sillystar Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 today marks a week into my breakup with my ex. we have been in 3 on and off breakups/get back togethers, but this break up was different.. it was very clean. i was and still in some ways shocked how readily we both came to terms with leaving each other that day, but some days my heart feels like i want to talk to him, be with him, see him, be held by/ hold him. i have only contacted him to get my things back from his house, and left quickly without saying much other than seeing how is. i was ok last week, i felt over him and done with ever trying to get back with him (as i was comfortable doing before). i even was sad the day after enough to cry at work then when that passed i felt better. i told my friends and my best girl friend that things are ended. i told them so that i could believe it too.. so i wouldnt linger on maybe gettin back together with him. i was strong and distracted throughout the week because i was studying lots for my exam this past saturday (and i did okay )but today, feels like i'm back to square one and i want to be affectionate with him/ call or text him.. because i enjoyed our relationship very much. the reason why we broke up is because on monday i said to my ex.. sometimes i want to be in this relationship and sometimes i do not. he told me that he doesn't think this is just a phase because i've had feelings like this before. he then said that he thinks we should end things or else we may become really hurt in the future because of my feelings. he told me that he doesnt question his feelings for me and i'm all he ever wanted. i agreed and parted with him on an okay note.. no crying or cliff hangers. just ended everything. so why is it that i was so strong last week and today i feel torn? i do not wish to think about being in a relationship with him again and okay with that... i just miss him. he was my best friend and i loved him for that. do you think he and i will get over each other? what are the stages of a healthy breakup? he has tried to contact me by text as a friend but i dont know how to respond if i dont want to be just his friend yet.. i dont want to confuse him. thankyou
Author sillystar Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 wow thanks NOBODY. i got my answer here. so much for loveshack being a helpful site. Stages Of Grief After A Breakup | LIVESTRONG.COM
Falcon25 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Your feelings come and go because you are a girl.
Fitz Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 wow thanks NOBODY. i got my answer here. so much for loveshack being a helpful site. Stages Of Grief After A Breakup | LIVESTRONG.COM Well, you just posted today. So I don't think the response time is all that unusual for this forum! Anyway, realize that it's natural after a breakup to have second thoughts and doubts. Will you get back together? Who knows. But you can't dwell on it. Life is about making hard choices. Sometimes you just have to roll the dice.
Philosoraptor Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 What were you unhappy with? The back and forth usually correlates with being unhappy with something yet being too familiar or too afraid to leave. Was impatience an issue in the relationship?
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