ponymaruni Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Im 21 but im more attracted to women that are 30 years and older. a women thats 35 is at a perfect age. IDK what it is but im not the only guy that feels that way so please don't judge and call me a pervert. Im just an individual that has preferences. My question is simple. Should i wait for older(30-50) women to approach me or should i take the initiative to start conversations? I dont want these women to think i am some horny perv or something. People have been telling me that i shouldnt approach since a women after a certain age will let you know whats up through very direct signals.
ditzchic Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Coming from a 30 year old woman, you should approach. I would never approach a 21 year old guy. I will look. I will make "the eyes" at him. But I would never approach. If she's sending you signals. Make the move.
iris219 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I suggest waiting for signals from the woman before approaching. Keep in mind that many women this age simply won't be interested in you. I do not in any way find 21 year olds attractive (I'm 33). I'd rather date a 50 year old. If you approached me I'd make a joke about meeting your father.
sid3 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I agree, its far easier to get attacked by a much older cougar than it is to hunt for the younger ones. I think you'll find they're quite rare. It's kind of difficult to stalk your prey when most of them are middle and high school teachers. Your best bet may be the fair grounds and carnivals this summer. I've spotted several of them there in the past. Happy hunting
Lil1 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 If you have the confidence and the swag then I say approach them! It's always a nice ego boost to get hit on by younger men. I'm 30 years old and usually get hit on by guys in your age range (sometimes younger... which always makes ME feel like a perv lol!). I will say though that the style of approach matters a great deal. You have to be mature about it and make sure you don't come off as some horny frat boy. It also matters what your goal is with getting an older woman - are you looking to have a relationship with her or just sex? I can tell you that for me having a relationship with a much younger man is out of the question, but sex may be an option if it's propositioned the right way... and that's where the challenge is for you! I suggest networking, chat up the older ladies at your work, if you see them at bars or clubs don't be afraid to approach them. You have nothing to lose! Happy hunting indeed!
Ruby Slippers Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Approach them. I'm 35 and dated a 26-year-old for a while last year. I never would have approached him. But he was so charming in his approach that I said yes to a date.
MrNate 2.0 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Great taste man. Older women make me turn my head just as much as young women. I don't know why the media pushes this 'youth' thing so hard on ladies. In many cases, the 30/40 somethings out do the 20 somethings. mmm. mmm. 2
Ruby Slippers Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I don't know why the media pushes this 'youth' thing so hard on ladies. To sell products. The "beauty" industry is a $60 billion industry. One of the most effective angles is the illusion of youth. You have to be mature about it and make sure you don't come off as some horny frat boy. I agree. I don't give younger men who come at me with the player vibe the time of day. I only consider younger men who approach me with the intention to date me, not get me into bed right away. It also matters what your goal is with getting an older woman - are you looking to have a relationship with her or just sex? I can tell you that for me having a relationship with a much younger man is out of the question, but sex may be an option if it's propositioned the right way... and that's where the challenge is for you! And by contrast, I'm open to a relationship with a younger guy, provided he's mature and interested in having a real relationship. I have friends from 35-45 who date men from 25-45, and frequently date men in their 20s.
USMCHokie Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I'm 28...my girlfriend is 46... Are you a good conversationalist...? Intelligent...? Funny...? To be honest, it's no different from attracting anyone else...if you're a good quality person, that in itself will be all you need...but more likely than not, they won't consider you an option unless you present yourself as an option... And have a nice body... :laugh:
pteromom Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I would NEVER assume a guy in his early 20s would be interested in me, so I think if you see someone you find attractive, it's important that you approach HER and let her know you think she is attractive. Like Lil, I would never be interested in a relationship with someone that young, but just sex would be fun. (If I was single, that is.)
Cee Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I'm 42 and my boyfriend is 25. When I first met him, I thought he was intelligent and charming. But when I heard his age, I thought he'd never be interested. He asked for my number and called me on the phone (not a text) for a first date. I was cautious and afraid I'd be hurt, but he's great. We've been together for 14 months and now living together.
Bob_Funk Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 (edited) Let me guess. Girls your own age ignore you, and you're hoping the older ones will be easier. In my experience, they aren't. All you can really do is go to an upscale bar, sit down, order a drink, twiddle your thumbs, and hope one of these mythical cougars shows up. It's not going to happen though. Edited March 14, 2012 by Bob_Funk
sid3 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 A bar may be a viable option, but you are better off going other places. You're likely to find loads of women in this age group at: Yoga classes, Paliates, continuing and adult ed. courses, single cruises and dance classes.
FitChick Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 A bar may be a viable option, but you are better off going other places. You're likely to find loads of women in this age group at: Yoga classes, Paliates, continuing and adult ed. courses, single cruises and dance classes. The worst that can happen is you will look and feel better and become more interesting than you are now which would help you score later with other women.
Author ponymaruni Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 i would prefer a 35 yr old woman that is a 6 on a scale than a banging 19 yr old that is a 9. case closed 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 All you need to do is put yourself out there. Join a dating site, put the age level you're interested in and start looking up some older ladies. Some might be into it, others may find you to be a little boy, which doesn't matter because the ones that are hot for you will likely drop you an inconspicuous line. There are also some restaurant/bars that older single women frequent, something low-key or dive bars are popular for that crowd. Older women are typically attracted to men who can hold a conversation and maintain a modest intellectual level, but with some of these cougars they could care less and just want a young buck to plow their field, so you don't necessarily need to try and act more "mature" for your age, they like the fact that they feel in control and you're just a good time. If you're looking for a relationship, you may have to press the average older woman to engage into conversation with you by peaking her interest. Older women like to be surprised, so If you got what it takes then maybe you'll make an her reconsider. Being in shape and being a good looking guy accounts for a lot as well...per usual.
Nightsky Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 To see a hot older woman is one thing... but to actively make older women your targets... theres no point in it. I mean do you want to be mommied or something? Do you think older women are easier to get?
Emilia Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Im 21 but im more attracted to women that are 30 years and older. a women thats 35 is at a perfect age. IDK what it is but im not the only guy that feels that way so please don't judge and call me a pervert. Im just an individual that has preferences. My question is simple. Should i wait for older(30-50) women to approach me or should i take the initiative to start conversations? I dont want these women to think i am some horny perv or something. People have been telling me that i shouldnt approach since a women after a certain age will let you know whats up through very direct signals. I'm 39 and I have dated several men in their 20s including a 21 year-old when I was 36. Yes you should approach the women. We will look at you and smile because we are not shy in our 30s but we don't just assume that a guy in his 20s is interested in us. Many of those boys like younger girls. If I like someone however I will give him the opportunity to ask me out or at least to ask for my number. Showing cheekiness and confidence get you more brownie points with older women than with young girls
missyme04 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Since you're the guy, then you have to ma the first move
Author ponymaruni Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 Its a preference. I prefer the physical attributes that are found on women at a certain age.
sid3 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Its a preference. I prefer the physical attributes that are found on women at a certain age. I'm curious, what may those be? I thought they all had the same physical attributes.
Nightsky Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Its a preference. I prefer the physical attributes that are found on women at a certain age. Could you be more specific I find your answer intriguing.
fishtaco Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Check out cougar bars. But yeah, you still have to do the approach. I think that's a basic tenant of life. If you want something, get off your butt and get it.
Author ponymaruni Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 i find the fine wrinkles on a womens face to be very attractive. Like fine wrinkle near the eyes are very sexy in my eyes. The flesh of a older women is more attractive idk how to explain.
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