chic_one Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Okay, well I’m new this is my first post but reading through some of the threads I’m looking for some insight on this new situation I’ve found myself in. It also has some complexities. I’m in my early twenties and he is in his early thirties. I’m attracted to him, and I am also pretty positive he is attracted to me too. I should mention aside from the age difference, we also work together (even though we don’t typically see each other while at work.) It all started when a group of coworkers went out one night and he was very flirty, we walked to the bar together and ordered drinks which he paid for. The second round I reciprocated. The remainder of the evening he was affectionate with subtle waist grabs or other small leg touches when we were sitting down. When we all went our separate ways, he walked me to the car and I went in for a little cheek peck which ended up as a quick lip peck. This was about two months ago. A few weeks later, we met for a drink. And then he invited me over to his place for dinner. We had some good conversation and cupcaked on the couch (i.e. the dreaded “cuddling” word, or arm around waist/shoulder while just hanging out,) the night ended late and again at the car we kissed but they were just small kisses. Since then we’ve went out a few times, and spent more time at his house but nothing has escalated past making out, and some minor butt/boob action. I’ve also slept over a few times. What the hell is going on here? I think he’s just shy and maybe hesitant about age difference/working together. Also, he has another job opportunity that requires at least a year commitment overseas which will begin in June. Thing is, I don’t really know if I am ready to have sex with him since I’m confused about the whole thing myself. Our conversation ranges from work to health to travel to politics. Everything but “what is up with us” or how we feel about each other has come up. I would be scared to ask, scared things would get too serious I think. I’m just so surprised he hasn’t made an attempt to take it in the bedroom; I’m used to young guys always making attempts to initiate sex quickly. Any insight to what this is all leading to? Also, 6 months ago I ended a 3 year relationship so I feel like I’m inexperienced in this whole dating thing, 18-20 were my dating years and at that time both those I dated and myself lacked some maturity. I’m lacking insight here.
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