Who is supposed to have the condom? The guy or the girl?

[Diamonds&Rust]

I usually bought the condoms because I'm a boy and she could tell me what to do like that.

 

But seriously, the government should buy them.

[zengirl]

I have never "just had" condoms, but I never had casual sex either. Not sure what the standards are there, but I would imagine while it wouldn't hurt to carry one, the man is more likely to have appropriate (fitting, etc) condoms, if we're speaking of typical male condoms (more commonly used type of condom), which are more effective and easier to use than female condoms.

 

When dating a partner, I've occasionally bought appropriate condoms (whatever he used, which I would know after we had intercourse) for my home, so that there were condoms at both places, though most guys will bring a pack over at some point anyway. But I don't use condoms as my primary form of BC and generally haven't used them that much in my relationships. I tend to go on hormonal BC around month 3 and then taper off condoms. So, I'm not the expert.

 

I don't think it's unrealistic for women to expect men to purchase the majority of condoms in a relationship (though I never really thought about it) since very few men have ever considered chipping in for hormonal BC. I never had any strong issue buying them, but the men I dated typically purchased them most of the time. No one has ever chipped in for my BC pills, not even hubby, though he is the only man who's ever offered.

[ditzchic]

I carry my own. A couple of different brands and sizes in my purse (If he doesn't need the magnum, I'll need the ribbed for her pleasure ). And I have a huge stash at home.

 

I half expect the guy to have his own. But if he doesn't, it's better safe than sorry.

[setsenia]

Never can be too safe. Although if you've never had sex with them before, you have no idea what type or even size condom he might wear. My husband and I both had contraception when we first started having sex, he had condoms and I was on the pill. I think that was fair, although it never hurts to carry them just in case especially if you're having sex with someone you don't know well.

 

I think if I have the responsibility to take a pill each day, it won't kill him to carry some condoms. LOL

Edited March 14, 2012 by setsenia

[oaks]

Although if you've never had sex with them before, you have no idea what type or even size condom he might wear.

 

True, but I hope nobody uses that as a reason to not have condoms. Most guys are, unsurprisingly, averagely endowed and most non-specialist brands will fit a wide range of sizes.

[Andy_K]

you have no idea what type or even size condom he might wear.

 

A regular condom can stretch large enough to cover your arm. And if his penis is bigger than your arm, you're not going to be having sex with him anyway!

[oaks]

A regular condom can stretch large enough to cover your head. And if his penis is bigger than your head, you're not going to be having sex with him anyway!

 

Fixed that for you.

[Cypress25]

I don't think it's unrealistic for women to expect men to purchase the majority of condoms in a relationship (though I never really thought about it) since very few men have ever considered chipping in for hormonal BC.

 

This is the reason why I would be surprised (and a little annoyed) if the guy didn't have his own condoms and expected me to have them. I pay for my BC pills, which cost $15 a month with insurance, and the annual Planned Parenthood visit, which costs around $70. I don't expect my partner to help pay for that. The least he can do is spring for the condoms. It's one thing if he runs out of condoms and forgets to buy more (that's why I have my own stash), but if he just doesn't bother to purchase condoms because he thinks that's my job, that's obnoxious.

[ASG]

I always carry condoms. I find that men tend to be somewhat unreliable when it comes to it.

In the past year, the 2 times I found myself without a condom, for whatever reason, the guy didn't have one either, which resulted in no sex!