindset to have fun then settle down. Except the difference is that in general a man settles down with a woman whom he plans to treasure, take care of, protect, and provide for, things that he did not do to the women he only had 'fun' with. In other words, a man gives more to the woman he settles down with than the women before her. On the other hand, its the opposite with women. Women give more to the men she only had fun with while they demand more from the man they settle down with. When it comes to marriage for example, women are a lot more calculating than men. In a way they 'punish' men who genuinely want to share the rest of their lives with them while they 'reward' men who just want to have short term fun with them. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
grkBoy Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 I meet a lot of women nearing 30 who say this. I translate it as, they’re nearing 30, the new breed of sexy new college grads have forced them out of the attention-whoring game. Dudes aren’t checking for you and offering to pay for thing like they use and feeling your value dropping you’re now ready to settle? I would take the cynical approach and believe the negative views on this. This translates to me as she's banged every douchebag she's encountered, is hopefully childless, and now wants to change gears to find a marrying man. Too many though hope the "marrying man" will be one of those douchebags. They hope he'll "grow up" and want to settle down. In my opinion, good women are seeking out the long term thing from the get-go. They don't desire the "be young and live it up" ethos too many live by that. That or they choose to just date, work on school/career, and if they happen to meet a good man they'll take it all the way til marriage. Any woman who more or less pushes to stay single in her 20s so she can "live it up" on the hopes some perfect man marrying her in her late 20s isn't a good woman in my book...and I'm sure she's been "passed around" many times. And I'll be fair...I think a guy who also decides to "stay single and bangin" in his 20s isn't a good man for a woman looking to marry. Too many of them claim they're ready to settle down, but never really do. The reality of one woman, one sexual partner for life, ends up scaring them into making excuses so he can stay single and live it up. Call me old fashioned or judgmental, but experience has shown me the "live it up while you're young" folk are the ones many later complain about being "damaged goods", "man-children", or they are the ones complaining how they can't find anyone "decent". 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 I meet a lot of women nearing 30 who say this. I translate it as, they’re nearing 30, the new breed of sexy new college grads have forced them out of the attention-whoring game. Dudes aren’t checking for you and offering to pay for thing like they use and feeling your value dropping you’re now ready to settle? Meh.... some guys spend their entire 20's trying to jam their prick into anything warm... and some women spend that decade trying to jam anything and anyone up their Vuhjayjay. Those people should stick together and leave the rest of us alone. .... basically what I'm saying is that while there is a group of women that fit your complaint, there are just as many men doing exhibiting the same behavior. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 Meh.... some guys spend their entire 20's trying to jam their prick into anything warm... and some women spend that decade trying to jam anything and anyone up their Vuhjayjay. Those people should stick together and leave the rest of us alone. .... basically what I'm saying is that while there is a group of women that fit your complaint, there are just as many men doing exhibiting the same behavior. I bit crude but to the point, I would only disagree with one point; It doesn't have to be that warm "their Vuhjayjay"? I haven't heard that since Scrubs went off the air Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 OP, I suggest moving to Utah where you can find a nice little mormon community that marriess off their 14 year olds. This way, you can be with a girl-woman that had no other options but you and no other choices in life but you. Because that's bascially what your beef is. Like men have been doing for centuries, young women want to experience life. And since women no longer depend on me nto suppor them, they have the oppurtunity to do that. At some point, people begin to "settle down" and want someone to go through life with. This happens within both men and women. Buck up and deal with it or marry inexperiences brainwashed religious 14 year olds. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 Never date a woman who has her clock ticking. Woggle, not every woman wants kids. Especially these days. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 I meet a lot of women nearing 30 who say this. I translate it as, they’re nearing 30, the new breed of sexy new college grads have forced them out of the attention-whoring game. Dudes aren’t checking for you and offering to pay for thing like they use and feeling your value dropping you’re now ready to settle? Why does this upset you so much? Just stay away from those women and like Disenchantly Yours said, move to Utah's mormon community and marry a young virgin. I don't see what your problem is here. Seems pretty simple to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 I meet a lot of women nearing 30 who say this. I translate it as, they’re nearing 30, the new breed of sexy new college grads have forced them out of the attention-whoring game. Dudes aren’t checking for you and offering to pay for thing like they use and feeling your value dropping you’re now ready to settle? You know this doesn't say anything good about the type of men you're talking about, don't you? I'm going to take my own advice, and get out into the sunshine. There used to be a show on which a woman would suddenly ring out, "You're boring!" Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 It may be as simple as it all being in our heads. It was thought for years that the brain wasn't completely developed until age 25, now it's thought that may be as old as 28 for many & the point to this is. the area that developes last is the responsible for; organizing responses to complex problems, plans steps to an objective, searches memory for relevant experience, adapts strategies to accommodate new data, guides behavior with verbal skills and houses working memory. Its orbitofrontal circuit manages emotional impulses in socially appropriate ways for productive behaviors including empathy, altruism. Simple. Yikes. In my case, my brain will probably finish developing just in time for me to start showing signs of dementia. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 OP, I suggest moving to Utah where you can find a nice little mormon community that marriess off their 14 year olds. This way, you can be with a girl-woman that had no other options but you and no other choices in life but you. Because that's bascially what your beef is. If he hits the right location, he can have an entire bevy of 14 year olds for himself. I do think he'll need to convert, and don the "garment." All for a good cause, though. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 Woggle, not every woman wants kids. Especially these days. True but the truth still holds that a woman who wants to marry because her clock is ticking tends to be a ticking time bomb who one day will give the I love you but I am not in love with you speech. A man should only marry if he knows for damn sure that she is in love with him. If not then watch out. If a woman who has a history of chasing after bad boys who will never amount to anything more than a fling all of a sudden switches gears a man should take that as a huge red flag. Like another poster said she will never carry the torch for the nice guy she settles down with that she carried for those bad boys. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 ... = Sexless marriage + lots of bills and heavy obligations incoming. Run for your lives If you marry the wrong person, you have only yourself to blame. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 If you marry the wrong person, you have only yourself to blame. Many people put on a good act until a few years into the marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
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