Arabellad25 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Hey all, I just need a bit of help understanding where I'm going wrong with the dating game.. Any advice and opinions will be hugely appreciated. I'm an attractive 25 year old single female living in London & I've been on the dating scene ( mostly via online dating ) for the past 2 years and it's turned into a bloody nightmare.. I thought I was an uber confident dating pro but the last few experiences are pretty much ruining my self esteem. Will give u some background info on me then tell you my crap experiences in the hope someone can shed some light. Between the carefree ages of 15 and 19 I had a few relationships and without meaning to sound arrogant the guys were always head over heals & I was never short of offers. I got into my first incredibly serious relationship at 19 and was with the guy 4 years.. It was a nasty break up for us both and I moved away to start over in London. Even though I've been dating I still feel like I've been single the whole 2 years and sometimes it doesn't bother me at all, other times I miss having someone... Of course at first I was pretty guarded and possibly still am but what is The deal with the below experiences? Man 1) dated for 3 months.. I broke it off because he was getting clingy / I still wasn't over my ex & We kept in touch at first and now he doesn't want to know me because he said it hurt too much & he's over it. Man 2) dated 5 months and spent a lot of time together, then he decided to move back to his home country and deleted me from all social networking etc but still sends the odd text saying he regrets it and misses me & would only come back for me... Wtf? Man 3) 1 month, total loser who lied about who he was.. I banished contact Man 4) went on 3/4 dates then after sleeping with him he said he was moving abroad.. Nice! Man 5) 6 weeks, went on quite a few dates and decided to be friends because weren't overly compatable.. Man 7) had 4 great dates, then ended up staying at his.. Thought things were going really well then I get THE text saying he didn't think it would work. So where am I going wrong? I feel hurt that all of the above guys have no interest at all in knowing me unless it's based on a relationship / sex.. I feel angry at myself for being too fussy at times and I also feel angry that every time I do like someone they move away or worse, send a text. That text thing really bugged me ( can u tell it happened today ) So am I doing something wrong or have I just joined the rest of the world in the awful dating game?! for sure this wouldn't have happened to me a few years ago,,, Of course I don't expect a relationship out of every date but I'm just so pisd at myself for picking unsuitable people or messing up when I finally do like someone.. Am I sooooo unlikable that everyone has to keep moving country? And is that guy a tosspot for dumping me after sex?! Hope I didn't ramble too much. Xxx Man 1) dated for 3 months
Professor X Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 So am I doing something wrong or have I just joined the rest of the world in the awful dating game?! Well, at least you know where the problem is at. You choose the wrong guys, period. Probably going for the players seeing as you kept mentioning you are such a hottie. Realize that most (not all) guys will want to conquer as many as possible especially at the age of 25, thing is, the good looking ones actually can do it, and thus will. Start looking deeper than the skin-deep beauty, you might be surprised what you find there.
sid3 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Yep, welcome to the world of dating. I have no answers for you. It's one of those things, you never know what could happen next. Tosspot? That's likely as he wasn't man enough to pick up the phone and at the very least show you some respect. What a wanker. Don't let it send you around the bend, online dating isn't for everyone. In fact its bad for some.
ComMan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 I LOVE!!!!! These stories of shallow and stupid bitches like FrustratedStandars and OP who get used by players for sex like a tool because these bitches are SOOO dumb and shallow...I think GOD created players to pay back for all the wrong these "HOT" bitches did to the "nice guys". GO GOD!!!!!
sid3 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 I LOVE!!!!! These stories of shallow and stupid bitches like FrustratedStandars and OP who get used by players for sex like a tool because these bitches are SOOO dumb and shallow...I think GOD created players to pay back for all the wrong these "HOT" bitches did to the "nice guys". GO GOD!!!!! You're cutting and pasting now. Getting tired little fella? It must have been TLDR for you, how does one get used for sex by a minute man. This guy is more likely cursing god as he cringes from embarrassment. 1
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