Katerose Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 hi, Iv been dating my bf for 2 years. However these days he has been completely ignoring me. He gives me all excuses for not being with me . He says he wants to be alone. He hangs alot with his guy pals especially a Girl which he never used to. I asked him if he loved her he said she is his best friend. Iv giving him his space. We have not been in contact for a while now but i miss him alot. He also said i hurted him but i told him i will change for him.Is this a breakup? i know he misses me but i dont want to break up with him.. He is my first everything. PLEASE HELP ME...
TigerCub Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 How did you hurt him? Also if a guy is ducking you and ignoring you, telling him that you'll change for him just reeks of desperation. Furthermore, if this guy is your first everything, you got nothing to compare him to, maybe it would be best for you to be the one to end it and get out there and date others. You say you don't want to break up with him, I can understand that, but this guy doesn't want to be with you, and you need to realize that you will be ok on your own, or at least without him. Get hobbies of your own, stop chasing him, work on your self esteem and see where that gets you.
Author Katerose Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 i asked him how i hurted him but he only says forget it, nothing, etc.. so i dnt knw really
Philosoraptor Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 How old are the two of you? If he is unable to explain what you've done to hurt him he is likely grasping at whatever he can, as he likely is interested in his "best friend".
Turkishdelight573 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 i have had this problem with my boyfriend before and we fought about it a lot at one period of time. In my case my boyfriend was just being a boy and fortunately he realizes he doesn't want to loose me and changed his behavior for me. I gave him space and i gave him the ultimate, change and include me more in your life or simply just end it. Here's the thing, a guy would only realize a girls value again when he knows that he will loose her. My advice for you is be independent and stop chasing after him, stop putting him before you and make yourself believe you will be fine without him. The more you chase him , the more it will pushes him away; also think of it as a test, if he doesn't want you back after a break then theres obviously no hope. You have to move on. I have been there where i put my boyfriend before everything and my best advice to you is never put any man before yourself, then they will run to you. I hope this helps, good luck. 1
ComMan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 I think you should give him more exotic sex, that should fix everything.
Philosoraptor Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 we both are 20 years of age.. You're both young and he is likely looking at what else is out there. I'd let this one go and just work on yourself for now.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Sounds to me like he already broke up with you in his mind, he's just afraid of saying it because he knows you will fight for the relationship. He is ignoring you to give him a hint to leave him alone. I suggest you stop contacting him because he is too immature to give you a real answer. Let him fade away, its already over in his mind. he has most likely already started a relationship with this new woman. Do you really want to save a relationship with a guy that disguarded you and started with someone else like this?
TheSingleGuy Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 If you want to get him back, you need to figure out one thing: If he's after another girl, chasing him harder is the exact opposite of what you should be doing, because his focus is on the other girl. If he's alone, chasing him harder is exactly the thing you should do because he will get lonely and realize how much you care about him. I'll bet you a dollar to your thousand that he's sexually interested in this female "friend". If there's a girl in my phone that I'm communicating with, it's because I'm pursuing her.
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