one day Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I'm in utter confusion. I kinda got a good idea on girls but this one is just everywhere. Okay I'm 19, she's 22. She has 2 kids, and 2 jobs. The first couple days were amazing.. I stayed the weekend with her. We had a lot of fun.Then we broke up for like 10mins because we were moving to fast. Now its COMPLETELY different. When we talk, either text/Facebook messaging, she's short with me. On the phone, we only talk for like 2 mins and she says she's gonna call back. She never does until LATER. In person its completely different, she works at my favorite place to get gas and soda, so I usually stay there and talk for a good hour. Lmao. She's flirty, fun, and just always talkative. We haven't 'hung' out since last weekend. Seems like she's been blowing me off? Probably not, because she's a busy woman. Idk. What should I do? All I wanna do is for her to start acting like a GIRLFRIEND. I didn't text her back one day so she called and said that she texted.. And if I don't go see her at work she tells me to come up to see her? But then we text and she's SHORT with me? I like her. And she's amazing so far. Oh and we had plans to hang out for tomorrow and she 'forgot'
FitChick Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Why would you want to get involved with a young woman who works at a gas station and already has two kids? Does she live in a trailer? Do you live down South in the middle of nowhere? Are your neighbors Darryl and his other brother Darryl?
Author one day Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Because, I feel for her as soon as I seen her. I think shes the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. She has her own HOUSE. We live near St Louis. Nice neighborhoods. Frankly, the kids dont bother me. I enjoy it. That's the kind of guy I am. I want to be with her for HER. Not what she has or doesn't have.
Author one day Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Seriously? Lol there's a chance since we've already smashed twice..
Author one day Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 But for real guys what's going on with her?? It's like shes not acting like a girlfriend.?
USMCHokie Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 But for real guys what's going on with her?? It's like shes not acting like a girlfriend.? Because she's not your girlfriend...
Author one day Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Were a couple brah. She just don't act like it.
hotloader Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Because, I feel for her as soon as I seen her. I think shes the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. Don't be an idiot. Dating a single mother is one of the dumbest things you could ever do. Also, unless the father (or fathers) of her children died tragically, I'd put my empathy on the back burner if I were you. I'm gonna use a little analogy here in an attempt to help you out. Pay close attention, and absorb what I'm about to say....Alright, here goes..... I'm sure that this girl makes you feel really good. She's probably very attractive and incredibly charismatic, and you're absolutely smitten with her. When you're around her, your brain releases endorphins that make you feel absolutely wonderful. You can't get enough of it, and you're willing to look pass all of her negative attributes. The fact that she's a single mother of two at such a young age is the first red flag. The fact that's she's considering a 19 year old as a prospective father figure for her children is the second red flag, only this one is dyed red from the blood of a baby seal that she slaughtered with the retracting razor sharp vampire teeth that she keeps hidden from view. Let's get back to the endorphins that your barely post-adolescent brain secretes when you're in her company. Do you know what else causes a similar endorphin rush? Heroin. Heroin makes people feel really good. Now....Let me put this into prospective for you: If you involve yourself with this woman, it's the situational equivalent of shooting yourself up with a lethal dose of smack. It's gonna feel really, really good at first....But inevitably, you're gonna be totally screwed in the end. She's either gonna chew you up and spit you out, or you're gonna wind up taking on way too much responsibility at way too early of an age, and you're life is gonna be pretty much shot. Saint Louis is a large city. This is not the most beautiful girl in it. Find another one, or don't take my advice and wind up neck-deep in a world of $hit that you have only yourself to blame for. 1
Author one day Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Damn bro. I think you helped me so much. I'm just gonna have fun with it then
kaylan Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Hold your horses young buck. You are only 19....you need to slow your role before jumping into something with a 22 yr old who already has two kids. Think about that...two kids at such a young age. She doesnt sound like shes made the best decisions in life. Take it slow and stop being so starry eyed about this girl right away.
Author one day Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 So what should I do? Just take it for whats its worth? Just smash when she wants to smash? And do me the rest of the time?
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 So what should I do? Just take it for whats its worth? Just smash when she wants to smash? And do me the rest of the time? This girl will blow your Mcdonalds salary so damn fast you'll be living off the dollar menu the rest of your life! because guess how she got 2 kids? yes....from smashing..bro. And you know what? she'd dump you in a few months because you're not mature enough, you're too much of a little kid, and she has kids and a life to look after...so she needs to at least find a man that can at least make a few bucks and be a mature daddy... So don't make it number three or number four baby, you're way too young for that, you really have idea what you're playing with, this is a huge deal and you're in way over your head so take it from the people here except Hokie because he's laughing at you while slapping his kness....as was I in getting her pregnant. If I were with you I'd put my arm around you and say... "Bobby...I want u to takr gud look at dat dere sunset...I wont you to stare at the highway and run as fast as you dun dar can...and you come back, and only then...you're ready to get your G.E.D and go to vocational school to become a mechanic...so you put this little lady far back of yo miiind...she no good for you Bobby...Cause you a rockstar...and your tour around the world (St. Louis) has just begun..." Look, drop it, hopefully she was on the pill and you have a new lease on life....don't be foolin with them girls with kids bobby! and you cover the pecker with a those rubbery things! cause you gonna be in for a big hurt If you knock her, or anyone else up! No babies for you, in fact get a vasectomy until you're ready! 1
Author one day Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Hm. So just say **** it and find another? I kinda wanna just keep her around.. I'll just make sure I'm extra careful with it and just use it for what its worth?
JesseJames Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 For every move you make, you leave others behind. If you move too naturally, you lose pieces or worse. Chess teaches me this right fast. I commend you for wanting to step into a different universe. You could, however, instead go thousands of miles away and discover new species? Move wisely. The you ten years from now could be totally different. Many people sort of know how things are going to go for them in life. Fight, I say, to not be so indicative of the self. Fight like you have limited will.
Emilia Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Hm. So just say **** it and find another? I kinda wanna just keep her around.. I'll just make sure I'm extra careful with it and just use it for what its worth? Even though she has two kids, she is really immature. She is playing games with you. She is trying to see how far she can push you, how many hoops she can make you jump through - hence the passive aggressive nonsense with the calls. I know you are 19 and most people at your age are immature but I think if you want a girlfriend you should try to find one who isn't so emotionally high maintenance.
Author one day Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 So should I just break up with her?
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