heatherfeather Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I keep going back and forth on this... what does t his mean.. I love you but not sure if i am in love with you
wilsonx Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 (edited) Loves you as a friend, not sure if they love you as a romantic partner Edited March 11, 2012 by wilsonx
ScienceGal Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I keep going back and forth on this... what does t his mean.. I love you but not sure if i am in love with you If I ever felt that way about someone, and I have, it would mean that I enjoy their company, maybe even being physically close (with or without sex). It means they're nice and I see wonderful things about them that I want in my life. It means they're dependable, responsible, they're a constant in my life. I'd be lonely without them. I love that they love me. But, keeping them around is selfish because I will never have the capacity to return eveything they offer. Saying "I'm not sure", means I'm not in love with them, and I never will be. It means you need to move on... 1
jus d'orange Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Heard exactly the same thing during my breakup. It means exactly what it sounds like. They aren't in love with you anymore. They still think you're a good person and (in the case of my ex, too) still enjoy you romantically. However, they don't feel in love anymore, and thus they think it's selfish to keep you when they know you are in love. It hurts. It feels cruel. Some people say it as an excuse. But it does mean it's time to move on.
Author heatherfeather Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Don't you think though that you can win the love kinda back? IDK It is hard for me to give on things without trying EVERYthing before I give up.
wilsonx Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Those type of breakups are GIGS breakups thats what people that go through gigs learn how to do.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Don't you think though that you can win the love kinda back? IDK It is hard for me to give on things without trying EVERYthing before I give up. Why should you have to try everything??? Is he some kind of prize? A guy who says that is wishy washy.
M2155 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Don't you think though that you can win the love kinda back? IDK It is hard for me to give on things without trying EVERYthing before I give up. But you can't DO anything to make him to love you, that has to be something he realizes on his own. He doesn't share the same feelings right now.
Author heatherfeather Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 It is just what I do and how I am. I don't ever give up on something unless I know I have tried everything.
CaliBabe Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 You can't try to make him love you again. That is something he has to do without force. You can't do anything but respect his space and let him find happiness. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 It is just what I do and how I am. I don't ever give up on something unless I know I have tried everything. You are wasting your time with this guy. Your persistence will drive him further away. The man wants space; give him what he wants.
Author heatherfeather Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 I know which is why I backed off and have had NC with him since the break up. We haven't even exchanged our stuff yet. I am waiting a month to do that so that I can keep my cool when we actually do exchange stuff.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I know which is why I backed off and have had NC with him since the break up. We haven't even exchanged our stuff yet. I am waiting a month to do that so that I can keep my cool when we actually do exchange stuff. I would just ship his stuff and be done with him. seeing him again will only reopen the wound.
Author heatherfeather Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 One of the biggest items i have is a car seat, and I am not shipping that. Money is tight for me right now.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 One of the biggest items i have is a car seat, and I am not shipping that. Money is tight for me right now. if your ex doesn't contact you, get rid of it. Don't contact your ex. If they want it, they will come for it.
Author heatherfeather Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 Yeah but I would like my stuff back that is at his house. That is why I am waiting a month to see if I am in the right frame of mind. I am getting stronger everday so I am hoping in a month I will be in a strong position to take it back.
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