beefolive Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Hi Guys, Im hoping some of you will be able to give me some good advice because if im being honest i feel pretty lost and confused now. I posted before but basically my gf and i who have been together for 6 years recently split. It came from her, she said id always tended to put other things ahead of her and basically she didnt know if she loved me anymore. This was three weeks ago. Since then, she has told me she wants to try again 3 times. Each of those times has been fine for a few days and then she says she has changed her mind again. This culminated with her doing the same yesterday. She popped over and said in her head she wants to give things another go but her heart doesnt want too. Im mad for her, i still am the same after the 6 years. Dont get me wrong, we have had our ups and downs but we have had a good time toegther. I dont want to give up on her, she genuinley means the world to me but im just not sure where to go or what to do now. I know she is confused about us, deep down i know she still wants something but i dont want to push her away. My head tells me i should be trying to text her and ring her and trying to do something to make it better. Any good advice would be most welcome guys. Thanks in advance.
Philosoraptor Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Well she has said she was unhappy with things. Even so, the urge for the familiarity is pretty strong and can outweigh the reasons that caused the breakup. After getting that taste of what they had again those nostalgic feelings go away and they are reminded of what caused them to leave. Right now what you need to do is tell her that you both need time to heal and work on the issues that plagued the relationship in the past before a new one could ever occur.
freetolove Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Make a set time, give yourself one mo. apart. Don't think about getting back together. GO NC for a month to see what happens. She thinks you're to easy to push around. My first bf was like you and I was young and immature. It was so stupid and he loved me very much. But I didn't feel like he was "strong" enough for me. Let her know that you WILL NOT get pushed around. She will either clean up her act or move on. If she moves on it's for the better instead of playing back and forth for too long.
Author beefolive Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Thanks for the advice so far. I gave her a call earlier and suggested that we have a break for a while and see what happens. Its not been easy for me and im sure it isnt for her. She agreed and said it would give her a chance to get her head straight and see if she missed me and wanted to be with me. I guess its now time to try and sort myself out and get on with things as normal.
Author beefolive Posted March 14, 2012 Author Posted March 14, 2012 So this has been a few days of not speaking to her. Im not going to lie and say its been great. It hasnt, its been pretty rubbish. Ive spoken to her everyday for the last 6 years. Everything in my body says i should be doing something to fix it like speaking to her and trying to make things right. Ive been close to giving in and doing that already. Im scared that she does come back and tell me she hasnt missed me, has no feelings and thats that.
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