nick d Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 (edited) Well long story short, Saturday night I met an AMAZING girl! She approached me and was very interested in me. We had some drinks together and we talked for about two hours. We had a STRONG connection and had a great time together. She was worried to tell me she has a 6 month old son. And she asked me if that was a "deal breaker" and of course I told her no, I love kids! She put her number in my phone as she was leaving and told me to text her today. So I did and we talked for a bit. But I could tell she was acting strange. We had talked about going on a date when we were talking Saturday and she said she really wants to. Then today as we are finishing up talking for the night, she sends me this: "Hey so last night was so fun and I think we had great conversation but I was thinking about it today you seem so down to earth and your attractive and you serm like one of the good ones but right now is just the wrong time I'm just trying to figure out some thing, so I don't want to lead you on until I figure some things out. So don't forget me maybe we can talk and date In the future. But I can't now. Don't hate me I'm just all about honesty and try to be sweet." I just don't know what happened? I'm guessing the baby's dad is still in the picture (even though last night she assured me he wasn't. Any ideas? Edited March 12, 2012 by nick d
one day Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Sounds like baby daddy drama. Also by saying what she said, she wants to keep you on the line, so she's interested but you arent her starting string. I wouldnt think much about it. Just go get another brotha:)
Author nick d Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Sounds like baby daddy drama. Also by saying what she said, she wants to keep you on the line, so she's interested but you arent her starting string. I wouldnt think much about it. Just go get another brotha:) Yeah it's just really weird to me though.. Because she asked me about my ex on Saturday and I told her we have been broken up just under 2 months. She expressed concern that I would want her back. And I told her I'm done with my ex. We don't talk and I even changed my number. I just think its weird she was so concerned about me, then she says that! Especially after saying she doesn't even talk to the dad anymore.. Just doesn't add up.
UBFeelinMe Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Maybe she's not ready for another man in her life being a single mother of a 6 month old baby. I can see how she just doesn't have the time. Don't feel bad.
one day Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 People can lie.? I would just let it go. If she calls/texts then cool if not, then oh well.
Author nick d Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Yeah, there was just something about this one! Here's how we finished talking: Me:Thank you for your honesty. And trust me, I won't forget about you! Your an amazing girl and it made my night just talking to you! So I'll be here if you ever change your mind. And if you ever just want to talk as friends, I'm fine with that too. Her:Thank you so much for understanding. you seem like a genuine guy! who knows what will happen, we may meet again goodnight Me:I just hope you don't sell yourself short.. I'm not saying I'm the guy for you. And I barely know you. But the truth is, you are an amazing girl. Your gorgeous, smart, and have a great personality! Just whatever you do, I hope you don't put up with a guy that treats you like crap! You deserve to be treated like a queen, and nothing less! And I hope we will meet again You have my number, don't forget about me either! Have a great birthday, goodnight. Her:Trust me you made a lasting impression! I won't forget
Author nick d Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Anyone think it's anything besides the baby's dad is still in the picture?
sid3 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I doubt its the baby's dad. I'd guess she is putting being a mom first.And it kind of sounds lik like you showed too much interest.Its likely that made her feel like she had to make a chchoice quickly.
Author nick d Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 I doubt its the baby's dad. I'd guess she is putting being a mom first.And it kind of sounds lik like you showed too much interest.Its likely that made her feel like she had to make a chchoice quickly. So I probably messed it up by asking her to hang out and go on a date, etc?
