fortyninethousand322 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Let's say you barely know someone. Like you might have exchanged a word or two over a year's time even though you sort of have the same social group. That person then adds you on facebook. Another year goes by without that person ever talking to you and they send you an IM on facebook. Creepy or no? Maybe just weird? Would you even respond?
eleanorhurting Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 not creepy at all. this is how some of my relationships have started actually
ja123 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 I do find it rather odd. Is this someone you might consider dating?
Leigh 87 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 People who are positivem open minded, and unjudgmental will not assume a person is some creaper for sending a msg on facebook... I think it is fine for people you used to know, to want to reach out. Where as other people are soo uptight and judgmental and BORING ( and mean in my opinion) they are like " omg, why the heck are they talking to me, we were not even friends back in high school, what a sad loser they must be'./ No. SOme people just enjoy reaching out and talking to new people. U do not have to be super busy with your own life and friends, to be a social " norm". Super buisy people can feel compelled to let people say hello to them.. 2
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 I do find it rather odd. Is this someone you might consider dating? I don't know. I mean she's cute and seems nice but I have no idea if I'd date her or not. I mean she could be a total jerk for all I know.
eleanorhurting Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 it would be weird if you asked her out right off the bat how this has worked for me has been to pay attention to somehting she constantly posts about and ask her about that and then start talking. example: the idiot i briefly dated last summer: we knew each other but didnt really talk much. But i kept seeing all these status about west and east side and he was participating so i messaged him and asked "So can you please explain to me what this east and west side thing is that everyone is posting about??!?". hey it worked even if it was an epic fail in the end, we did end up going out. Not right there but a few months later. After that we would message back and forth and we would talk more when we saw each other and eventually it led to a date.
BetheButterfly Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Let's say you barely know someone. Like you might have exchanged a word or two over a year's time even though you sort of have the same social group. That person then adds you on facebook. Another year goes by without that person ever talking to you and they send you an IM on facebook. Creepy or no? Maybe just weird? Would you even respond? People are different. I don't see it as creepy or weird. It would be a surprise though. Isn't it a nice surprise?
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 IIII would have to say that's kinda creepy in my book, but they're just keeping you on the backburner as an option, it's pretty typical of people to do but I think It's best said by Captain Hook "Bad form Peter...bad form" And I'm not sure If I'd be so inclined to gauge eleanorhurting as a medium for normal...her experiences from her post may lead me to believe she may be a little...cray cray
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 it would be weird if you asked her out right off the bat Lol. No, I wouldn't do that. I barely ask out girls I do know, let alone almost strangers. ihow this has worked for me has been to pay attention to somehting she constantly posts about and ask her about that and then start talking. example: the idiot i briefly dated last summer: we knew each other but didnt really talk much. But i kept seeing all these status about west and east side and he was participating so i messaged him and asked "So can you please explain to me what this east and west side thing is that everyone is posting about??!?". hey it worked even if it was an epic fail in the end, we did end up going out. Not right there but a few months later. After that we would message back and forth and we would talk more when we saw each other and eventually it led to a date. I see. Yeah that's kind of what I was going for. I wasn't necessarily looking to date her (I mean if that happened c'est la vie) just more like wondering if it would be weird to just message her out of the blue.
eleanorhurting Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 IIII would have to say that's kinda creepy in my book, but they're just keeping you on the backburner as an option, it's pretty typical of people to do but I think It's best said by Captain Hook "Bad form Peter...bad form" And I'm not sure If I'd be so inclined to gauge eleanorhurting as a medium for normal...her experiences from her post may lead me to believe she may be a little...cray cray the fact that you are using my advice on someone else's thread to call me crazy makes me think you are a prick
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 IIII would have to say that's kinda creepy in my book, but they're just keeping you on the backburner as an option, it's pretty typical of people to do but I think It's best said by Captain Hook "Bad form Peter...bad form" And I'm not sure If I'd be so inclined to gauge eleanorhurting as a medium for normal...her experiences from her post may lead me to believe she may be a little...cray cray Ok so do I just never talk to her? She was someone kind of in the social group I was with in college. The people I really liked from the group I'm still friends with and they no longer hang out with the others so it's not like I'll be running into her any time soon. It's basically either facebook or nothing. Unfortunately.
ThaWholigan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 the fact that you are using my advice on someone else's thread to call me crazy makes me think you are a prick I think he was just busting your balls OP: It's not creepy, just talk to her, even if its nerve wracking.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 the fact that you are using my advice on someone else's thread to call me crazy makes me think you are a prick Well for what it's worth I don't think you're crazy. I also don't think there's any such thing as "normal". I appreciate your advice and ideas.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 It's not inherently creepy, but it really depends upon what you say in your message to her.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 ThaWholigan was correct, I just busting her balls a little bit...joking. However, I think making a move isn't a bad idea...It's a bit weird but I'd say go for it If you'd like...but It doesn't seem it can lead anywhere and at least for myself, I would likely not pursue being that's it's unrealistic to meet the person at least and I don't want a LDR.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 However, I think making a move isn't a bad idea...It's a bit weird but I'd say go for it If you'd like...but It doesn't seem it can lead anywhere and at least for myself, I would likely not pursue being that's it's unrealistic to meet the person at least and I don't want a LDR. Well she lives fairly close by (like 20 minutes or so from where I live) the college we went to is a commuter school so it wouldn't be long distance at all.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Well then find out what she up to, If she has a boyfriend and all that jazz. Twenty minutes isn't far, I wouldn't blink at that, If anything probably Ideal. I think you should be the aggressor at this point If you want to find out the potential instead of sit on it.
Eclypse Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 If you want my opinion, here it is. Let's be honest 49, you're not exactly swimming in chicks at the moment and I really don't think you're in a position to be picking and choosing. If she's fairly hot and seems nice, why not give her a chance? It could be the best thing to ever happen to you. Or she could be a psycho, but that's the risk we take when we date. The one certain outcome will be if you decide not to do anything. That's what I'd do. If I was single now I wouldn't even be asking on these message boards for advice.
carhill Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Creepy or no? Maybe just weird? Would you even respond? Unknown. Unknown. Sure, if I wanted to. See how that works?
zengirl Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 It really depends on what you say whether it's "creepy." If it were me, I'd try commenting on something on her recent feed first before IMing her -- i.e. wait for an opening and then use that as a "Oh, that reminds me of you -- let's talk!" type thing. Unless she really just doesn't post anything where there'd be a decent opening, but many people do. Even just IMing her doesn't sound 'creepy' to me. It may be startling to her, though, as it can surprise people when they get contacts out of the blue.
make me believe Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 It doesn't sound creepy, I totally agree with Leigh! Just make sure you have something relevant to say in the msg. If she doesn't respond.. eh. Who cares? It's worth a shot, IMO.
ComMan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 I would consider any animal, bleeding for 5 days and not dying, pretty creepy and hella disturbing....
ComMan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 women are two faced. they call men pricks one minute and have sex with him the next. ahhh women. Woman told me she is not easy, she wants to be just friends, then 2 days later, she has sex with me.....then i tell her I don't want to be her friend, because sex was not regular enough...why would any Man be with a female that does not spread her legs for them on regular bases? What do i get for paying for her meals on non-sex days and nights? or taking them to movies with no sex after?...that is just dumb.
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