aevf39 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 okayyy.. so i posted about a week or two ago about the troubles in my relationship.. here is what it said ok so i have been with my long distance boyfriend for about two years and things have been rocky, but managable. we work well together and are open. but we have had huge relationship drama and were broken up for most of february because of it. it was mainly dumb and we worked it out. we just got back together on thursday, but he said he cannot talk at night for a while because he is dealing with something. he said he cannot talk about it because it has nothing to do with him, but usually we are open with each other and he tells me what is going on in his life. im just confused why he would keep something from me and why he wouldnt be able to talk at certain times when he is around the situation. he never had a problem talking around other people before. i feel crazy complaining because he is putting in effort and calling twice a day and texting and stuff, but he cant commit to a visit this weekend because of the situation.. so its just bothering me that it keeps getting brought up. i dont know if i am being dramatic and should accept the fact that i cant know everything or if i should be worried.. i know he respects me so i dont think (i hope) he wouldnt cheat. i just need advice if i should ask questions or keep waiting it out until the weekend when it is hopefully over..... BUT this is what happened this weekend. we met up and had a great weekend but in the morning i could not find my phone and he was sleeping, so i was trying to use an application to send a text to mine to make it go off.. in the process i saw that his last text was from a girl who someone had just said on facebook he was with all the time. i did not see this post because he defriended me or i got deleted who knows..? but anyways she texted him at 2 am saying will i get to see you tonight? i asked him about it and he answered kind of.. but was kind of upset about the fact that i went through it phone. we spent a few hours together and then we both went home. he didnt call or text me that night, which he said he would. and in the morning he sent me a text breaking up due to trust and saying it was just too much. i dont know what to do or how to let go. i sent him a million texts requesting at least a call but he never replied. i even tried calling him, but he didnt answer. i need advice. please let me know what you think. thanks:(
TMichaels Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Cut him loose and don't lower yourself to his level by begging or asking for forgiveness. If you were that important to him he would be doing everything possible to set your mind at ease. He's not. He came back with this "you don't trust me" b.s. as the reason why you need to break up. He's just pissed off he got caught having his cake and eating it, too. He's the snake here, not you. Consider yourself lucky that you found out now instead of investing any more time into a relationship with someone who obviously doesn't give a rip about anything except himself. Best, TMichaels
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