LB85 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 There is this guy I have been making eye contact with for very long. The first time he smiled at me, he looked away and smiled so I gathered he was shy. My friends told me he's always looking at me when I don't notice. So I tried saying hi, he said hi back and it was fine. Yesterday I asked him for a light to get things rolling (after 2 months). He was very kind and even teased a little and wished me luck in the library. I was suprised at his enthusiasm. Today he sat in a different place than where he usually sits, making me think he's avoiding me. When we bumped into each other, we both said hi. But he keeps confusing me and I get sad because men are always vague with me. Also he didn't seem shy when he talked to me. He doesn't really make an effort to talk to me but he also can't stop looking at me from a distance. This has me stuck and I was the first one to say hi or to even try communicating. he just keeps smiling whenever he sees me and sometimes he avoids me. I don't understand, he is really handsome and has a confident walk so I don't know if he really is so shy (I just assumed its because he pays so much attention to me when I don't notice). He has followed me down to smoke sometimes, but then when he's there...its like I don't even exist. Sometimes he even avoids crossing paths with me and other times he keeps focussing on me. I have given him the 'green light' so doesn't make sense. Help please, I'm so depressed..why am I not worth pursuing?
FitChick Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Maybe he is wondering why you are always staring at him. If he's good looking and confident, he isn't interested in pursuing anything with you.
snug.bunny Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Maybe he has a girlfriend. Maybe he is shy. Maybe he's an ahole. Maybe he isn't interested. Maybe he's homosexual. Those are a few possibilities.
Mr. Savage Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 He may not be as confident as you think. He may find you attractive but for some reason he convinces himself not to pursue. Maybe he has a fear of actually taking things a step further and actually asking you out. I would say if he's always looking at you there is some attraction. But don't beat yourself up over one guy. It's not worth it.
FitChick Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I would say if he's always looking at you there is some attraction. I sometimes keep looking at someone because they seem a bit odd.
Mr. Savage Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I sometimes keep looking at someone because they seem a bit odd. well it's still an attraction.
TheSingleGuy Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 If he's good looking and confident, he isn't interested in pursuing anything with you. Wrong dots being connected there. I am very good looking and very confident, but approaching a woman I'm really attracted to is VERY SCARY. I just freeze. It's hard to explain.
Author LB85 Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 See I know he is single and he's really social and knows he can get any girl so why does he smile when he sees me, keeps looking but doesn't just talk?! Today, I passed him by and i saw he was doing his own thing and I also thought that me showing interest hasn't done much so far so there is no point. I ignored him and he looked at me and turned while I was passing but I didn't even look because I didn't know what more I can do. I don't understand why he sees from far but never does anything about it. I said hi, asked how he was and even once asked for a light to smoke (he was friendly and teased a little but that was it).
FitChick Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 He's just not that into you. Maybe if you gave up smoking you'd meet more men who would become interested.
Leigh 87 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 If he was into you, he would make a move; u have showed him he could if he wanted to. Who knows why he was staring. he may have found u attractive, but then talked with u and decided you were not his cup of tea. move on.
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