Arabellad25 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Okay, I went on 5/6 dates with a nice guy and we were both pretty honest.. Got on well. He was a bit more shy than me and seemed to be genuinely interested,, even invited me away for a weekend. Then one fateful night I stayed over at his.. We slept together and he didn't hold it together to well and seemed a bit embarrassed. I didn't make an issue of it at all as it really wasn't an issue for me.. And it didn't just happen once, but 3 times. A couple of days later I responded to a text and asked when he was free next and he told me that he didn't think we should meet as although he had a nice night he didn't think it would go anywhere!! What's the deal?! I just replied saying i understood but i feel pretty pisd at him... I'm not naive, In fact I know how guys can think.. But I genuinely thought he was a nice guy! What's the deal?!
Professor X Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Okay, I went on 5/6 dates with a nice guy and we were both pretty honest.. Got on well. He was a bit more shy than me and seemed to be genuinely interested,, even invited me away for a weekend. Then one fateful night I stayed over at his.. We slept together and he didn't hold it together to well and seemed a bit embarrassed. I didn't make an issue of it at all as it really wasn't an issue for me.. And it didn't just happen once, but 3 times. A couple of days later I responded to a text and asked when he was free next and he told me that he didn't think we should meet as although he had a nice night he didn't think it would go anywhere!! What's the deal?! I just replied saying i understood but i feel pretty pisd at him... I'm not naive, In fact I know how guys can think.. But I genuinely thought he was a nice guy! What's the deal?! Maybe he got super embarrassed. You did say he's shy, so he probably flaked on you after such stunning performance. Anyway, don't sweat it, you acted amazing, just remember that a lot of people are flaky, and I mean A LOT, more than you'd think.
SJC2008 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 When you say he didn' hold it together well do you mean he kept going soft of he finished early 3 times? Not trying to be vulger but going soft is way more embarrassing than the other.
Author Arabellad25 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 Oh no, not soft. Just quickly. Ha
mickleb Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 What's the deal?! Same thing has happened to me. Dodged a soggy bullet, I reckon. 1
kaylan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 How do you know you werent bad in bed in his opinion? lol It takes two. Maybe he dumped you for that.
Nightsky Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 I love how she's like "a couple of days later I responded to a txt." haha Whyd it take so long to respond. Why is he a bad guy for telling you he's not feeling it? I mean you guys were just casualy dating there is no promise of engagement these days with sex. Its like every time a girl gets dumped a guy suddenly is bad at sex or has a small penis etc.. be sure to tell every one you know how bad in bed he is lol. As Kaylan said how can you blame him. It takes two to tango. The guy said he had a nice time but doesn't see it going anywhere... what do you want from him? 1
Author Arabellad25 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 Firstly.. I never once said I was good in bed. But the fact he coldnt stop himself coming in less than 4 minutes 3 times in a row suggests that he was somewhat turned on.. Doofus.. Secondly the fact of the matter is, he was bad in bed.. I'm not saying that just because he felt the need to stop dating me.. The magic that is time along with my g spot told me that as it was happening. I'm nt saying for one second that's all he is capable of. Are you guys 13? Do u come quickly too I take it? Finally, who said I wanted anything serious to come out of it. All I'm trying to get here is opinions on why his mentality changed after that experience. But really don't need opinions of hard done by guys. Get a grip?
ComMan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 OP is a stupid shallow bitch with entitlement complex, she deserves to be alone and single forever! Just like FrustratedStandards member. I bet you have cold sores too you dumb cum dumpster!
