4givrnt4gtr Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I broke up with my bf of two years about three weeks ago. He basically was my best friend as well as boyfriend. I pretty much did everything with him, discussed everything with him....ugh...i know i know bad idea to make your significant other your pretty much sole source of social life...but what can I say....codependent i am. In any case, Now that its over....good lord I am BORED out of my MIND! I mean, Im busy, like SUPER busy, with school/work etc. But I hate not having someone to talk to, or have dinner with or just watch a movie with. I hate not having someone to think about. Bah.. Im pretty much over him...actually it was a slow and grueling process in the relationship for me to get over him. His behavior pretty much killed any hope for us....so I dont even miss him or our relationship...Im just... bored What to do in this situation? As I said Im super busy with school so I have no time to go out and meet new people in like bars or stuff like that...and quite frankly even if i had the time i dont think i'd have the energy. I dont know. I just hate this...blah..feeling. Ugh..UGHHH Being alone sucks.
arts one Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 hey, I know how you feel. I broke up with my ex of 3 years about 2 months ago. Back then I still had a job and was close to some of the people I worked with who tried to help me through it seeing as I had lost my social group mostly consisting of people who were friends with him first. I lost my job about a month ago. I still had a month of uni holidays to go and nothing to do. I am still looking for work and have resumed class. the problem is, for that time I started contacting my ex again because I missed his company. I missed the friendship. I still do. He seems to think that there is a possibility that we might get back together because of this and I hate it. I just can't resist the urge to contact him though. I don't want a relationship beyond friendship because I am not sexually attracted to him anymore. I have kissed him since and it feels so very wrong. Very soon after we initially broke up I started seeing someone from work. Neither of us were ready for a relationship or dating, but it was definitely more than a friends with benefits type arrangement. We both had feelings for each other, mine perhaps stronger than his. Less than a week ago, he called off whatever it was we were doing saying that we were just friends. Largely because I came on too strong and because he knew my ex was so prevalent in my life. My point is, if you do start something else, make sure you have cultivated some new friendships. It is really hard. I don't even know that I am the right person to give you advice because I am going to my ex's graduation today because I promised him ages ago. Be strong.
cerridwen Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 What to do in this situation? As I said Im super busy with school so I have no time to go out and meet new people in like bars or stuff like that...and quite frankly even if i had the time i dont think i'd have the energy. I dont know. I just hate this...blah..feeling. Ugh..UGHHH Being alone sucks. Why not try to befriend those you're already exposed to through school and work? It's an easy way to expand your social circle. If you're interested in dating down the line, "friends of friends" are often a great resource.
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