he has my heart

[krissy von dee]

after getting out of a very abusive relationship mentally and physically i thought i met the one to bring me back to life. the minute i met him was a complete sexual attraction he made me feel good about myself and made me able to move on with my life. i became very attached to him. he in turn moved into my home and helped me take care of and showed much love for my children. he became very suspicious and always accusing me of doing wrong. in my career it involves hands on contact being in the medical profession. he became jealous of my relationship with my x husband. we share 5 children together he is still a great father and became accepting of my relationship with this new guy. as time grew longer feeling became more intense we were closer by the minute and i found myself becoming more and more attached to him. although my x had a place in my life we both were mature and stayed outta the courts(everything was done in the best interest of the children)! my new guy had a job and also owned a business that resently broke away from his partners he did maintainence my home and help me with my children but did not contribute one dime. i felt taken advantage of and was beginning to become very stressed and distraught.. i work hard come home and work harder to care for my family. i am also very active in the school system. he had no ambition no drive was not at all affectionate. but i loved him whole heartedly...he began to play on my emotions and when he didnt like something he would leave and stay at his parents house which was confirmed i would drive by!!! he had children is 41 and never married. i thought i gave him the dream life im attractive and i catered to his needs as a priority in my life. i basically traded in the old for the new taking over as almost a wife without papers to this man. 3 weeks ago he decided to move out back to his parents his commitment to me had ceased but we stayed in touch we have not been intimate since he hasnt made any attempts to come back in my life and since been more and more critical of who i treat as a client whom i speak to who is on my fb and what i do...last nite i decided to have a girls nite out and he basically told me never text him again....i know the smart thing to do is to move on...i just cant let him go for many reasons ...number one he loved my children and accepted me with 5 of them he made me feel safe and secure and we had an amazing sexual chemistry that ive never experienced in all my life....i do love this man and aside for his flaws i love to take care of him and would do anything to just spend forever with him...i think he knows no real love and has never experienced that at home or with another woman...if i could start over and make it work i would it just seems talking to him right now has no effect on him...he says i have lied to him and i think to be honest he is a very jealous person...ive done nothing to make him feel secondary in my life except my children and he was wonderful in that dept...any suggestions how to win back his love???

[wow04]

You might want to read your post. You went from one abusive relationship to another. This one isn't physical abuse. I did the same thing. Was in a physically abusive relationship then went to a verbal and emotional abusive relationship. It seemee better because I wasn't getting punched. In reality it was worse. I now have a man that is wonderful. No name calling, no mind games, it is open and honest. I have 4 kids and he accepts them. Don't let the 5 kids make you stay with someone who is going to play mind games with you. Love yourself and your kids enough to get into a healthy relationship.