sid3 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Me:I just hope you don't sell yourself short.. I'm not saying I'm the guy for you. And I barely know you. But the truth is, you are an amazing girl. Your gorgeous, smart, and have a great personality! Just whatever you do, I hope you don't put up with a guy that treats you like crap! You deserve to be treated like a queen, and nothing less! And I hope we will meet again You have my number, don't forget about me either! Have a great birthday, goodnight. Her:Trust me you made a lasting impression! I won't forget I think you messed up by putting her on a pedestal. So you met Saturday nite and in less than twenty four hours you've already contacted her, by text message, to ask her on a date. Yeah, I definitely say you came across way too available. You didnt give her very much time to even wonder. Why would you tell her she deserves to be treated like a queen, and that she has a great personality. You have no idea, you only met her Saturday nite. Gorgeous, uh, yeah again not good. That sounds desperate when said at the wrong time. This is only my opinion, maybe I'm wrong. 1
Author nick d Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 I think you messed up by putting her on a pedestal. So you met Saturday nite and in less than twenty four hours you've already contacted her, by text message, to ask her on a date. Yeah, I definitely say you came across way too available. You didnt give her very much time to even wonder. Why would you tell her she deserves to be treated like a queen, and that she has a great personality. You have no idea, you only met her Saturday nite. Gorgeous, uh, yeah again not good. That sounds desperate when said at the wrong time. This is only my opinion, maybe I'm wrong. Honestly your probably right.. And I only texted her because she asked me to text her the next day. Damn and I really wasn't even gonna text her til Tuesday or so. Damn, shows how long it's been since I've been single. I need to re figure out the proper times to talk to girls and what to say and what not to.
sid3 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Honestly your probably right.. And I only texted her because she asked me to text her the next day. Damn and I really wasn't even gonna text her til Tuesday or so. Damn, shows how long it's been since I've been single. I need to re figure out the proper times to talk to girls and what to say and what not to. We all make mistakes. Sometimes it doesn't matter, she still for whatever reason won't have enough or any interest. If you consider the fact that you met her Saturday night, she likely went home an went to bed, that gave her about half a day before you contacted her. That's not much time, not to mention the clocks got set back an hour. The only thing I can say for sure, never use text messages to ask for a date.
Author nick d Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Actually Saturday night I asked her if she'd wanna go on a date sometime. I text her this morning but JUST to wish her a happy birthday. I guess now just leave it be and see if she contacts me ever again?
sid3 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 You may be better off losing her number. I'm merely speculating, but it sounds as though you may get tempted to text her again. After giving you a gentle let down, wishing her a happy b-day the next day is not good. I could see if some time had passed. Then again, you left it as she had your number and to let you know of she changed her mind. Persistence sometimes pays, more often patience is the better virtue. Who knows though, maybe she will prove me wrong and change her mind. I guess if you get sick of worrying over it you coild reach out to her again. That will forsure ruin any chances with her. That is the one thing I am sure of.
Mr. Savage Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Whats fishy here to me is that if she is such a nice caring person, why is she not telling you a real reason for not wanting to see you? If it was to be a mother she would for sure just tell you that. If it was anything respectful I'm sure she would have no reason telling you what it was. When you talked on Saturday night was there alcohol involved? Just curious.
Mr. Savage Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Also I think you got scared you were gonna loose her when she said maybe you could date further down the road and that is why you bombarded her with the "queen" speech in an attempt to win over right there. I've done the same thing you have before and I learned the right response is "Ok, sounds good. Maybe down the road if I'm still single we can do that. Good luck!" Just my 2 cents.
dispatch3d Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 This is ridiculous. Obviously she's the one doing something wrong not you lol. I just wouldn't reply to the text or try to forget about her.
FitChick Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 You had a lucky escape. She sounds irresponsible getting pregnant in the first place and now is dating while she has a tiny baby. Not quite like having a dog.
Motor35 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Yeah, there was just something about this one! Here's how we finished talking: Me:Thank you for your honesty. And trust me, I won't forget about you! Your an amazing girl and it made my night just talking to you! So I'll be here if you ever change your mind. And if you ever just want to talk as friends, I'm fine with that too. Her:Thank you so much for understanding. you seem like a genuine guy! who knows what will happen, we may meet again goodnight Me:I just hope you don't sell yourself short.. I'm not saying I'm the guy for you. And I barely know you. But the truth is, you are an amazing girl. Your gorgeous, smart, and have a great personality! Just whatever you do, I hope you don't put up with a guy that treats you like crap! You deserve to be treated like a queen, and nothing less! And I hope we will meet again You have my number, don't forget about me either! Have a great birthday, goodnight. Her:Trust me you made a lasting impression! I won't forget this was all a little too much. it is nice to compliment, but this is waaaaay too much from someone she met once.
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