Jane2011 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 This thread is just for fun. Most people on this board are single and struggling with dating, but I think at any given time, there's someone interested in you that you just don't really want, OR that you're interested in but can't really get or have. Even married or attached people probably currently have people who want them. You?
Author Jane2011 Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Me: I don't like anybody right now. Or rather, the person I like is the last person I dated, and it didn't work out. So I think about him all the time, but have been disciplined enough not to talk to him because it would be bad for me. There are two people I know of who are interested in me. One is the uncle of a kid I tutor. He's always trying to talk to me when I am at their house. He's 6'1" and sort of good-looking but somehow I'm just not into him. He also owns his own business. The other is an Indian guy who I went on a date with about two and half months ago. I told him after our date that I wasn't interested in pursuing anything, and he accepted it. But he still texts me periodically (like once every two weeks) still trying to talk to me. And just recently asked if I want to hang out sometime. It's like he doesn't care that I'm not interested, he still wants to be around me. Or he's foolishly persistent as hell? Ironically, the guy I am hung up on is Indian. So I like Indian men, just not this one who likes me.
verhrzn Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 This thread is just for fun. Most people on this board are single and struggling with dating, but I think at any given time, there's someone interested in you that you just don't really want, OR that you're interested in but can't really get or have. Even married or attached people probably currently have people who want them. You? There's this programmer I've had a never-talked-to-crush on for the last 6 months, but so far as I know he has a girlfriend/fiancee. I sneak glances at him during lunch and then sigh into my salad.
Ross MwcFan Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 No one is interested in me. I'm interested in about 90% of women. 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 No one is interested in me. I'm interested in about 90% of women. This is me kind of. I don't really have a crush on anyone but I do find 90% of women attractive. I don't hang out with women. Ever. The last women I met were the girls on my basketball team. Two are in relationships and the third one I have no idea. All are cute but I don't really socialize with them. Me and my family went out to dinner yesterday. I thought our waitress was really good looking. My brother totally disagreed with me though and thought I was weird. I'm certain no one is interested in me. Because well, I don't know any women.
Real36 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I have a school girl crush on an unavailable co-worker, nothing serious. I also have an ex from a few years ago who I randomly bump into every once in a awhile, pretty sure he is still interested but I am not.
SmileFace Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I am only interested in one person. A guy I started talking to from online dating. He lives in my city and we started talking while I was away for a couple of months.We both were to busy to meet up when I returned due to communication issues. However we are both now playing phone tag with each other since we both aren't interested enough to persue each other but enough to keep contacting each other. It is a stupid cycle really but he is the closest I am to being actually interested in some one. I have a guy I dated who is still contact with me even tho he is long distance and knows I am not interested in a ldr or he may just be bored. Besides that I don't think anyone is interested in me.
Kamille Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 No one is interested in me. I'm interested in about 90% of women. There's a 90% chance Ross is interested in me. I'm otherwise not aware of anyone interested in me. I have small crushes on guys I meet here and there, but nothing significant thus far. They're fleeting infatuations. 1
Nightsky Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 There's a 90% chance Ross is interested in me. I'm otherwise not aware of anyone interested in me. I have small crushes on guys I meet here and there, but nothing significant thus far. They're fleeting infatuations. Smart man puts his bet on 100%.
eleanorhurting Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 who I am interested in: Well this changes every two weeks as the people I am interested obviously are not interested in me and I eventually get over it. The last person: a classmate of mine. Who i decided i should not get involved with as he is a classmate. But then we had ice cream on friday and after flirting for a long time he told me he was looking for something "casual" and that he could tell I was not. I also recently had a crush and i messaged him but he did not show much interest. about a month ago I had a crush on a guy who we hung out a couple of times and then he just stopped calling/texting me out of the blue. I have developed crushes on people from this forum also who is interested in me: Well my neighbor texts me almost everyday to ask me what I am doing and if I want to do something. I am not really attracted physically and he seems really wimpy. And the fact that he keeps texting me constantly when I never initiate is a little annoying and desperate.
