How can fix it if she said it's better for me to forget her???

[terry_white]

This girl just comes from other country. Now she doesn't have some friends here, for she said she has culture shock and doesn't like her classmates. She broke up with a guy for more than 5 years.

 

I know a girl for less than two months. I first knew her in library. We saw each other all the time when we were at the same area. And we stared each other about 5 seconds when I left. Next day she came again and she left something, and I kept for her next day. But I didn't bring that thing on another day. She asked me number. Then we started text or talked on fb almost everyday.

 

At the fifth day we knew, we had a conversation for five hours. We discussed everything and our comment interests. And she even touched my shoulder that day. We planned a lot of activities(but never did) in the future. After this, she texted: "You are so individual and interesting. I have to know more about you." "I already don't want to lose this friendship. If this happened, I will be depressed." "I have a wish here is to keep this friendship as long as possible." "I will treat you as you deserve, but not this period." "You gave me more attention than a guy I loved for many years, that;s ironic" "You are my cutest friend." "Your smile is so lively." ect.

 

Another day we met is one exactly one month after we first met. we talked for 3 hours. At the end, I gave her the birthday gift. (I was the first person to text her happy 18 birthday and she said unbelievable. I asked her to meet her that day, but she didn't respond. Maybe I was a little pushy. ) She felt so surprised and we hung each other at the end. And later she text: "You are too nice to me. Thanks life that we know each other."

 

During this period, she knew that I had interest to her. She said that if we were closer, I still have more common with the girl from my country. She said she like me just as a friend. And she said we only know each other for one month, she can't develop so fast... And we had 2 or 3 cold periods because we talked about this kind of topic. But the longest time that we didn't contract is 3 days. And each time after we talked this, I felt we were getting closer. There is sometime we were 95% close, she shared her past, life and everything to me, including one thing only I knew she said.

 

But spring break is the biggest turning point. She went to CA and met her guy friends.(or ex) She has a lot of guy friends. I sent 3 messages to her. Only got one reply. I knew she was with somebody. But there is one day we talked on fb for 2 hours at midnight.(we had 4 times talked hours at midnight) After this talk, she said we should have lil distances, which means that we were too close. I don't know if she got her ex back, for she upload one guy's pics on her fb. And she said she had a plan to transfer to CA. But I don't think she can actually, at least this year.

 

Recently, we talked again. Af first, it's normal. But it is bad that I stupidly started a sensitive topic. And I got something like this:

I don't have people right now because Im stuck in my f**in class but these type of conversation is not so new for me... I don't want that u were hurt later & I don't want that things happened to u that happened to me once. Thats why i say this proposal. its life, u want people who don't want u so much & u don't want people who want u very much. Its just cycle, we cant change:) lets not speak next 2 week & u gonna find out that this is not very important to u to talk with me . u'll forget about it soon & thats all.

 

Even if Im progressed, even if u're progressed, even if we were neiborhouds, anyway, Im just looking for totally different friend.

 

I don't want that we continued too much close friendship or call whatever. Just totally delete me u should get used to delete people from ur life who don't bring nothing good.

 

At last, I said it is wise that we should have more time to clam down and stop this conversation. She didn't reply. I think this is good. And she didn'd delete me on fb, and she said she would delete people on fb if she didn't like.

 

I know I was too pushy and gave too much attention and I screwed up, cause I don's have much experience. I do learn a lot for this. Now I just want to at least make our relation normal and not in a cold situation. I know when we meet next time, I should just pretend nothing happen and talk normal thing. How many days later should I text her next time? one week, two weeks, or until April fool's day? I know my first message would be normal and pretend nothing happen, using the weather topic or others.

 

Any comments or advices would be much appreciated!!!

Edited March 14, 2012 by terry_white