InJest Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 You should just ask him straight up, "Did you break it off with me because you kept cumming so fast?"
kaylan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 (edited) Firstly.. I never once said I was good in bed. But the fact he coldnt stop himself coming in less than 4 minutes 3 times in a row suggests that he was somewhat turned on.. Doofus.. Secondly the fact of the matter is, he was bad in bed.. I'm not saying that just because he felt the need to stop dating me.. The magic that is time along with my g spot told me that as it was happening. I'm nt saying for one second that's all he is capable of. Are you guys 13? Do u come quickly too I take it? Finally, who said I wanted anything serious to come out of it. All I'm trying to get here is opinions on why his mentality changed after that experience. But really don't need opinions of hard done by guys. Get a grip? Lmao. y u mad tho? And you must be the doofus. The guy performed badly on your first outing (not like people always click right away sexually) and then you took forever to reply to a text. Is it so hard to figure out that he may have been breaking it off because he felt you were bound to do it yourself? Given the bad sex and you taking your sweet time to reply to a text, Id imagine thats his reasoning. Sounds like your ego is bruised because "how dare a guy whos lame in the sack dump me?"...right? And you need not worry about my sexual stamina. Dunce. Edited March 13, 2012 by kaylan
Author Arabellad25 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 Woah, so much negativity here.. Look - I never once said the cumming quick was an issue, infact I said the opposite... That it wasn't an issue for me at all.... So back off boys. Calm down a little. And I wouldn't want to make an issue of it hence the reason I haven't text asking him if that's why.. May just be that he didn't feel comfortable with me which is cool, these are all possibilities. Aand relax
kaylan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 But as I said, you seem taken aback that a guy whos bad in bed could possibly dump you first. Read your freaking title for Christ sake. Even without reading the body of your original post, thats the attitude you give off. So you in effect make the quick cumming an issue. Real advice here, just politely ask him to be honest about why he feels the way he does. Simple.
Author Arabellad25 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 Can you re read my post.. I said a couple of days later I replied to a text.. Meaning, a couple of days after we had slept together,, infect I had text him the next day with no response for a day.. What's the biggie?!
mtber75 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Its simple...He was just too embarrass to tell you about his performance anxiety. Instead of re living the night in question by consulting/going out with you he cut his losses early and ran. 1
Author Arabellad25 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 And just to re itterate because that wasn't so clear... Seen as ur making the text thing such as issue I text him first the next day, he didnt respond for a day, when he did I replied asking when he was free next and the rest is history.. And I thought We got on well so the only reasoning I can think of that justifies the "dumping" is that he was embarrassed? But I may b wrong. This post is making me want yo ask him and that would be cruel
Author Arabellad25 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 And just to re itterate because that wasn't so clear... Seen as ur making the text thing such as issue I text him first the next day, he didnt respond for a day, when he did I replied asking when he was free next and the rest is history.. And I thought We got on well so the only reasoning I can think of that justifies the "dumping" is that he was embarrassed? But I may b wrong. This post is making me want yo ask him and that would be cruel
kaylan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Its simple...He was just too embarrass to tell you about his performance anxiety. Instead of re living the night in question by consulting/going out with you he cut his losses early and ran. I think this most probably is it. Look dont directly ask him if the sex had to do with his decision. Simply ask him why he had the change of heart. Just tell him to be honest with you.
Star Gazer Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Ignore the angry dudes, OP. Men disappear after sex (good or bad) all the time. I'm curious what you mean by "you were both pretty honest." You're either honest, or you're not. Were you honest with him about what you wanted from him? A relationship? What did he tell you in that regard? Next time, wait until you've established some sort of exclusivity before you hop in bed.
SJC2008 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 @Araballad25: Don't take any $hit from people putting it on you saying mabye you were bad in bed. I think women like you are hard to come by, who understand that men get nevous too when dating and realize that just because he may be nervous now he won't always be that way.That being said, if I blew my load twice after the 1st one I'd be humiliated. But what he did was wrong, he judged you by automatically thinking that because he was bad that you would dump him so he dumped you. He should of given you the benefit of the doubt and kind of worked up slowly to discussing it to see if it was something that you all could work around. I know I don't last long but am more than willing to satisfy by other means to make sure my parter (if and when I get one) is satisifed.
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