chris09s Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I'll jump on this...cnhtennis. feel free to add me.
mike588 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Your goal should be forever. Too many people think they are over the ex so break no contact (even months or years later) and once they do, the feelings come flooding back. No contact is to heal, and once you heal why re-open the wound. I soooo agree!! Mine contacted me after 7 months.....I had moved on then after hearing from her it set me way back!!
nick d Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Day 9 for me today.. Not gonna lie, it isn't getting any easier. But my ex already told me she's not in love with me anymore. So in my case, there would be no point to contact her anyways. I'm nothing to her.. 3 years down the drain to a girl that could care less if I live or die.
budley12 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Day 9 for me today.. Not gonna lie, it isn't getting any easier. But my ex already told me she's not in love with me anymore. So in my case, there would be no point to contact her anyways. I'm nothing to her.. 3 years down the drain to a girl that could care less if I live or die. When my ex said "the love is gone" I started to shake and was a mess. It was horrible. Im going on a month of NC. Some days are great, others suck! A part of me still wants to contact ex to just "try once more" but in my case it wont lead anywhere. Im sure she still cares about you, but she may just not want to show it to help you move on. Like my ex started to tell me how "maybe down the road" and that he still wants me apart of his life, and doesnt want to lose me for good... but then the last time I talked everything changed and he said he shouldnt have said any of those things to lead me on. He was either trying to let me down easy, or wanted to leave that open door for later. who knows...
Author minee Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 I'm hurting so much. How could he not care for me after all we been through? I wake up every morning with a lump in my chest. everything sucks I'm so so sad 1
gotye Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I'm hurting so much. How could he not care for me after all we been through? I wake up every morning with a lump in my chest. everything sucks I'm so so sad when was last time you talked?
Author minee Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 today is NC day 6. How much longer before the pain starts to subside? Why isn't he feeling any pain? How long did you guys take before it was bearable?
gotye Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I am only on day 3 but he seemed to still want to talk to me and I gave him a month to go think about things and he may contact me I at least have a tiny bit of hope and I know that I can't ever give him the power by contacting him, he took my power when he decided to end things when I wanted to stay I refuse to talk to him while I am vulnerable so he can only maturely try to calm me down while staying distant if I have a chance to ever have him again OR have someone else I need to be powerful on my own. I am still so sad and CONSTANTLY remind myself
budley12 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 today is NC day 6. How much longer before the pain starts to subside? Why isn't he feeling any pain? How long did you guys take before it was bearable? today started 4th week of NC for me. pain is still horrendous, but i am starting to not think about him as much. For the first 2 weeks of NC everything around me had some relation to my ex. Now I am starting to try and do different things that I wouldnt have done while I was with him so it has no correlation whatsoever.
gotye Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 today started 4th week of NC for me. pain is still horrendous, but i am starting to not think about him as much. For the first 2 weeks of NC everything around me had some relation to my ex. Now I am starting to try and do different things that I wouldnt have done while I was with him so it has no correlation whatsoever. wow, I actually feel okay on day 3 0.0 still up and downs but I even wore some of the stuff he gave me cause it matched my outfit today
Numb79 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Sometimes you wonder if things will ever get better. I wish I can be of some help when I say things do get better. But I have been almost 7 weeks NC and I still struggle at times. I understand the feeling of someone who once loved you and vice versa now wants absolutely nothing to do with you. Its as if they just threw you out like yesterday's newspaper. Worst feeling in the world. I also find myself thinking of the past and what could have been. For a brief moment it feels good but then I have to stop myself. Its like this never ending cycle. You wake up.... it starts, and everyday seems like the same day. Nothing changes. You want it to stop but you don't know how!! Everyone tells you tells you that it gets better in time. But as more time goes by.... you wonder if that time will ever come. This really does suck!! I am 32 and sometimes I feel as if I will never find the one that I was meant to spend the rest of my life with. Its as if my life has lost all meaning at the moment. What do you do? How do you cope!? All this makes you think if its even worth it in the end...... I really don't want to go through this ordeal ever again! I am starting to lose faith in relationships..... This is sad......she took all my hopes and dreams with her 1
mymission Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 I know that feeling about the lump in your chest when you wake up. And for a brief second when you first wake up you expect them to be there. And then you realise they're not. 1
budley12 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 wow, I actually feel okay on day 3 0.0 still up and downs but I even wore some of the stuff he gave me cause it matched my outfit today The first week of my NC was actually great. It didn't really hit me until the second. Then I had many up and down days. As time went on more and more memories resurfaced making me miss him more and more. I hope that one day I can cherish these memories rather than wish them away
mymission Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I am on day 1 again because I broke it last night!
gotye Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I just had to call a friend and talk out why I shouldn't call him
flyguy23 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Day 31 here, it still hurts daily. I think now its more of realizing that she will never love me again.
budley12 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Day 31 here, it still hurts daily. I think now its more of realizing that she will never love me again. my hardest part is my ex said that "maybe down the road we will get back". so here I am breaking all contact after he said this. NC for 4 weeks... i just hope Im not shooting myself in the foot. Maybe I would have a better chance if I stayed close but not too close?
RioTFF Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 my hardest part is my ex said that "maybe down the road we will get back". so here I am breaking all contact after he said this. NC for 4 weeks... i just hope Im not shooting myself in the foot. Maybe I would have a better chance if I stayed close but not too close? Same thing here. It sucks so bad and hurts and confuses the heck out of me.
Author minee Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 im totally hating life right now. its effing miserable knowing and realizing that someone you loved so much wants nothing to do with you.
gotye Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 day 5, a lot easier! I started doing a mindless art project
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