rd1978 Posted June 9, 2004 Posted June 9, 2004 why is my ex acting like a 15 year old,,, we are 25,,ill explain her to you,, she is very insecure, makes momentary decisions,, and an extremly jelious person,, but i did fall in love with her after 5 years togethor,,, this girl is acting like a complete a**hole,, she thinks she is on top of the world,, becaue we split,,{ she broke up with me } then days later she was hanging out with this guy thats beent rying to get w/ her,, i know theyt alked and stuff while we were togethor,, beleive me all of my girlfriends and guy friends say he's not attractive and she downgraded bigtime,, but its almost like {haha i left you and your by yourself and i have him} and i beleive he just came out of a relationship to,, he his skinny tall and lanky with a long ugly face,,, hey i know looks dont mean everything.... but this is a girl who was so insecure she told me that all my girlfriends were ugly and would always point out some stupid flaw which meant nothing,, and that is farthest from the truth all my girls friends are HOT.... like i saw her out 1 week after we broke up and they were at a club holding hands and hugging,, etc etc,, i didnt do anything about it,, but i thaught that was a little disprectfull,, when i saw what the kid looked liked i felt much better becasue he also seemed like a punk from the way he dressed with his plastic shoes,,,w/t/f now if the situation was flipped and she saw me out with a chick her heart would have been smashed in a million pieces...im thinking it might be some kinda phase... she has been at all the same bars i would go to with this kid and she alwasy complained and siad those bars suck,, and that goign out is for younger people,, she condradicts just about everything that comes out of her mouth,,,who knows she always had some stability issues,,, do you think this is her way coping and trying to make herself feel strong by acting like an idiot,, and being someone she isnt?i know she misses me because she trys to im me once in a while and the 1 time i did reply she called me 3 times in a row after that but i didnt awnser,, i d love to sit down and have a heart to heart with her but there is no way with her acting this way,, i know it cant last very long what goes up must come down,, so do you think i should let her be?? talk to her when she calls? she did this 1 time before and she went off the hook drinking like crazy being a totall bitch to me etc etc. then 1 day she snapped and realized what she was doing and didnt want anythign thqan to be with me,, ,, and yes i took her back no one is perfect and i loved her ,, but she has a problem thinking about the reality of things and consequences sometimes,, she can be a big bad tough girl when she is with her guy but i guarentee it if she saw me with a girl she would be dumbfounded
KANSAN Posted June 9, 2004 Posted June 9, 2004 RD1978, SORRY TO HEAR WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH, IT SEEMS TO ME THAT SHE HAS MADE ANOTHER QUICK NON THOUGHT OUT DECISION THAT SHE REGRETS AND DOES'NT THINK SHE CAN FIX IT SO THIS IS HOW SHE MAKES HERSELF FEEL BETTER BY TRYING TO HURT YOU. MY ADVICE TO YOU IS TO LET HER BE, SHE WILL BRING MUCH PAIN INTO YOUR LIFE IF YOU STAY IN TOUCH TRYING TO WORK IT OUT IT MIGHT BE HARD NOW BUT YOU CAN GET THROUGH IT TRUST ME I WAS MARRIED AND MY WIFE DID PRACTICALLY THE SAME THING ONLY WE HAD A KID THAT NOW I CANNOT BE WITH LIKE A REAL DAD, IF ONLY I WOULD OF HAD A FORUM LIKE THIS MABY I WOULDNT BE DIVORCED BECAUSE I WOULD HAVE REALIZED THE PERSON THAT SHE WAS BEFORE I MARRIED THIS PERSON. PROTECT YA NECK
Author rd1978 Posted June 9, 2004 Author Posted June 9, 2004 thanks bud im doing alot better its been 6 weeks,, i just need to find my self a nice girl,, she was horrible in the sack anyway,, ive been hanging out with somen else that seems to fill that position 10 times better but ive told her im not looking for "anything because im def not ready" its an old friend,, i hear where your coming from id rahter it happen now than later,, the thing is also ,,,, i was her first, im sure she wants to see whats out there etc .etc. and the only way she could do that was to go off the deep end take up this guys offer's and go out and get drunk alot more with her friends,, itll come to and end when she realizes what t/f she is doing... and im not around .. i think she is in some kind of denial stage or something ... thats why id love for her to "see me with someone" to give her a dose of reality,, i know how she really feels about me ,, its almost that she wants to have her fun because she missed out,, she is beatifull and i didnt get her what she needed but,, that was also because she was an insecure pain int he ass,, she did it with me she will do it with someone else.... she is very stubborn and anal,, that is when she gets close to someone,,,im thinking she needs to live and learn,, i cant wait for her to come out of fantasy land,, i know she has been out drinking untill like 1--,,, 3 or so times a week and she just started a new job where she has to be up at 6 and drive an hour,, she has still been trying to contact me but since i ignore it she has been less and less,,,, i have only called her like 1 time in 6 weeks,, she has probally called me like 20 but its less and less,,becuase i havent returned or awnsered anything,, which seems to push her ont this other guy,,, i swear she would go nutzo if she saw me holding another girls hand,, i know she is with this guy or seeing him,, same ****,, believe me he is nothing special at ALL he probally just fills her head with ****..........yeah i dont think she is all pumped up like she was 4 weeks ago.... but 1 of the next time she calls i might awnser just so she can hear my voice ..... its such bull**** the games and crap,, ive realized she is unstable and immature the way she is acting,,,,, dont get me wrong i wasnt perfect either but im ready to make that commitment move it to the next level,, but she has a hrad time believing me becasue thigns never seem to change ,, but thats because i wasnt ready,, she was such a good person all her friends are trashy,,, she always had a good head on her shoulder and now that she is 24 she is going backwards full steam, the 1 time i ddi awnser when she did call she was sooo happy to hear from me,, but i cut the converstion of because i was busy,, so it seems like she has to run off with her boy and drink and do something 24/7 otherwise she will call,,, so im confused but im not calling her she already thinks she is superwomen,, or thaught she was anyway,, she thinks she is she sh*t becasue she found someon else how immature........ i know she is wondering what im doing because she hasnt seen me out or anything, for all she knows im with someone else
