confidence101 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 okay ive been dating this girl for 2 and a half yrs now. we rushed into the relationship but soon everything sorted itself out. we have so much fun and travel all the time ( i am a pilot) and we do almost everything together. after a smooth ride things started to get rocky. she is possessed with having my fb password and she goes thru my phone. we got into an argument and i wouldnt open the door for her and she keyed my car(a bmw) surprisingly i forgave her. from then on everything was good. now i made mistakes down the line but whenever i do she almost always go into silent mode hang up the phone and stop talkin to me. i used to beg her to talk to me/show up at her house. whenever shes mad at something she does not talk it out like i want to and stays silent its like she stays mad forever until i contact her. we go into a fight days b4 my bday and she walked out on me on my bday because she wasnt over it! i feel like such a punk when she acts like this because i dont want to lose her and almost always go running back to her. just 2 days ago she went into my fb and seen me talking to my brothers ex girlfriend(not knowing she was a good friend since she didnt ask) called me out on it and hung up the phone on me and started acting the way she usually would, not talking etc. i was so pissed. i broke up with her and been doing the NC RULE ever since. i have a weak moment every 15 minutes hust thinking of her but i know if i run back to her ill have to accept less than what i want from her and the same thing will happen again. i need closure advice. its been 2 days and im losing weight not eating and i cant sleep thru the night. i love this girl and everyone knows it i dont know how long i can keep up the nc rule what should i do?
Philosoraptor Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 It can hurt at the start. Once you start focusing on yourself and not worrying so much about her it will get much easier. Work towards acceptance and finding peace with the situation.
InJest Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Just do what you've done here. Whenever you think you want to contact her, come post here instead. Focus on work and see if you can find some other ladies to talk to. You're a pilot, it can't be that hard to at least chat some women up.
Patrice Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Why is she so jealous and insecure? If you know she isn't in your best interest, keep posting here. Anybody who would key your car, has issues, want your FB password? Control freak.
Author confidence101 Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 ive been logged on for hours now and its helping:mad: shes been cheated on by her ex and i felt bad for her he even feels bad for her. he said he thought she was gonna die so it musta hurt her pretty bad. So with everything she says if you love me youll have nothing to hide and i didnt have anything to hide that trnslated into her having the pwrd to both fb and my phone
Anela Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 It will hurt even more, the longer you stay in touch. I know - I've done it.
Patrice Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Maybe she's not over it ... how about counseling? That kind of behavior is unacceptable .. and why should you be responsible for what her ex did to her?
Author confidence101 Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 im not responsible for it i just thought id make it easier on her by showing her i have nothing to hide instead she logs in my fb and checks she even have the app on her phone my fb is no longer mine anymore and anytime i leave my phone layin around u can forget it shell go thru everything one by one. never done anything more than talk to girls.
Arkaeology Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Pardon the bluntness but you sir is "pussy-whipped." Grow some balls and lift it high up in the air (since you're a pilot). She's treating you like a doormat and you're more than happy to accept it. Although you're off to a great start by doing no contact but again, you'll be back to being a door mat if you contact her first and the cycle starts again.
Real36 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Hanging up and giving the silent treatment seem like control tactics to me. No contact is the way to go if you want to prove to her that it is not okay to treat you that way. It is very hard, but it will give you time to reflect...and possibly allow you to finally see the other issues in your relationship clearly. Keep it up!
Author confidence101 Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Lol at ark ur definitely right I see that n I don't care about bluntness ur 100% right I kno she had me right where she wanted me I'm surprised I broke up with her... n I'm gonna keep the nc up thanks for the encouragement this site really helps
SciGuy Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 (edited) I'm on day 2 of no contact also and it sucks. Edited March 13, 2012 by SciGuy
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