jordjones Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 She dumped me in July. I tried to meet up with her in October/November and she declined, saying "she needed more time." After that, I went hardcore No Contact and even deactivated my Facebook. Fast forward to this past weekend. I'm posting the whole text message exchange. Her: Hey. I am in Austin. Just made me think of you. You'll prob be really happy here! Take care. Me: On 6th now (street in Austin). Lol Her: Haha... Her: Just so you know...(sent two pics of her neice) Me: Haha. Aunt B. Hope you're happy...and still sexy. Her: I am. I look a lot better too bc I am happier. I hope you are as well. Me: Glad to hear. I'm happier than I've ever been. Her: Good. Keep in touch. Her: And...If you stayed with me, see what you would be missing. Her: I told you that you would resent me. I know I am right on that. Me: Yeah Yeah. You on 6th? Her: Yes about to leave. Her: Night night jordy pooh. ---------------Next day Her: Hey. If you would be willing, it would be good to meet you for dinner or a drink sometime. I know you wanted to before, but I just wasn't ready...And I don't know what you are up to or where you live! So let me know if you come to Dallas or go home. It would be nice to catch up. Me: Sounds good. Her: I'm sorry I keep bugging you, but I am suppose to come to Austin again. Do you live here? Me: On 6th, are your friends cute? Her: Meant for someone else? Me: Oops Her: Haha...Yeah right Her: You probably did that on purpose. Me: Her: You're an ass hole ------------------two days later Me: Hey. Hope you had a great time in Austin. I was curt on Saturday. I don't live in Austin but am there all the time. This week is ultra busy for me, but we could hangout sometime next week/weekend, when I plan to be in Dallas. It was good to hear from you. Her: Curt? Me: Terse and Trashed. You have fun? Her: Yes I did. I thought you were a jerk -------------------------------------------------------------------------- OK. Whatever. Just want thoughts. lol
JasonRules Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 "She dumped me in July. I tried to meet up with her in October/November and she declined, saying "she needed more time." Allow me to translate: She dumped me in July She met someone else and was interested in pursuing that so you were kicked to the curb I tried to meet up with her in October/November and she declined, saying "she needed more time. You were saddened that she broke up with you and didn't give up pursuing her to try to get back together, but since she was with the other guy she declined. However, she was not very certain of her position with the other guy because he was being elusive, uncaring, disrespectful so she gives you the "I need more time" line to keep you waiting indefinitely while she tries to solidify her relationship with the new guy. Hey. If you would be willing, it would be good to meet you for dinner or a drink sometime. I know you wanted to before, but I just wasn't ready...And I don't know what you are up to or where you live! So let me know if you come to Dallas or go home. It would be nice to catch up. Translation? Hey, the a-hole player I was involved with dumped me and I'm feeling down now so I need you to buy me dinner and give me a ton of compliments and tell me how cute and wonderful I am, so I can go on an ego boost and gain my confidence back. Of course, I am not interested in any kind of relationship, but I will pretend I am while I bid my time looking for someone else. Conclusion? As a man, I will never allow myself to become ANY woman's option. Either I'm a PRIORITY OR I'D RATHER BE NOTHING. If you want to settle for being 2nd best, then go out with her. If you have respect for yourself, find yourself a girl which makes you a priority and doesn't give you BS lines ala "I need more time". What the hell does that mean anyway? More time for what? Order a pizza? What if you married her? Will she be taking "breaks" from the marriage as well? My advice to you is, to treat her like a "has been". You owe her nothing, so don't give her anything. 2
EgoJoe Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 "She dumped me in July. I tried to meet up with her in October/November and she declined, saying "she needed more time." Allow me to translate: She met someone else and was interested in pursuing that so you were kicked to the curb You were saddened that she broke up with you and didn't give up pursuing her to try to get back together, but since she was with the other guy she declined. However, she was not very certain of her position with the other guy because he was being elusive, uncaring, disrespectful so she gives you the "I need more time" line to keep you waiting indefinitely while she tries to solidify her relationship with the new guy. Translation? Hey, the a-hole player I was involved with dumped me and I'm feeling down now so I need you to buy me dinner and give me a ton of compliments and tell me how cute and wonderful I am, so I can go on an ego boost and gain my confidence back. Of course, I am not interested in any kind of relationship, but I will pretend I am while I bid my time looking for someone else. Conclusion? As a man, I will never allow myself to become ANY woman's option. Either I'm a PRIORITY OR I'D RATHER BE NOTHING. If you want to settle for being 2nd best, then go out with her. If you have respect for yourself, find yourself a girl which makes you a priority and doesn't give you BS lines ala "I need more time". What the hell does that mean anyway? More time for what? Order a pizza? What if you married her? Will she be taking "breaks" from the marriage as well? My advice to you is, to treat her like a "has been". You owe her nothing, so don't give her anything. Pure wisdom.
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