KANSAN Posted June 10, 2004 Posted June 10, 2004 IF SHE IS NOT DATING THIS GUY FOR THE RIGHT REASONS IT WILL COME OUT AND SHE PROBABLY COME RUNNING BACK. THE GRASS LOOKED GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE BUT WHEN SHE GOT OVER THERE THE GRASS WAS BROWNER AND WHORSE THAN SHE EVER IMIANGED. OUT OF THE FRYING PAN AND INTO THE FIRE SO TO SPEAK. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU ASK FOR YOU JUST MIGHT GET IT. I THINK YOU GET MY POINT. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP
Author rd1978 Posted June 10, 2004 Author Posted June 10, 2004 actually i think she is having fun witht his kid,, come on who wouldnt have fun going out and drinking 24/7 with some new guy and doing things,, going to a baseball game .etc but the thing is there is a reality behind all of this,, and sooner or later she is going to realize that she needs to grow the f/up... this is the same **** that happened a year ago... but this time she isnt calling me nearly as much... she is blinded by this dude,, because its ... soemthing new and they were talking alot on the computer and he probally made her feel good about herself etc.etc. i do want to talk to her but she enes her time and sapce to figure this out for herself and to realize what she lost or didnt lose,,, i think she does like himbut for all the wrong reasons,, and there isnt a very strong backbone behind that,,, like i said it's {something differnt} where you dont have to deal with any bull**** or personal crap because you dont know the person very well.....im wondering if she is missing me,, im wondering if i need to drop a hello in an email or ,, just to leave it alone so she wonders ,,, i do miss her but she is a tough person to deal with,, dont know if this dude has figured that out yet,, prob not.... But there is one thing i do know when this happended last year and i finally said see ya later i dont want anything to do with this and started ssing someone else she came back,,{ but this kid was a complete piece of **** to} i dont know why i bother ,she is unstable and immature,, but i suppose i love her,,, so my biggest thing is let her be and ignore the situatiopn,, or when or if she does call talk to her and stuff,,, i thin if i dont ignore her she will call more and more,,, the thing is once we started talking last time,, i refused to talk to her then also,, and when i did start talking again she droped this guy,, she is being very rebelious,, and probally thinks she is a badass,, but i have a very big feeling about it kicking her in the ass in the long run
KANSAN Posted June 10, 2004 Posted June 10, 2004 I THINK IT DEPENDS O HOW YOU ARE DEALING WITH THE SITUATION WEATHER OR NOT YOU SHOULD GET IN TOUCH WITH HER JUST BE PREPARED GETTING IN TOUCH WITH HER COULD ADD FUEL TO HER FIRE, BUT IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER ABOUT THE SITUATION DO IT BE CONFIDENT AND LET HER KNOW WHAT SHE IS MISSING BY BEING THE MORE MATURE, TOGETHER PERSON. PEACE
Author rd1978 Posted June 10, 2004 Author Posted June 10, 2004 i think i def have to wait untill she calle me ,, at that point she is feeling down or thinking about me,, that is the best time,, if i call her ,, it will most def add fuel to the fire,, i dont understand how people can be so stupid,,, i never once begged or pleaded or anything like that ,, i dont care what the hell she says i know where her heart,,she is only fooling herself ,, and no im not cocky or anything like that,, and it isnt wishfull thinking,, i just know how she is is i may have hurt it a couple orf times but she has done the same to me.... ill be honest here,,, it may sound really weird but i know she thinks i dont want to be with her,,, because i never put that effort in i went out with my friends did my own thing i wanted her to do the same so we wouldnt end up in " this " situation and she would get the curiosity's out of her system ,, but i guees i went about it wrong,, the worst part of the relationship was the COMMUNICATION issue's,, on bolth parts,, but now im ready,, just took a little kick int he ass,,, and if she dont want it somoeone else will
Author rd1978 Posted June 10, 2004 Author Posted June 10, 2004 another thing that really really pisses me off,,, when we broke up she was like are u going to be sad? i said listen ill deal with it,, she said your not going to be sad ? i said yeah prob but she happens what am i doing to do if you dont feel the same way,, then she said in a laughing voice,, well you really dont love me much do you,,,and after that i realized i couldnt have a rational conversation with her,,, the last time this happened , whens he found out i was seeing someone else she gave me all this ****,, like your just going to hurt this girll,,, your not over me ,, if you love me youll wait for me to decide what i want..... you shouldt be seeing somone else.. the list goes on .....{ now keep in mind she is out banging some other dude who is a scumbag} ,, i let it goes becasue i was the only guy she has ever been with .....she just feels that what is ok for her is not for anyone else,, after thinking and typing this i dont know why the hell im even thinking ,, and why i miss her
KANSAN Posted June 10, 2004 Posted June 10, 2004 GOOD QUESTION, TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS AND CLEARS THOUGHT PROCESSES WHATEVER YOU DECIDE TO DO BE STRONG, FUNNY ME, ITS EASIER SAID THAN DONE I SHOULD KNOW,TRY TO BE STRONG IT'LL BE BEST FOR YOUR WELL BEING.
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