Author Jane2011 Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 I am only interested in one person. A guy I started talking to from online dating. He lives in my city and we started talking while I was away for a couple of months.We both were to busy to meet up when I returned due to communication issues. However we are both now playing phone tag with each other since we both aren't interested enough to persue each other but enough to keep contacting each other. It is a stupid cycle really but he is the closest I am to being actually interested in some one. I have a guy I dated who is still contact with me even tho he is long distance and knows I am not interested in a ldr or he may just be bored. Besides that I don't think anyone is interested in me. Maybe you and the online guy should meet in person. Sometimes in-person chemistry is there even though it wasn't online. I talked to a guy for two and a half weeks online and felt little/almost nothing but kept talking to him just to be polite. After he forced me to meet him in person, I was all kinds of attracted and soon totally fell for him. It's a long shot, but it might happen... 1
WhiteChocolate Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I suspect a classmate of mine likes me. He keeps hanging around me and included me in his close circle of friends even though we didn't really know each other. Although now he is becoming a friend. He still hasn't asked me out yet; I think he is romantically awkward. I'm not physically attracted to him though. This other guy who is pursuing me has a girlfriend in China. I didn't know and went on a few dates with him, then found out via Facebook. I asked him about her and he admitted it...then called me up the next day asking me out for lunch.
Author Jane2011 Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 I have developed crushes on people from this forum also Who do you have a crush on from here? (nosy)
Author Jane2011 Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 This other guy who is pursuing me has a girlfriend in China. I didn't know and went on a few dates with him, then found out via Facebook. I asked him about her and he admitted it...then called me up the next day asking me out for lunch. Did he explain why he was asking you out? Is it just because he doesn't see her enough? Does she know and is she okay with it? Are you going to see him? Just wondering. I had the same thing happen to me. Guy pursued me and I ended up finding out two weeks later he has a girlfriend and is in an open relationship. I liked him, though, and got involved. But then I got un-involved.
eleanorhurting Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Who do you have a crush on from here? (nosy) I'll never tell
LifesBeachy Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 A couple exs are interested in me.. A couple of guys I went on 1-2 dates with are interested. I talk with the aforementioned guys because I enjoy their company; however, I dont feel there's enough there to have a relationship with any of these... Only one of the exs I semi have a crush on. And the other guy I'm interested in, I met online but we havent met in person yet so I'm hoping they'll be chemistry, etc.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Well my attraction for hot girls haven't ceased but as for guys, I'm sticking with one guy I met off of OKC.
jobaba Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 The other is an Indian guy who I went on a date with about two and half months ago. I told him after our date that I wasn't interested in pursuing anything, and he accepted it. But he still texts me periodically (like once every two weeks) still trying to talk to me. And just recently asked if I want to hang out sometime. It's like he doesn't care that I'm not interested, he still wants to be around me. Or he's foolishly persistent as hell? Ironically, the guy I am hung up on is Indian. So I like Indian men, just not this one who likes me. Maybe he just wants to be friends. If you went out on one date and he's not a psycho or super lonely dude, chances are he hasn't developed an enormous attachment to you. I try and stay friends with every woman that I've had a major thing for and my exes. I figure if I liked them enough as people to date them seriously or have a major attachment to them, they're worth keeping in my life. Life is short... There is the issue of still having feelings for them and not being able to handle seeing them with another ... and if that's the case then I jump ship. But I do try and keep them in my life otherwise.
jobaba Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 This thread is just for fun. Most people on this board are single and struggling with dating, but I think at any given time, there's someone interested in you that you just don't really want, OR that you're interested in but can't really get or have. Even married or attached people probably currently have people who want them. You? Well. I have a girlfriend who I'll assume is interested in me. I also have an ex-GF in the area who I think might still be interested in a relationship. We fooled around when me and the current gal were still 'dating and non-exclusive', but I'm not so sure what her level of desire is. It's not something I'm considering on my end though. I'm looking for friendship from her. Before that, I basically fell head over heels for an ex-coworker of mine. She had no interest. If she changed her mind, my gut emotion would tell me to drop everything and chase her. My emotional attraction to her was through the roof. But no way I would do that to my current. No chance in h@ll...
