vhshowdown Posted June 9, 2004 Posted June 9, 2004 Need some more advice guys...... My ex invited me to dinner last thrusday nite, i couldnt make it cause my bro was getting married sat, so he was coming over to get stuff ready, etc.... so i invited her and her roommate over for margaritas after they ate. Well she calls me later and says she cant make it.... Well then I tried to call her friday nite after the bachelor party, she was no where to be found... so go all weekend without hearing from her. Well, she now called me at work early this morning, before I got there. Then leaves a voice mail on my cell, stating that she has been up ALL nite doing laundry, and she found some of my clothes, that she has no room for them, and if she can drop them off to me sometime........ So, do I get the stuff back? Problem is I still want to get back with her...... Or as i am writing this I am thinking, do I just tell her, no I dont need them back, just throw them away?!?!?!?!!?!?!?! This way no contact, dont see her, etc.... Cause if I see her I want her back, and it sucks someone has such power over me.... please advise
BrotherD Posted June 9, 2004 Posted June 9, 2004 vhshowdown I know what you mean. I'm in serious NC contact mode for the exact same reasons. I get "spun" when I'm around my ex. And I am not giving away the keys to my soul to anyone. I also don't want to endure dissappearing acts during the weekends etc. I'm a firm believer if you hang around with your "motor running" you'll get what you deserve, ****ty treatment! It was good for me to read your post as it confirms why I am doing no contact. MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY EX DIDNT WORK!!!! AND I WAS ADDICTED TO IT!!! Aaaaaah! I must break the cycle and detox. Cold turkey. Etc. Only then will I be able to assess this relationship without "rose colored glasses on" AND IF WE HAD ANY LOVE WITH OUR EX'S, THEY NEED TO FIND US! NOT VISA VERSA They blew us out! The only thing I 'm worried about is if the ex takes NC as if I'm unapproachable. I'm not, I'm just not going to pick up where we left off. That's the catch 22 here. After taking time out to heal and get over it, how are the lines of communication opened without "losing face..." Any ideas?
Author vhshowdown Posted June 9, 2004 Author Posted June 9, 2004 BrotherD, Man you are so right. I like the quotes: I'm a firm believer if you hang around with your "motor running" you'll get what you deserve, ****ty treatment! AND IF WE HAD ANY LOVE WITH OUR EX'S, THEY NEED TO FIND US! NOT VISA VERSA They blew us out! That is so true, and looking back that is exactly what i am doing....... So I guess what I am gonna do is just not answer her calls for awhile.. One of the last times we were togther after the break up, she started talking about the past, etc... and I just said I dont want to talk about it, so as to start anew.. But now she is into this mind playing games, and she is very confused as to what she wants. I know she is. But instead of taking time to figure it out, she chooses to run. She is reaching out to me, but she is not sure........ Or she is playing me for whatever reason.... I should start looking for a new game to play without her.....
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