budley12 Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Just wondering if anyone ever got back with their first love over time? We were each others firsts and he ended it 4 months ago. For now i realize its over... but just seeing if anyone ever got back over time. if you have, mind sharing how long it took/how you resparked it? thanks Link to post Share on other sites
redrose123 Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I dated this guy for 7 months in high school and he was my first love. He broke up with me out of the blue and it was a very hard time in my life, especially since he started taking other girls out soon after and really showed his cold side. We work together but I went NC (would only see him at work and we didn't talk) and 6 months after the BU he texted me and asked if I would meet him because he wanted to talk. I went and he basically apologized and said that breaking up with me was the biggest mistake of his life and wanted me back. I forgave him but told him no, I couldn't trust him. We went NC again and about 6 months after that, he had a card and flowers he gave to me at work for my graduation and in it he said he wanted to meet me and try to work things out and asked if I would give him another shot. I never responded. Finally, 6 months after that (1.5 years after the BU), we hung out with each other through mutual friends and began talking again. He asked me out and apologized again and I really thought he had changed, so I decided to give him another chance. I thought he had really learned his lesson. We dated for 2 years, up until the BU a few weeks ago. There were warning signs but I wanted so badly for it to work because he is my first love, but the truth is he never changed. So yes, sometimes first loves do come back but usually the break up has happened for a reason and if someone is willing to break your heart once, they will probably have no problem doing it again. I guess they are called first loves because there will be more after them. I regret giving my ex another chance because I have to go through the heart ache all over again but we can only take failed relationships as learning experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
Author budley12 Posted March 14, 2012 Author Share Posted March 14, 2012 it just hurts letting my ex go for good. he said he wants to stay friends but its so hard at this moment. I dont want to lose him completely since hes a great person. I still love him and would want to get back, but since he's never dated anyone before I think he wants to see what else is out there (it doesnt help ive broken his heart due to cheating, and it was never really the same again). But he knows ive changed and I would never do it again. I am hoping that he just wants to see what else is out there and then may decide to come back to me with a completely fresh start Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 it just hurts letting my ex go for good. he said he wants to stay friends but its so hard at this moment. I dont want to lose him completely since hes a great person. I still love him and would want to get back, but since he's never dated anyone before I think he wants to see what else is out there (it doesnt help ive broken his heart due to cheating, and it was never really the same again). But he knows ive changed and I would never do it again. I am hoping that he just wants to see what else is out there and then may decide to come back to me with a completely fresh start Many times! Each and every one were a mistake on my part! Run and never look back! If its the first then you have no comparisons..life's short! Link to post Share on other sites
fucpcg Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 My first love I was with from age 21-24ish. We were best friends when not fighting, but youth and both of us having challenging upbringings made it a bit firery. We went back and forth a bit after 24, about a couple more years. We didn't talk again till I was 39 (two years ago), when she sought me out on facebook. We are great friends again, and would most likely be dating if we didn't live in different cities. I have thought about moving to where she is.... I still miss her and care for her. Link to post Share on other sites
dev781 Posted March 15, 2012 Share Posted March 15, 2012 Met when we we're 15 (I am 25 today). We we're been friends and shared deep feelings. I dissapeared in 2004. We went strict NC for a year. Bumped into each other again in 2005. Started hanging out again and I dissapeared again. We went strict NC for another year. Bumped into each other again in 2006. We hung out. I dissapeared again. Went strict NC for 5 years. She contacted me in 2010 and I did not answer. I called her back in december 2011. Dated. I left again. I still love her deeply but we have different life path and I'm going to work abroad in a few months. Sometimes moving on does not mean you will not meet in the future. I still have faith. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts