Nohbody Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I have got an email in my inbox from her right now. I haven't opened it. I haven't deleted it. What say you, crowd: Thumbs up or thumbs down? Let's do this democratically but with the bloodthirsty spirit of the Colliseum. I hate that she can still make my hands shake.
Mollyanna Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 maybe not the best advice coming from me... but I would open it 100%! lol
JesseJames Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 i would let your cat open it and read it to you 4
esteem-jam Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I havent followed the story but OPEN. If its negative- they you say "blah". If its positive- you can scratch your head and rub your chin.
bluewolf17 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 You have to read for all of us who are in NC. We want to know what Exes want. 2
whichwayisup Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 If possible, click on the email and mark it 'as read' that way it doesn't stand out every time you log in and scream "READ ME." Don't open it. Leave it for a few days, then see how you feel. This is why marking it as read will help you so it won't get your attention when you are looking at your email. I don't know your back story, (I will go read) but you do what you feel is best for you. If she still makes your hands shake and heart thump, that's a reason not to rush to open that email. Is it going to get your hopes up? Or will it hurt you? 5
Chi townD Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Up to you...but I can pretty much summarize it for ya. Hi! How ya doing? I was just thinking about you and wanted to see what was up? How's your life? Are you doing anything new? How's the job? Anything new there? I really hope you're happy. You deserve to be. My life is good. I just miss you sometimes. I hope one day we can get back to talking again. I really miss talking to you. Well, that's about it! Talk to you later! Bye for now, Friend! Love. Ex. I could be wrong. But if I was in Vegas, I wouldn't take that bet. 1
whichwayisup Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Okay, I had a little peak at some of your older threads.. My advice still stands at this, but with one change. Do the mark email 'as read'. DO NOT OPEN HER EMAIL. Leave it for a week. One week. Put it out of your head, go on with your life like you never saw it or her name. Go out with friends, keep busy, etc..etc.. Then next week, ask yourself if it's worth reading. You two are no longer a couple. She hasn't been in your life at all for months. It's over, no chance of getting back together, right? So without any thought, just delete her email and empty the trash. Then block her or completely change your email address. I'm not sure what it is you want, but my gut tells me no good can come of this.. Especially since not too long ago you had an email from a 'mutual' friend. My guess is, her email is a fishing one, to feed her ego and to make you react. Don't react! Don't read it! Delete it!
Thatguyintx Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Open it Don't read it. Copy and paste it here (don't peek!) 2
ThatDudeXO Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Open it Don't read it. Copy and paste it here (don't peek!) AWESOME IDEA! If there are pictures attached then...nevermind.
Author Nohbody Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 Awesome idea. But it's over. It's been over for a very long time. Sorry gang. Hate to disappoint, but I think I'm just going to delete. Thanks for chiming in. 5
ThatDudeXO Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Awesome idea. But it's over. It's been over for a very long time. Sorry gang. Hate to disappoint, but I think I'm just going to delete. Thanks for chiming in. I'm happy for you that you have to power to do this. Well done.
Thatguyintx Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Awesome idea. But it's over. It's been over for a very long time. Sorry gang. Hate to disappoint, but I think I'm just going to delete. Thanks for chiming in. What happened to democracy???? 1
rootless Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Awesome idea. But it's over. It's been over for a very long time. Sorry gang. Hate to disappoint, but I think I'm just going to delete. Thanks for chiming in. Ferris Bueller, you're my hero!!!! 1
Frank13 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I would always wonder if I didn't read it. Don't get me wrong. I hope I never hear from the ex and if you block her it solves the problem, but if I got an email, I would want to see if she if hurting. Yeah, an ego boost for me. What I have done in the past was just read the first line or skim it like I was in a hurry. If skimming it seemed to convey that it was nothing, I just deleted it or left it in my inbox for a time when I am healed. 1
CopingGal Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Awesome idea. But it's over. It's been over for a very long time. Sorry gang. Hate to disappoint, but I think I'm just going to delete. Thanks for chiming in. My, you are strong! Hurray for you!
Limbo21 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I've not logged into my account for so long but had to when I read this thread Firstly - thank god you didnt read it! Under NO circumstances should you compromise your healing and read pathetic self affirming attempt of contact I broke up with my ex about 30 months ago. During that time she has written, emailed, knocked on the door & sent cards. This all stopped about 18 months ago and then last week another email. To prevent the above I have moved property. Changed email address about 5 times. I delete all messages immediately, then clear thrash so can't read it - why? Cos I had a nervous breakdown over my split. Not a soap opera style breakdown. A breakdown that destroyed me. I have never been the same since. I strongly believe the reason I had this breakdown is due to not cutting off all contact. There are so many angry posters (or they where lots) who was verherment of the no contact rule. I used to think 'jes that's a bit harsh' They were right. I was wrong. Dunno if the guys like grayclounds are still posting but for the sake of the broken hearted I hope they are Wishing you all the best and so glad you didn't read it 1
Author Nohbody Posted March 16, 2012 Author Posted March 16, 2012 That was very powerful stuff Limbo, thank you for sharing.
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