smudge21 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Oldguy speaks the truth there - if you are totally innocent then you need to start taking this a bit more seriously! "i wanna see what i need to do in case something does happen." - are you insane? You're saying you want a group of strangers on an internet forum to tell you what to do AFTER you've been charged with rape? Everyone here is telling you what to do, so either follow our advice, or not. But remember, I hear internet connections are shared and a bit slow in prison, so we may not be able to offer such good advice by then!
oldguy Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 As for slander charges, in the real world thats what people say when they are to old to say "I'm going to get my big brother to beat you up":laugh: Businesses & corporations as well as some people with lots of money & time successfully sue for slander. Most of the time it's a threat that lawyers love. And in this case another great way to publicize her claims.
Taramere Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 What bothers me about his story is; He is upset she had sex with this other guy & invites her to his place. Then he says, "she knew what was going to happen". He say that in front of a jury & I'm afraid they are not going to be very sympathetic. She slept with the other guy & so he wanted to sleep with her, "one last time", sort of like revenge sex? In any case, having sex with her, "one last time", was just stupid. He knew what was going to happen but how does he know she did? He didn't. Yeah. There's an oft-used phrase "hate sex" which I'm pretty uncomfortable with. As in when men talk on predominantly male message boards about who they'd like to "hate ****". Revenge sex falls into a similar category. People are free to have sex in whatever mindset they wish, provided it's mutually consensual....but there are some situations that are far more likely to result in some kind of fall-out. It's the price of hate-sex, revenge-sex etc. There's little trust and goodwill present between people in those scenarios, which inevitably increases the likelihood of bad feelings after sex, rape allegations etc. It's the kind of thing that gets argued ad infinitum on message boards...but there will never be any resolution to it. The message at the bottom of it is always the same. If you're in the habit of having sex with people you hate/despise/hold in contempt/feel vengeful towards then sooner or later you're probably going to get burned by your own actions. That goes for both men and women. It's one of the areas people are least likely to publicly hold themselves accountable in...for obvious reasons.
oldguy Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 In my line of work I saw people one on one, men women & children, (teens), in privet settings and I was aware, trained & took precautions to protect myself & my good name & reputation, (as well as the practice), & I think that is something that is lacking. I see people walking face first into potentially compromising situations all of the time. And it's mostly guys because, "we're guys", alpha males, what's going to happen to them? Well, this is a good example. I found myself single & dating again when I was in my 40's & I always met dates for the first time in very public places, admittedly sometimes with friends anonymously in the back ground sometimes. This was done for my protection from allegations.
Diamonds&Rust Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 i think as long as i continue to leave her alone and completely block her out of my life she would have no need to bring the law in hand. plus if she did what evidence does she have? its the defamation im worried about. she contacts me randoly from time to time so its prob best to completely ignore her forever right? No, ignoring this situation is not a good idea. One of you should be in jail for the other's protection.
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