MIK1000 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Well, 7 months after being treated terribly and dumped for another guy while my ex was in another country for the summer, I finally got the apology I expected to get back then. Up until now she had almost been acting like I was the one that did something wrong, which I guess was just her being in denial of acting like a total bitch. I was in a nightclub that my friends and I tend to go to every weekend. I was in a room dancing with my friend when she walks past and looks at me. After she went up to the bar, I ushered my friend into the other room to get away. My mate then went to the toilet in the other room and I stood waiting for him outside it, turned away from the rest of the club. Next thing I know she pops up in front of me with her friend and says Hi. I got a bit of a shock but said Hi and gave them both a hug (out of awkwardness more than anything. Her friend left and we started some small talk, both talking about what we'd done that day then in mid conversation she just says "I'm sorry". I was confused and said "Sorry for what?". "For what i did, I know it was a sh*it thing that I did. I can't change it now". I didn't really know what to say, and told her that. Then said I appreciated the apology but that she probably did me a favour. She asked what I meant by this and I told her that the break up made me a lot more independent. She then went on to tell me how her brother had a new baby girl, then went on to say that she was going travelling for the summer again. I told her I had some plans to travel as well and then shortly after she said she was going to get a drink as she was too sober but would come back and talk later. After that I kind of stayed out her way, not really on purpose more cause my friend wanted me to go to different bits of the club. So I feel glad that I finally got the apology and the acknowledgement that she did a bad thing. It's put her back in my head though, and i'm thinking about her more again, which is ironic because it was only a couple of days before that happened that I was thinking how great I felt about it all but i expected something else to happen that would put her back in my head. It's hard to deal with this stuff when you're still in love with that person.
Senateguy Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Call me bitter, but I don't think an apology seven months later is really an apology. I just think it's her way of relieving the guilt and probably a symptom of dealing with some loneliness that is a result of some dating option she had going on turning sour. 1
Author MIK1000 Posted March 14, 2012 Author Posted March 14, 2012 Call me bitter, but I don't think an apology seven months later is really an apology. I just think it's her way of relieving the guilt and probably a symptom of dealing with some loneliness that is a result of some dating option she had going on turning sour. I don't know. It is probably a way of relieving guilt, but why after 7 months of acting like she did nothing wrong? She's still in a LD relationship with the guy she left me for. I know this because I occasionally creep his non private Facebook profile (bad I know but I have done on a rare day when I'm feeling low). Maybe she's getting tired of the long distance. I often wonder if the fact that we had a lot of unfinished business will be meaningful. Before she went away last summer and met the guy, she still seemed as crazy about me as she ever was for the 16 months that we went out.
mike588 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Call me bitter, but I don't think an apology seven months later is really an apology. I just think it's her way of relieving the guilt and probably a symptom of dealing with some loneliness that is a result of some dating option she had going on turning sour. Yeah just short of 7 months and mine contacts me too...she dumped me for her ex. Her notes were filled with sorrys....regrets...acknowledging how well I treated her etc. etc. I didn't and still don't know why she contacted me after so long but am believing like Senateguy said....just to relieve her guilt and maybe lonely? I think they broke up again?
Author MIK1000 Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 Yeah just short of 7 months and mine contacts me too...she dumped me for her ex. Her notes were filled with sorrys....regrets...acknowledging how well I treated her etc. etc. I didn't and still don't know why she contacted me after so long but am believing like Senateguy said....just to relieve her guilt and maybe lonely? I think they broke up again? It would be nice to think that they did it for the right reasons - because they felt like they owed you an apology, for yourself, not them. It would also be nice to imagine that they did it for the wrong reasons - e.g they're lonely and miss you slightly, or maybe they want to clear the air so they can reconnect with you if things don't work out with the other relationship. The thing with me is, I live round the corner from her and run into her about once a month, sometimes more, sometimes less, at first just ignoring each other. I'm obviously going to continue to meet her over time and now that the air has been cleared, we can be nice to each other. Maybe that's for the best.
Senateguy Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Yeah just short of 7 months and mine contacts me too...she dumped me for her ex. Her notes were filled with sorrys....regrets...acknowledging how well I treated her etc. etc. I didn't and still don't know why she contacted me after so long but am believing like Senateguy said....just to relieve her guilt and maybe lonely? I think they broke up again? They probably got in a fight. Ask yourself if you have ever had any desire to contact a girl out of the blue that you rejected or dumped? Probably never. The only time you ever reach out is when some event happened in your current life and you're looking for a life preserver to help ease the pain. People are very selfish....but it's a natural instinct when you're hurting.
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