heatherfeather Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 So I finally did it. I sent what TW Jackson calls a 2nd Chance handwritten letter. I am sure my ex will get it in a few days. Lets just hope he opens it and reads it instead of just tossing it. Although I am sad, I agreeded with the break up and apologied for any hurtfull words or actions I did.
TaraMaiden Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo-!!!!! Dammit.
Author heatherfeather Posted March 11, 2012 Author Posted March 11, 2012 (edited) Why do you say "NOOOOOOOOOOOOO"? I didn't state that I wanted to see him or that I am hurting or anything. It went something like this. Hey, Just a quick note to let you know that I agree with this break up. I admire and respect your decision that you are not ready for any relationship. I am also sorry for any hurtfull words or actions that I have said or done to you. I apologize for hurting you. Oh! Life is going great for me, I have had some fantastic opportunities and luck come my way! I would love to share them with you some time. Maybe in time when we can be friends I will but right now we both need space. Give your son kisses for me (He is 3 and adorable) Heather Edited March 11, 2012 by heatherfeather
Author heatherfeather Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Nobody agrees with this or disagrees? It is going out tomorrow in the mail. I didnt send via FB or Email.
johan Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 It's a nice note, Heather. You should send it, and then focus on your own future. Try not to think about how your letter affects him. He may not respond. Hang in there.
dwf40 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 i don't disagree with sending a letter, or one that agrees to the break up, etc...its just that this letter seems scripted and contrived? (i think that its the letter they suggest you write, ie, 'form letter'. and to me, that reads: "MOTIVE". also, i know they say to 'mail' the letter...but to me, that seems so odd. can you drop it in his mail box by hand or tape it to his door while he's at work one day?
johan Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I would like to know whether you truly agree with the breakup, or whether you're just trying to give him the impression you aren't hurting. If you are going to send a parting letter, it's best to becompletely honest, so you can be sure he knows where you stand.
Author heatherfeather Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 no if i go by his house to tape it to his door it would def seem like I am stalking him. He doesn't live near me. I kinda wanted to send it and t hen wait a month to get the rest of my stuff back. Right now I am not in the right frame of mind to do so.
johan Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Get your stuff now. That is not something to put off.
Author heatherfeather Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Honestly no I don't but I need to keep telling myself that I do.
johan Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 That letter is to him not you. You can tell yourself whatever you need to to get through this. But I'm sure he already knows how you feel about it, so he'll see through your words and probably sense some manipulation. Either be straight with him or don't send it at all.
Author heatherfeather Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 I have had no contact with him since the break up. So I kinda disagree with him seeing it as manipulation. I have had several awesome t hings happen to me since the break up so that isn't a lie either.
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