nick d Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Why does it seem that no matter what, everytime I start to feel better something or someone has to come kick me back down! I have been broken up for 6 weeks and NC for one week.. Yes I still miss her and think of her everyday but besides her everything just keeps going wrong!! For instance Saturday I meet an amazing girl that is very interested in me and the next day wants nothing to do with me! (no I'm not trying for a relationship, but it would be nice to have a cool girl to hang out with and talk to) And not just girls either. Things are the worst they have ever been at my job, my ex is happily dating someone else, I'm falling behind on bills due to what my ex left me with.. I just can't quite seem to get back up! I feel miserablee everyday and honestly I just don't care anymore.
madball2289 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 i know exactly how you feel. after me and my girl broke up i tired to look around and see what else i had in my life and had nothing else. nothing was going well at all. everything sucked. but you'll be fine just keep on living. its hard and it sucks but you just gotta keep things moving, all you can do. and I know you're saying about meeting a girl and then they don't want nothing to do with you. I met a girl saturday night, we talked for two hours exchanged numbers semi-made plans, called her tonight and get no answer, go figured, that **** gets old. but yeah man just keep pushing, keeping fighting, you'll catch a break eventually
coltsfan1 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 it WILL get better, I can promise you that. Last year was one of the worst years of my life, but this year has been one of the best. Just rains sometimes and shines sometimes, you just have to saver as much shine as you can to make up for the rain.
Chi townD Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 If you feel that life can get any lower than this; that you hit rock bottom. Then, there's only one direction to go, and that's up. But, YOU need to make that happen. YOU need to make those changes in your life. No one else is going to do that for you.
Author nick d Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 The thing is, is I really have been trying! Just keeping getting kicked back down no matter how hard I try.
Chi townD Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 okay...what have you done? Have you started to work out at the gym? To work out your stress and frustrations and improve your health and body image? Have you gotten a new haircut and bought new clothes? Change your style and self image? Have you gone back to school? Take some night courses to keep your mind focused and on a road to self and financial improvement? Have you made plans to travel somewhere that you've always wanted to go to? Have your done some or any of these?
tornangel Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Of course ur ex is happily dating someone else, Its NEW... Think about it... She is still the same person. We have to fix ourselves. A rebound or relationship wont fix us... That is what sucks, people blame the other person, while I am not saying anyone deserved bad treatment ( I sure didnt deserve to be physically abused by 3 diff guys) but what I am saying is that I obviously need to start loving myself before even contemplating a relationship with anyone.... I need to figure out alot of stuff. And while I dont care for my exs, I have to start figuring out why.. Or I will continue the same self defeating pattern... 1
tornangel Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 At the hardest times in life when we feel most alone is one of our weakest or strongest moments.. We are forced to either love ourselves or revictimize ourselves... Noone can love u if u dont luv urself and u cant love anyone if u dont love u. Stop looking for a fix, feel the pain. Grieve , and know it is normal. But start living for urself ... 1
stimson554 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 whatever you do, you gotta keep on the NC, i know it's gonna be hard but you really gotta resist those urges to talk to her, i remember talkin to you on another thread, i had the same situation with my girl, just keep on NC and resist. and if she ever says she wants to be just "friends" don't my ex said thatt to me i know what it means, the friendzone, it's a way for them to dump their guilt while boosting their ego knowing that they still have you on the hook. 1
tornangel Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Ya my ex tries the friends stuff still, and it has to be little contact because we have a son together. Friends is just saying het I am gonna dangle u on this string and I have like 3 other hot people also, so I will hit ya up, whenever I feel like it. Screw that 1
tornangel Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 COMPLETELY agree with Stimson ------ BOOSTING THEIR EGO 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 whatever you do, you gotta keep on the NC, i know it's gonna be hard but you really gotta resist those urges to talk to her, i remember talkin to you on another thread, i had the same situation with my girl, just keep on NC and resist. and if she ever says she wants to be just "friends" don't my ex said thatt to me i know what it means, the friendzone, it's a way for them to dump their guilt while boosting their ego knowing that they still have you on the hook. I wish I was able to word it as well as Stimson; this is extremely true!!!! I am going through this--my ex wanted to be friends. He is the type that will 'love' you, but search for 'better' while dating you. You will be dropped when he finds 'better',but 'hey, no reason why we still can't talk, is there?" the last time he tried texting me was in August. I think he's done, LOL. 1
Author nick d Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 Yeah I won't break NC. No point in contacting someone who doesn't care about me. 2
tornangel Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Bewitched, while he is off looking for anyone to feed his insecure self u are learning to love urself. So he will always blame evry girl and someday U will find a man who loves u and sees all of the things that lowlife could never see.
tornangel Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 this video always helps me to get a clear perpective : )
Author nick d Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 okay...what have you done? Have you started to work out at the gym? To work out your stress and frustrations and improve your health and body image? Have you gotten a new haircut and bought new clothes? Change your style and self image? Have you gone back to school? Take some night courses to keep your mind focused and on a road to self and financial improvement? Have you made plans to travel somewhere that you've always wanted to go to? Have your done some or any of these? Yes, I've been working out 4 days a week. But I have always worked out.. And I recently got signed up for school and I have been going out with friends trying to have fun.
stimson554 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 this video always helps me to get a clear perpective : ) Rocky always has the best advice for life! lol
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