lola25 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I have been dating this guy for 6 months and he is working in a different city, that's why we can only see each other at the weekends- maybe once a month..he was here last week and we were talking kissing each other etc..I couldn't make love to him this time because i was on my period, the minute he learnt that I can not make love to him, he started to yell at me "since I met u my sex life is f***d up, I can not sleep with anybody, get outta hereeee"!!!!!!! also last week I caught him glancing at other women when we were eating in a restaurant..another thing ,he is soo much interested in the other people when hes with me, staring at them, talking to them about random issues ... He told me he loved me before, I heard when a men is in love , he treats soft and nice to his loved one. what he did to me last week was so annoying i guess.. what do u think? who is right or wrong?
joystickd Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 That is kind of an indicator of how he is and you should end it with him
mesmerized Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 What do we think?? Are you for real? You are the one in wrong. How dare you get your period??!!
mesmerized Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Break up with him and go work on your self esteem/respect as you don't seem to have any or you wouldn't be asking this question.
Author lola25 Posted March 11, 2012 Author Posted March 11, 2012 What do we think?? Are you for real? You are the one in wrong. How dare you get your period??!! Iam asking u a serious question, if ure tryin to make fun of people , i guess you should go and watch a comedy show!!!!
mesmerized Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Iam asking u a serious question, if ure tryin to make fun of people , i guess you should go and watch a comedy show!!!! My answer was pretty serious too!! It just takes a smart mind to get the point I was trying to make. You are with an abusive man who doesn't respect you and gets mad at you for things you have no control over. You shouldn't even be thinking now who is right and who is wrong. You should dump him and go for a guy who does respect/want you and trust me, sooner or later he will do the dumping if you don't.
ThatDudeXO Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Long story short, Dump him. He's not right for you at all. You either do that or enjoy being abused and disrespected
FitChick Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 we can only see each other at the weekends- maybe once a month...I couldn't make love to him this time because i was on my period, the minute he learnt that I can not make love to him, he started to yell at me "since I met u my sex life is f***d up, I can not sleep with anybody I seem to have a different interpretation of this scenario. Your boyfriend is sexually frustrated because he can only see you once a month. He has been faithful and not sleeping with anyone else. So this particular month he visits when you have your period. You can still have sex during your period, you know. Tell him to plan his trips around your period if it bothers him or you. Visit the week before maybe. Why can't you alternate trips and visit every two weeks?
denise_xo Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I seem to have a different interpretation of this scenario. Your boyfriend is sexually frustrated because he can only see you once a month. He has been faithful and not sleeping with anyone else. So this particular month he visits when you have your period. You can still have sex during your period, you know. Tell him to plan his trips around your period if it bothers him or you. Visit the week before maybe. Why can't you alternate trips and visit every two weeks? :confused: He might be sexually frustrated, but that doesn't give him any kind of license to treat her disrespectfully and to shout at her that she she has 'fu_ked up his sex life'. If a man said that to me, I'd be livid. It clearly isn't HER responsibility that he is sexually frustrated, and him taking it out on her in that manner is a big red flag waving IMO. And having sex on your period is a very personal issue which a lot of women (and men, for that matter) feel uncomfortable with. 3
Diamonds&Rust Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Regardless of who is right or wrong, the arrangement itself does not sound right for him. He doesn't want a 75% chance of having sex once per month, and I can understand why. It's a shame that he treated you poorly.
FitChick Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Regardless of who is right or wrong, the arrangement itself does not sound right for him. He doesn't want a 75% chance of having sex once per month, and I can understand why. It's a shame that he treated you poorly. He is probably more angry with himself for putting himself in this situation. He obviously liked her enough initially to think he could handle it. I don't like shouting, though, because I think mature adults can discuss things rationally.
Diamonds&Rust Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I don't like shouting, though, because I think mature adults can discuss things rationally. You're right; that's an ideal well within reach for most adults. On the other hand, not everyone with communication problems lack maturity. Additionally, we don't have the "full story," and sometimes people expressing strong emotions are experienced as shouting even if they're not really raising their voice. Either way, people make mistakes. The title of this thread made me think the post would be about something entirely different, also...
FrustratedStandards Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Seriously? You're asking what to do in this situation, and who is wrong? The fact that you are even asking this question explains entirely why you are in this situation. Smarten up girl!
threebyfate Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 He's not sexually degrading you. He's a douchebag. Ditch him like a used tampon. Fwoosh! 1
silvermercy Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Something in emily5's (and lola25's) posts makes me think he/she is a troll and maybe the same person... I don't know... Just a feeling...
silvermercy Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 lool silvermercy opened the same thread 11 TIMES between 1255 pm and 452 pm lool how dumb! go get a life! u dont have a job or smthn? HERE'S THE THREAD http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/316910-why-do-you-think-there-such-prevalence-women-who-fake-their-orgasms what' wrong with u? go get a life! (ud better go get a life or your brain will create more bull***t ) OK. Thanks for providing more proof you are a troll. Cheers. By the way, YOUR time and MY time zones are not the same, smarty. LOL
silvermercy Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Emily congrats! You are being reported for being a troll. Hurray!
silvermercy Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I have just reported you for trolling (not for your original posts but your subsequent ones). This is NOT the way normal posters respond to any suspicions about trolling. Your posts are very unusual to say the least.
silvermercy Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 (edited) ok i will report you too. For what? LMAO! That I mentioned you were being a TROLL? LOL Please do, by all means. I didn't break any rules. You DID with your follow-up posts, though. And I'm not a newbie. Edited March 12, 2012 by silvermercy
silvermercy Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 (edited) Yes, I'm scared now. LOL Another THREAT that breaks the rules I suppose. Look who's talking about miserable life if your posts are TRUE. You can watch my posts from afar then if you get banned. You DID break the rules. (I'm my own boss, btw). Edited March 12, 2012 by silvermercy
silvermercy Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 You know about figures of SPEECH? Don't you? What makes you think I'm not self-employed? Anyway, let's hope the troll banning comes soon for you. You're just proving me again and again.
silvermercy Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Yes, we should ban the EDIT button from all forums I suppose. You are not even a GOOD troll.
silvermercy Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Did you read my posts? I'm 29. I thought you DID! It's mentioned many times when people ask me. Oh my my... LOL Yeah, OK. Happy trolling dreams. Think of better ways to troll in the future. Obvious troll is obvious.
SadGrl Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Why are you using sexual manipulation against your boyfriend? Ones a month he sees you, and when he does, no sex...are you just friend without the benefits? If so, get a girl friend, not a Man with needs. Also, other posters are right, you can have sex on your period, so you just blowing air. By saying he is sexually degrading you, it is clear you hold some resentment against him, and thus not giving and withholding sex from him as punishment. His reaction to no sex, builds in your mind, idea that you are right to do so.....
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