Minnie Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 [font=courier new][/font] Hi everyone - What is the meaning of seeking approval and validation? Why do I seek validation and approval with all the projects I am in volved in and expecially with authority figures I seem to bend all up in a pretxel trying to ger just a small amounr of agreeable kind validation or recognition. It seems to be wasting a lot of time and personal energy. Maybe I shall answer my own question here but I think I can better use the energy in knwing all is at peace and fine. Feels like a huge loss. My idea of a wonderful outcome is a huge thanks and attachement. I need to be needed. What is that all about? Of course I am already needed, family etc. ...but I spend tons of time looking to make myself indispensible and usually finding it only to add to my alreadu long list of chores. Many joyful. Some just recycling the need to be needed. Just a thought and any clarity very appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 I go through the same thing. I read somewhere that the need for validation and approval is one of the symptoms of sufferers of OCD, which me and my family have. I always want to know if I am doing a good job, even if I know I did. Maybe see a doctor to see if you could possibly have OCD. I'm interested, keep me posted or pm me. Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 You have to think 'self satisfaction'. I know approval and validation is needed at times to assure yourself, but ultimately it's the self satisfaction. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted June 11, 2004 Share Posted June 11, 2004 Not wanting to pay $5 for parking in a parking lot for ten minutes. No, wait... Link to post Share on other sites
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