SoMuchLove Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Why would my ex block me from facebook when he already unfriended me weeks ago? We hadn`t even had any contact since then. Why wouldn`t unfriending me be enough? I don`t get it. I only know he blocked me cause I could still see his profile partially when he unfriended me a few weeks ago. . .like his picture and some wall posts, etc. Then I told my brother (weeks later) how he unfriended me and he wanted to see if he unfriended him too. He told me that not only was he unfriended, but he was blocked! So I tried to look up his profile too and found out I was also blocked! Why would he wait so long and why would he want to block my brother? Neither of us have contacted him for weeks. I know he blocked us yesterday because we are in a mutual group on FB and up until yesterday I could see posts he made on that wall even though we were no longer FB friends. I never posted on his friends walls or the group wall that we are both members of, so that couldnt be the reason. Since he unfriended me, he cant see my profile and since I hadn`t contacted him since he first unfriended me I can`t imagine he would be worried about that all of a sudden. Got any ideas? By the way, he is the one who broke up with me even though I broke up with him a few months earlier. .but he begged for me back and foolishly I took him. Then it was like he was looking for an excuse to break up with me before I could and he was such a jerk during the whole break up thing. I tired to be the bigger person. . mature, focus on the positive, etc. . but he just wanted to be nasty. I guess I'm just curious as to why he didn't just block me in the first place or what would have made him do it out of the blue. And why my brother? They never even talked on FB at all!
TaraMaiden Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Because he wants you - and anything associated with you - out of his life. And if it means going to drastic lengths such as this, he will do it. Nobody ever has the privilege of knowing what is going through someone else's head. thousands here have tried, and they have failed, because there is no second-guessing the thoughts of others. Ever. Love turns itself on its head and manifests as hatred, aversion and distaste. It may seem excessive, but he's done it, so live with it. Be indifferent. Care Less. "He who cares the least, controls the most."
Author SoMuchLove Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Thanks for your reply, but I still don't understand the delayed reaction. If he wanted me out of his life so badly, then why didn't he block me initially when he first unfriended me. We haven't spoken or contacted each other in weeks, so why out of the blue would he just choose to block me. I thought he would have forgotten all about me since he unfriended me. I guess I don't see the reason to "block" me since we were no longer FB friends and I wasn't trying to contact him. I suppose I am secretly hoping that the reason he had to block me is because he must still really care about me and check my profile, etc. Otherwise why would he need to block me? Right? I'm confused.
rickys Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I think, he wants to move on completely. It may be possible that when he turns on Facebook, he visited your page and that take him back in to the past . That's why, he blocked you on Facebook....
Author SoMuchLove Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 So does that mean he'll never talk to me again, or is he just doing the guy thing where he needs space and completely cut me off in order to get over the break up. Is it just temporary???
TaraMaiden Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Who knows? Frankly, you're trying to second-guess him, which is what I tried to explain, is almost impossible. the question is never, "Why are they doing *such-and-such*?" The question is always- "So what do I do now?" and what you do is - Keep calm and carry On. Regardless. Ignore his ignoring, and just take it in your stride. In time, this will just be a stupid memory you'll wryly shake your head at, and smile at.... But for now, just let it go, and focus on you. 2
flitzanu Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 how about we ask you the same question...why exactly do YOU think he blocked you? did he block you because he's secretly in love with you and wants to be with you? or because he has no desire to see or speak to you ever again?
g450 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 He most likely blocked you because even if you unfriend, you can still see his posts on mutual friends pages. Blocking will make sure you see absolutely nothing from him and he sees absolutely nothing from you. My XW did this as well and she did me a favor. Now YOU need to block him from your mind. You sound obsesed with him the way I was with my XW a year go. It will be the heathier for you to just not think about it and stop trying to analyze what he is doing. It's over, so just move on with your life. What he is doing or thinking should be of no concern to you now. That is where you need to be.
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