freetolove Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Okay, back to negotiations again. I did NC for a few days but it's sort of hard (I know, I was too "weak" to stick to it). Even though I was the one that called for the break. It's not that I don't' love him. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH. It's been 1.5 years But to sum it up: think of "All talk no action". We met together at work so I didn't realize he came with so much baggage. FOr one he's a lot older then me. I'm 27 and he's 45. He has several children and 2 failed marriages. Obviously there's a trend here and I"m not one to get burned but BOY he is very very charming. Says that right things, great hugs and he's quite attractive. PROBLEMS/Deal Breakers. 1. I want to get married and have kids. He said he's "open" to it at first but I read ppl quite well. I knew that he didn't want to get married or have kids again if he didn't have to. Deal breaker. No he keeps saying that he wants more kids and want to get married...I don't believe him. 2. He's really really broke. Money is important in a relationship, I'm not all about money (else I won't' be dating a broke man). I'm about love BUT there's also a place where you draw the line. Last night I was at an opening gala. He was upset that I didn't invite him. I dreamed of taking him but the price of the tickets were too expensive for me to purchase 2 of them. 3. Dating a broke man is not fun. It use to be roughly 50/50, now a days it's okay since we both make money. However, every time we actually go out/vacation, unless I pay for the whole thing, we aren't going anywhere. 4. I LOVE YOU, I care about you, etc. He never seems to have time for me. When we hang out, he's always really tired. Stupid man is always getting involved in other people's business. He's broke and never has time for me because he's always doing something for someone. It was "cute" at first but it's a deal breaker for long term relationship. What's the problem? I love him and I'm not stupid. He said he'll give me space but he contacted me EVERYDAY. Any thoughts/suggestions?
nick d Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Honestly to me it seems like you really know you don't want to be with this guy deep down in side.. Your just having trouble telling your heart that and accepting the facts.
CaliBabe Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 True, you don't seem really into him. I'd ditch him and move on to someone more compatiable.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Okay, back to negotiations again. I did NC for a few days but it's sort of hard (I know, I was too "weak" to stick to it). Even though I was the one that called for the break. It's not that I don't' love him. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH. It's been 1.5 years But to sum it up: think of "All talk no action". We met together at work so I didn't realize he came with so much baggage. FOr one he's a lot older then me. I'm 27 and he's 45. He has several children and 2 failed marriages. Obviously there's a trend here and I"m not one to get burned but BOY he is very very charming. Says that right things, great hugs and he's quite attractive. PROBLEMS/Deal Breakers. 1. I want to get married and have kids. He said he's "open" to it at first but I read ppl quite well. I knew that he didn't want to get married or have kids again if he didn't have to. Deal breaker. No he keeps saying that he wants more kids and want to get married...I don't believe him. 2. He's really really broke. Money is important in a relationship, I'm not all about money (else I won't' be dating a broke man). I'm about love BUT there's also a place where you draw the line. Last night I was at an opening gala. He was upset that I didn't invite him. I dreamed of taking him but the price of the tickets were too expensive for me to purchase 2 of them. 3. Dating a broke man is not fun. It use to be roughly 50/50, now a days it's okay since we both make money. However, every time we actually go out/vacation, unless I pay for the whole thing, we aren't going anywhere. 4. I LOVE YOU, I care about you, etc. He never seems to have time for me. When we hang out, he's always really tired. Stupid man is always getting involved in other people's business. He's broke and never has time for me because he's always doing something for someone. It was "cute" at first but it's a deal breaker for long term relationship. What's the problem? I love him and I'm not stupid. He said he'll give me space but he contacted me EVERYDAY. Any thoughts/suggestions? ....what is it you love about him? He is a brokeass who is twice divorced, will always see these ex's because of the kids and you will NEVER be first. He never has time for you and won't make time. Why should he look for a job when you are there to pay for all of it??? Charm can only take you so far. After awhile you will resent him. Maybe you love the idea/notion of him? There is nothing redeeming about what you have said. My dog gives great hugs, big deal.
Author freetolove Posted March 14, 2012 Author Posted March 14, 2012 He's very charming and has a great way of getting back into my head. I think that's the main thing. Logically it would be stupid for me to stay with him but he's so sweet. When I get angry at him he usually know what to stay or do to make me feel better (unless I'm angry at him). I even have a "real" conversation around the money problems, he's really gung ho about it but usually ends the same way. He always finds reasons/excuses why he's so broke. I think I start nagging even.
Author freetolove Posted March 14, 2012 Author Posted March 14, 2012 and to quite honest, he's very hot/attractive.
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