budley12 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 My ex and I were together for just under 3 years. I still love him... we were each others firsts. I cheated at the beginning (not really b/c i told him I was not ready to date at the time, but in his eyes we were dating because we were fooling around) because I was still uncomfortable with my sexuality at the time. We had some on/off spells because he got back for my "cheating" and then I got back at him... but eventually we fell in deep love and I came out to my family for him, but as I fell in love he fell out. He blamed the "cheating" on him for him losing the love for me and breaking it off, but i think there was more to it. Anyways, he broke up with me 4 months ago and started seeing someone else. A month into the breakup he said he wanted to get back together, but as soon as school started back he dropped me again and said to "move on, but maybe down the road". He said he wants to stay friends but it was too painful seeing him with another guy, so I started strict NC 3 weeks ago. I asked him to not contact me at all and I fear I have closed the door completely... I am still in love and am hoping we will once get back. We are both studying abroad next semester in different places so I am hoping that maybe after this seperation he may realize he misses me and that the new guy is just a rebound to fill the void. But what I am mainly wondering is... should I break NC to hopefully reopen the door before our study abroad, should I wait till during, after? Also I feel I lost another family since I become close to his, i feel i want to contact them but my ex may see it as me manipulating to get him back... I am thinking maybe I should just let it go, but I want to thank them for everything theyve done for me... maybe send a christmas card next year while I am abroad and see from there? Thanks for reading/feedback
windmask Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 well i never cheated on my ex gf or whatever but i was madly in love with her however by the end of the relationship was humiliated by her so bad that i felt i can never fall in love again. she was my bestest friend and as well as my gf however it all changed when she broke up. after a year of no contact i contacted her two days ago when i had gone through something terrible in my family. i felt worthless i thought we were good friends she wouldnt have a problem. however i was wrong she decided not even respond to it and i know she got it. in the end i felt more worthless here was a girl who i loved with all my heart and probably still do. yet she doesnt care one bit. so really if your prepared for this person to be a complete jerk or not respond then sure go for it and message ur ex.
Fitz Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 You're young and about to go abroad. So have fun and enjoy your life! Trust me, if your ex bumps into a cute foreigner overseas, then he's not going to think twice about having a romantic fling. And he won't want to be tied down in a relationship either when that happens! Neither should you! So don't break NC. Move on. Start enjoying the rest of your life! 1
M2155 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 You need to Take some time and get over it. If he lets you go whenever something or someone else comes along to occupy his time and attention, it's just going tonkeepnhappening and you will feel like less and less. He knows you are there wishing for him back. Don't be. Like Fitz said, you are young, there will be others. Go enjoy your time abroad. His loss. You will heal.
Author budley12 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 i just dont want to lose him. i hope one day we can be friends... but i guess only time will tell. what about contacting his family though? just to say thank you and such.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 i just dont want to lose him. i hope one day we can be friends... but i guess only time will tell. what about contacting his family though? just to say thank you and such. He's not making efforts to keep you, is he? Let that bird fly. Forget his family; let them contact you if they want.
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