jobaba Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 No one is interested in me. I'm interested in about 90% of women. This is me kind of. I don't really have a crush on anyone but I do find 90% of women attractive. I don't hang out with women. Ever. The last women I met were the girls on my basketball team. Two are in relationships and the third one I have no idea. All are cute but I don't really socialize with them. Me and my family went out to dinner yesterday. I thought our waitress was really good looking. My brother totally disagreed with me though and thought I was weird. I'm certain no one is interested in me. Because well, I don't know any women. I wouldn't put the number that high. For me, I'd say I could be physically attracted to ~70% of women in my applicable age range. But of course, I'd screen out a lot of them based on personality and level of shallowness. At my last job, I worked with about 12 different women and I thought they were all attractive to varying degrees. Who is the more shallow gender again? Never mind. Nobody answer that question...
Author Jane2011 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 Maybe he just wants to be friends. If you went out on one date and he's not a psycho or super lonely dude, chances are he hasn't developed an enormous attachment to you. I try and stay friends with every woman that I've had a major thing for and my exes. I figure if I liked them enough as people to date them seriously or have a major attachment to them, they're worth keeping in my life. Life is short... There is the issue of still having feelings for them and not being able to handle seeing them with another ... and if that's the case then I jump ship. But I do try and keep them in my life otherwise. You may be right about him. I'll admit I don't know for sure what his intentions are. He could still be trying to get me romantically...or not. As far as his level of loneliness, he's a social guy and goes out plenty and has lots of friends (he's a Facebook friend of mine and I've always known him to be very social). But social doesn't mean has girlfriends. I think he could be lonely in that sense. He's okay looking, but without going into details, he's got some things working against him, dating-wise... But then the fact of him being social and having plenty of friends both male and female begs the question: why does he particularly want me as a friend if he's got many? I don't know. But I agree about not discarding people in one's life. I am friends with a good handful of my exes who I think are worthwhile people (and those who I don't think are worthwhile, I'm not friends with them). I can't wait to be over a certain guy I'm hung up on now because I would like to be friends with him later. He's smart and just the basic type of guy I like to have in my social circle. But I won't do it until I'm really over him.
Author Jane2011 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 Before that, I basically fell head over heels for an ex-coworker of mine. She had no interest. If she changed her mind, my gut emotion would tell me to drop everything and chase her. My emotional attraction to her was through the roof. But no way I would do that to my current. No chance in h@ll... Wow. That's pretty serious. Would you not do it (react to the ex-coworker changing her mind) just out of loyalty to the current, though? Would you emotionally *want* to be with the ex-co-worker? I think it would be hurtful to your current, of course, but in the end, pursuing what makes you happy is not wrong.
jobaba Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Wow. That's pretty serious. Would you not do it (react to the ex-coworker changing her mind) just out of loyalty to the current, though? Would you emotionally *want* to be with the ex-co-worker? I think it would be hurtful to your current, of course, but in the end, pursuing what makes you happy is not wrong. Meh. I've had similar emotional highs for women before and gotten over it with time. I don't think having those women would make me happier per se.
carhill Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Fun but thought provoking. I just realized, for nearly the first time in my adult life, there's no one I want, meaning want for a healthy and loving romantic and sexual relationship. It's very peaceful. As I have historically been clueless about anyone being interested in me, I presume I'll continue to wallow in ignorant bliss. Maybe I'm dead 2
ThaWholigan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 As far as I know, nobody I know is interested in me apart from a girl online from Manchester who rings me every now and then and also gets her mum to prank call me (why did I give her my number lol). I've had fleeting looks quite often but nothing concrete. As for who I like, well there is the one girl I still think about occasionally who I used to like. I've got a bit of a crush on the girl that works at the co-op as well .
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