nick d Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Im just curious what people do to deal with they're emotions when they know they're recent ex is dating and had sex with someone else? I have been NC for a week but I heard it through the grapevine. And it's just making me feel so sick.
CaliBabe Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 You should be living it up as well. Go out and date and hook up if the time arises. Have fun man.
RYL TMann Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Exactly what CaliBabe said. The best way to get your mind off of your ex is to be out dating other people yourself. Think about it this way - you now have the chance to hook up with whoever, whenever you want. Take advantage of that while you can.
Chi townD Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Keep yourself busy and tell your friends that you don't want to hear a word about your Ex. If your friends are truely your friends, they'll respect your wishes and you'll be able stomp out that grapevine.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Nick D, it is a reality check. When I saw a picture of my ex and his new g/f, my heart sank--and he is long gone from my life. The picture opened the wound, and knowing he mistreated and abused me and is in a honeymoon phase with someone new really hurts my pride and ego. I don't love him anymore; can't love a dude who calls me names and gets off on starting terrible fights, but...it hurt just the same because it was a confirmation that he doesn't care for me, never did and never will. Now that you know this information and on top of it, it is very, very fresh, you have some healing to do. Gardening is therapeutic, working out, putting on a movie that has nothing to do with romance. Trust me when I tell you that every day you will heal little by little and this will pass.
Philosoraptor Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 Im just curious what people do to deal with they're emotions when they know they're recent ex is dating and had sex with someone else? I have been NC for a week but I heard it through the grapevine. And it's just making me feel so sick. It will take time before it doesn't bother you anymore. But when it stops, you will know it. It comes with finding acceptance. All you can do is remind yourself that you two no longer intermingle so you are both free to live your own lives. 1
freetolove Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 There's proof, she doesn't love you anymore. Allow yourself to get angry. What would you do if that happened to your best friend? If his fiancé just left and already started dating/sleeping with other people. And stop asking about her/seeking info on her. You are spending all this energy missing and loving her and she's out there living it up. 1
Kitty84 Posted March 14, 2012 Posted March 14, 2012 I left my ex husband at the end of last year and quite quickly fell into a relationship with the guy I (hope I am still) seeing now. I didn't expect any of it and probably wasn't ready, but it did, and still feels totally right. Sometimes these things happens when you least expect them
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